My girlfriend is making me feel unimportant.

[martyrbf777]

When were still in college, my girlfriend was already making me feel unwanted. She seldom made time for me. We were both engineering students way back. Since it is a life-and-death degree, I understood her way of treating me. She was so busy aiming to the top that she forgot I was waiting for her to realize my presence. With her strict parents, I still understood why she became like that. Ukraine women are known for being family-oriented and she’s not an exception. When we graduated in college, I was glad not just because I survived the hell years of my student life, but also because I knew she will make it up to me. I was wrong because she was again busy with her career. I was busy with my career too but I always find time for her. I never make her feel unwanted. I wonder why she cannot do the same. I know there’s no one else. I do not doubt her love because I’m pretty sure she loves me just like how I love her. The only problem is that she’s making me feel unimportant. We already talked about it but same things happen after few weeks. How should I ask her to see my worth? How should I tell her I am always waiting for her? How should I ask her to prove she loves me? I am playing martyr and I know that. I just need an advice on this.

[mick01]

I think you need to build your self esteem some. It seems as though she has//is rejecting you, almost abusing you by leading you on, and you just accept this really bad treatment. If I were you, I'd move on from her and find someone who appreciates everything I have to offer.

[West Coast Sheriff]

When were still in college, my girlfriend was already making me feel unwanted. She seldom made time for me. We were both engineering students way back. Since it is a life-and-death degree, I understood her way of treating me. She was so busy aiming to the top that she forgot I was waiting for her to realize my presence. With her strict parents, I still understood why she became like that. Ukraine women are known for being family-oriented and she’s not an exception. When we graduated in college, I was glad not just because I survived the hell years of my student life, but also because I knew she will make it up to me. I was wrong because she was again busy with her career. I was busy with my career too but I always find time for her. I never make her feel unwanted. I wonder why she cannot do the same. I know there’s no one else. I do not doubt her love because I’m pretty sure she loves me just like how I love her. The only problem is that she’s making me feel unimportant. We already talked about it but same things happen after few weeks. How should I ask her to see my worth? How should I tell her I am always waiting for her? How should I ask her to prove she loves me? I am playing martyr and I know that. I just need an advice on this.

I don't know what age you guys are but I would re commend focusing on your career because that is the best thing you can do to stay in unison with her. Work towards similar goals and stay in a similar path.

And just stay together, maybe live together, and when the biological clock starts ticking, the phenomenon of that will bond you two for life. (I'm talking about having children when the time is ready, financially ready, etc.)

[Sailor Mars]

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