Why do people lose their virginity so early in our generation?

[WeebOOF]

Is it me or do people lose their virginity around 14-16 a lot more now than what I have read a decade ago, it used to be common late teens early twenties.

This discussion started with my group of friends today. I'm the only virgin in the group, they all have lost it we are all at least 16 or older. I'm not bothered that I am still a virgin but why do people have sexual contact at such young ages. I find it a bit weird as some people are still developing. My group are encouraging that I should have sex but I tell them I am not really wanting it now as I have no interest in it and relationships aren't my strong point (Confidence) so i never have anyone to have sex with even if i wanted to

So to sum it all up, what are your thoughts on having sex at under or just at the legal age, what are your views?

[ShineintheDark]

I think it's less that we do it more than previous generations since people have been screwing from the dawn of their sexual maturity since humanity began. We just notice it more cos we discuss it with our friends. Your parents' generation probs screwed around at 14 or so too. I don;t hugely judge since we all have sexual urges and as long as both parties consent and are of similar age, it's not my problem.

[logan2002]

Looking at family history, it seems until 80's people married in late teens, early 20's.

Something you don't ask parents, when they lost their virginties.

[Gvanni]

I think it’s the over glorification of a lot of things that shouldn’t be glorified and easy access to sexual knowledge that makes us “mature so quick”. Our generation is also the most depressed and suicidal, don’t know if there is much correlation but it is worth to point out.

[jamie_n5]

I don't know for sure about being much different than maybe our parents generation but I think definitely we are different than our grandparents generation.

[Alex_Swim]

Life Expediency was like 28 or so. You had to start early to have kids.

[Nnoki]

My grandparents had their first child when my grandma was 16
And i'm still a virgin so...

[Nicky47]

I think its peer pressure to fit in with their peers i think its foolish tho it should be when you love each other

[colton.S]

I think it is a lack of respect for them selfs

[ImJulia]

I'd say peer pressure plays a part

[inactiveguy678]

Ok I am so not down for all the shaming some of these posts have.

But from browsing the other threads, its seems like the older generation gave up and considered that children will have sex no matter what so all they could do is best inform their children and have protection. I would not consider this parent being lazy or lax. Its just a change of values system. They know their children will not settle down right away like they or their parents (baby boomers have) and to be adapt or protect children from further problems (like STI and unplanned pregnancies) they are being more proactive about it.

Personally, I think its mostly because of the fact that my parents never really established boundaries, due to age gap and older siblings do not feel the need to act as surrogate parent on such sensitive matter. Context matter to be honest. From what I hear from my siblings in their 30's (which is the last decade this thread seems to be talking about) it was normal to lose your virginity around 16-17 then so 12-14 isn't really that far away but still significant considering 12 is actually a preteen age.

[Katie2003]

If you look at statistics, young people in developed countries reach puberty earlier now than they did say 100 years ago, due to better nutrition and living conditions. My grandma tells me that even 50 years ago there was still a lot of pressure from parents and teachers and religious leaders to stay a virgin until you were married, or at least till you got out of high school. She says many of her girl friends lost theirs in the back seat of cars after the senior prom. Today, casual experimenting seems normal among my friends and I know some who are still virgins at 16 or 18, but it seems like most of them willingly had intercourse at 12 to 14.

[gurquenjen]

Since the dawn of time people have fucked, especially young people, because even if you tell them 'Don't do that or a baby will come out of there and also we'll shun you for not being a virgin because we're pissed that we can't trade you for X or Y to that family in the tribe over there etc.' teens are full of hormones, bodies that are just begging to fuck, and it's not like as a group teenagers are known for their impulse control...so, sex is the natural thing to happen, and that's fine--it would be better if there were things like ready access to birth control/protection for all involved, because now that we as a society can afford to wait to have children, teen pregnancy is just not that great a thing...while sex itself, provided everything is safe, sane, and consensual, is still pretty great.
People have always had sex at a young age, it's just that now we're actually talking about it.

[azurzg]

Early?

Lady Margaret Beaufort, wife of Edmund Tudor, was 13 when she gave birth to Henry VII in 1457.

Henry IV's first child was born when he was barely 15 (he was 14 at time of conception).

[Jordan99]

My great grandmothers married at 15 and 16 years old respectively. I think several generations ago, people got married and ultimately had sex at much younger ages. It does bother me though when I read posts where girls and guys are having sex at 12 and 13 years old. I don't think we are mentally or emotionally ready for sex at such a young age.

[Harrier]

I think EVERYTHING in life is perspective. Back a long time ago (like 100 years ago) it wasn't shocking for people to get MARRIED at 14 (occasionally younger)! But they were often virgins at marriage. I think Thousands of years ago they were getting married at 11 and stuff. 50 years ago I think people were having sex at 14 and stuff it just was taboo and therefore not talked about. Imo there isn't much difference between 12 and 14 (for some yes, but others no). Probably why people are having sex at 12 is bc of influence of media (tv, movies, music, magazines, etc) plus we get married so late (25-30) that nobody could possibly imagine waiting to be married to lose their virginity like it was possible to 50 years ago so why even try????!!!! Might as well get it over soon and experience life. Also religion is probably not as important now as it used to be and a lot of liberal religions accept sex.

[Jake445]

I think that sex is more prevalent in my generation because there is simply a lot of awareness around it. Everything from sex-ed starting in 3rd grade to porn being just a click away, more or less, plays a part in that. Plus knowing and having learned how to have safe sex makes it interesting and something to try. And I don't think that's bad in most cases.

[MagicGinnySurprise]

In a word, the internet. I don't mean in the sense of porn being everywhere or corrupting our morals or what not, although porn probably helps demystify it, but in terms of information. Our generation is the first one in modern times (since we all stopped living on farms) to have unfiltered access to information. As a result we can make decisions on the basis of that information, rather than fear or ignorance. And yes, people have always done it before marriage and before they were 18, but I think my generation is more insistent not just that we do it but that we should be able to do it and it's nobody's business but our own.

[annababy02]

I'd say peer pressure plays a part

I was thinking the exact same thing

[samuel15]

I believe it's more accepted and less of a taboo these days to have sex early, it's also a status symbol kinda so people want to lose it

[geanyna]

Are we reall earlier? i lost it at 13 – same age as my mum.

[MagicGinnySurprise]

Are we reall earlier? i lost it at 13 – same age as my mum.

I found out after I'd lost mine that my mom lost hers almost as young. Not that I wanted to know that....lol

[geanyna]

I found out after I'd lost mine that my mom lost hers almost as young. Not that I wanted to know that....lol

Haha i sooo know what you mean. Too much information :-))) My mum told me about her first time after she had tried to gibe me „the talk“... waaaaay to late lol

[MagicGinnySurprise]

Haha i sooo know what you mean. Too much information :-))) My mum told me about her first time after she had tried to gibe me „the talk“... waaaaay to late lol

I think mine was doing the whole midlife crisis thing. She kept wanting to be girlfriends and hear about my life and chat. I drew the line when she was talking about my dad's equipment:eek:

[geanyna]

I think mine was doing the whole midlife crisis thing. She kept wanting to be girlfriends and hear about my life and chat. I drew the line when she was talking about my dad's equipment:eek:

my mum and i are like best friends. we can laugh and talk and drink and party and have fun... but when it comes to sex we luckily have our own lifes. she doesnt tell me about her boyfriends equipment and i wont tell her about the dicks i enjoy :) works now!

[cinderfella]

Mostly coz parents are more busy and lenient nowadays combined the internet.

[MagicGinnySurprise]

I think maybe too it's that "the first time" doesn't have the meaning that it did for our parents. I mean sure they had sex young and before marriage, but they made a big deal about losing it, wanting it to be with the right person and be this magical, romantic moment. Even my oldest sister, who's 22, did that. She waited for the guy she really wanted (who she never got) and ended up losing it out of frustration at a Christmas party in college. In my case and for my friends, we just wanted to have fun, and sex is fun. It wasn't any more serious than that, so why not do it as soon as you feel like.

[Connordude]

Puberty is starting earlier than it used to
Peer pressure
Media glorification
Horny ppl

[Natacha]

I think it's because our social life developes much faster than it did for last generation. I'm not sure we are more horny than they were, but I think we are allowed to be more open than our grandparents allowed our parents to be

[Anna Kadlecova]

I was 17. I think that its not true...

And I had anal six manth before vaginal because I fwlt young and unprepared for losing mine.

posts merged ~Atlantis

[ashleigh7]

My mom says it's the internet....My grandma was married at 16 first kid by 18. So I'm not sure it's moving faster for our generation. But the sex exposure is about 1000000000% more on us with technology and stuff. Idk.. :)

[scott2002]

I've heard my grandmother talk about this a lot. She was married in 1973 and she told me when she was a teen she knew almost nobody who was having sex. And you had to be married to get birth control pills, and "rubbers" (condoms) were kept hidden and you had to ask the pharmacist to get them. Family and church was much more important than they are today, and she said most of her friends and classmates were married by the time they were 22 to 24. Today, she says she rarely sees anyone getting married that young, and nobody wanting to start having kids right away and having 3 or 4 of them.

[Atlantis]

Puberty is starting earlier than it used to
Peer pressure
Media glorification
Horny ppl

Please don't bump old threads :locked: