First time sex

[Nikki_1]

I am kinda worried about something and I'm hoping that you girls can help me out...
I met a really amazing boy last week at a party and we got talking and stuff, one thing lead to another and we have seen each other another 2 times last week and the last time we met we did some of the usual making out and kissing, nothing wrong with that but....
I'm seeing him again tonight and although I am excited about it I'm a bit scared that he might want to like 'go further'.
I have heard all sorts of stories about how much it hurts the first time you do it and it makes you bleed too. I do want to do it with him and the thought of it really turns me on but I'm scared that if it hurts like I have heard it does then I don't want to turn him off by screaming or something like that.
He is 4 years older than me too so I guess he has lots more experience.

Any tips or advice would be much appreciated... :whoops:

[Suzy18]

Hi Nikki, first you have to know if you really want it? You have that feeling now cos you like that boy.

When he really wants to go further tell him you're still virgin and you're the boss about your own body. When he doesn't understand that then he's not the right boy for you. Say that you want to take it slow but you have to take care of the fact that he has probably more experience and that he knows to get you excited so that you maybe want sex.

If he has feelings for you, he will only get excited when you want sex too.

:)

[angelina]

i am not experienced but i heard from my sis,cuz sis,friends etc., As others said you are the boss of your body..sometime that guy may be in urge to gratify his own lust..once the dealing over he will fly away..Have a soft enquiry about him directly from him or from his friends' circle.Don't be haste to offer yourself and land yourself in trouble.

[Jordan99]

Only do with him what you want to do. If YOU choose to go all the way, it may indeed be a little uncomfortable the first time and you may bleed a little bit. As the others have already mentioned, YOU are in charge of what you allow to happen to your body and if it is your choice to go all the way, tell him you are a virgin and he needs to be gentle and careful with you. If he's 4 years older and truly has all of this experience, he will know what you mean and how to proceed. If you're not ready for this, then wait.

[ashleigh7]

What’s been said above is absolutely correct!! It can be an amazing thing in the right situation and more importantly, the right guy. :) Really listen to what you want to do and are comfortable with. Have fun with your new man :) and hope all the best! ;)

[hayley2003]

I do want to do it with him and the thought of it really turns me on

what is about him that makes you want to have sex?

what makes you think you're ready? :)

[yeehaw]

Asking for sexual tips is not allowed. :locked: