how to overcome insecurities

[Sevun]

I'm 16, and I'm pretty close to finishing puberty. Idk if going through puberty gives you insecurities, but I guess my insecurities are mainly my face and my body...

1. I'm really skinny, and my shoulders are not very wide, and my posture is pretty horrendous... but I guess if I start eating more and working out more I will get bigger.
Do you think that would be a good idea?

2. I want to grow taller but don't know how? Can it be spurred through eating more, sleeping earlier, and exercising more?

3. Sometimes I wish I was just more attractive. My jaw is so weak, and my face is so long, my neck is so long, my face looks pretty flat, and I just wish I could look a bit better, or that my parents took me to visit an orthotropist when I was younger. I'm going to practise mewing (correct tongue posture and head posture) and see if that does anything.
Sigh, why can't I be more handsome like those models...

I know I've posted messages with similar themes to this one, but I guess I'd really like some reassuring messages and the questions above to be answered. Just some motivation so I can improve myself and feel more confident.

[ska8er]

Ur going thru puberty awkwardness
feeling self conscious of urself. In a
few years a lot of it will disappear.
I don't think all will tho. It depends
how u get ur mind off urself. The
gym and working out is a good idea
with eating a balanced diet. As for
getting taller u have to b satisfied
with how ur body turns out after
puberty. U may get taller but its
something u cant change as well
as ur facial looks. We all cant b
models so we have to live with
how we r.

[london98765]

Ur going thru puberty awkwardness
feeling self conscious of urself. In a
few years a lot of it will disappear.
I don't think all will tho. It depends
how u get ur mind off urself. The
gym and working out is a good idea
with eating a balanced diet. As for
getting taller u have to b satisfied
with how ur body turns out after
puberty. U may get taller but its
something u cant change as well
as ur facial looks. We all cant b
models so we have to live with
how we r.
spot on ^^^

[Harrier]

to a large extent you are what you eat and what you do and what you think. Eating is HUGE! If you eat crap you will feel and look like crap. If you eat healthy you will look and feel healthy. Then there are daily activities you can do. You say you have poor posture. Just concentrate on sitting and walking upright. Write down a cue on your hand or wrist to remind yourself to do it. Lift weights will help your posture and give you muscles. They say that sleep will help you grow (not really help you grow, but that LACk of sleep will stunt your growth, you can NOT grow taller than your genetics plan for you). Finally mind thoughts and confidence go a long way in how you present yourself. Good luck.

[Nicky47]

Be proud of who you are, don't ever let anyone else judgement of what you look like make you change anything about you. They don't have to live your life, you do, if the changes they force you to make or think about yourself make your life worse, they don't have to live with it. do what makes you happy, always

[Sevun]

I guess, it's just a nice thought imagining waking up with the face of a model. Do you know how much of a confidence boost that would be?!

Can anyone help me find a way to show that these models are no more or less human than we are?

[jamie_n5]

1. Eating well balanced meals is always best. Working out or exercise is also good for you.
2.Your growth is purely hormones and genes. You can't do anything about that. But again eat well and exercise.
3. We may all idolize modesl sometimes. I find normal looking people the most attractive myself. They also usually have a better personality than super attractive people. They tend to be stuck up and self centered people. Just be happy with who you are and try to be a good person.

[NormalTeenDudde]

Let me know if you figure this out. Lol

[Sevun]

Let me know if you figure this out. Lol

what's so funny?

[bpk1234]

You just have to realize that all of that stuff you may not like about your body or appearance is all in your head. All the flaws I find in myself someone else would always find them very attractive. We're all different, some tall,thin,short,chubby, hairy. No matter what it is it makes you, you!

Everyone's definition of "handsome" is different. I mean every mom out there calls there son(s) handsome. Remember beauty is in the eyes of beholder.

Real people are going to like you for who you are, not what you like.

[TWDjacob]

everyone has insecurities. you can't really directly change everything but you can help stuff. sleeping helps you grow, eating right and exercising can help you bulk up, etc. don't compare yourself to models because its all photoshop

[teenboyNathan]

The best advice I could give you is to don't compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own insecurities so it's not only happening to you. Maybe eating a high calorie diet and working out some could help you gain weight and get broader shoulders

[CuteGuy889]

IMO the easiest thing will be to put on some weight....It may need a bit of effort if you have a high metabolism. But once you brakes it you can easily fill out.

I too used to be skinny as hell till 15 or so....I actually was worried when I put on a bit....My GF is the one who made me feel secure...and in fact she admitted she fancy a larger, huggable guy than the bean-stalk I used to be....
With her encouragement, I started on a high-calorie diet...with much kinds of milk and creams etc...And now I've gone from 85lbs to 160 lbs in just 2 years...waist went from 26'' to 33''
I kinda get self-conscious when my friends/relations comment....but I sure love my fuller slef over my skinny self.