I need some advice!

[MalakaiSolheim]

So I've been friends with this girl for a while now (4-5 Months) now.

A few weeks back I was at the nightclub I worked in as it was my night off and me and her started spending time together drinking and dancing. Over the past 3 weeks we have been having spending quite a bit of time together and have had sex and what not. I was treating her like I would any girl, I was loyal and dedicated to her. One night I was working she came in hugging and kissing me but a few hours later my I was really upset to see her making out with another dude. She waited for me outside of my work until I finished so she waited 2 hours until we cleaned up and I could leave work. I spoke to her about it and just said a few of my friends saw it and she denied anything happened but a hug. When we was walking back to mine she decided to be upfront and said "yeah I made out with him, but it meant nothing". A few days passed and as she was upfront I decided to not be pissed because if someones honest I can't be pissed with them. Then a couple night later she sent me a text saying "I bumped into a ex of mine, I haven't made out with him and I'm not gonna". She asked me to meet her after I finished work so that she could talk about "us" and then decided to tell me she made out with him also. We headed back to mine and had sex, bearing in mind I lost my virginity to her so I don't really want anyone else. She blamed the making out with other guys on alcohol and every time she say love you she says its because shes drunk. When I say I love you she never says it back and it's very complicated because she says she really likes me and says she doesn't know what she want but is like " I like what we are but I don't know what we are". Now she says she's not the relationship type. What do I do? Keep her in my life or not?

[Tom_theflash]

Don't you really want anyone else except that unreliable and immature person?

[benlodge123]

Personally, i think only time will tell. I would keep her as a friend, and fuck buddy if thats what she is. If she isnt a fuck buddy, then just keep going as you are and she might realise what "you are"

[inactiveguy678]

Err... I have done something like this in the past. But the difference is we were significantly younger and we were exclusive at the start until the relationship started fizzling out. We just became fwb but it fizzled out in a few months. I mean if the sex is good might as well just use protection.

She is obviously not relationship material or is unavailable for one at this point. I think your sentimentality of losing your virginity to her is causing a sense of nostalgia.

[StacyD]

Seriously? First, there's only a tiny amount that YOU can do. If she doesn't want to be exclusive or have some sort of relationship with you beyond just fucking once in a while, that's all that it will be. Second, what is it you want? Do you want something serious? If so, you're really wasting your time with this girl. If not, and you just want something casual, then sure, keep her in your life for the occasional fuck. But don't get all butthurt when you see her (or hear about her) fucking or sucking off some other dude. From the sound of it though, she's made it clear what she wants and how serious she is. You can either accept it and go along with the flow, or say fuck it and move on.