I.ve Been Dumped!!!

[Abbeys]

After my recent thread about thinking about other boys http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=2044829

My b/f says he's just not in to me anymore.

WTF

[JustHaveFun]

I'm sorry to hear that. There are so many other great boys out there that would love to be with you. You will find another!

[Pultost]

Sorry to hear that. Hope you'll find someone else soon.

[Katie2003]

Sending you a big hug!!!!!! I'm very sorry to hear that, it's happened to a lot of us.

The truth often hurts, but is better IMO than being strung along when a partner just isn't feeling the same as before. The polite thing is to be honest with the other person and try not to hurt them any more than necessary.

Hope you find a new person to date soon!

[Barbara.]

Sorry to hear about your miss fortune. I have never dated and still waiting on Mr.right.

[hayley2003]

Sorry to hear about your miss fortune. I have never dated and still waiting on Mr.right.

oh, don't wait that long. you'll miss out on lots of fun. think of it as practice while you're waiting to find mr. right. :)

After my recent thread about thinking about other boys http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=2044829

My b/f says he's just not in to me anymore.

WTF

That's not a very nice thing for him say.

Please don't double post

[MikaylaP]

That really sux and for him to say that. You deserve better.

[Ashley2004]

I'm sorry, that sucks. Take some time for yourself and then move on to someone who appreciates you.

[Barbara.]

oh, don't wait that long. you'll miss out on lots of fun. think of it as practice while you're waiting to find mr. right. :)

It's not that I'm actually waiting,it's just no handsome boy is asking me out and mom says I can't date until I'm sweet 16 lol.

[hayley2003]

It's not that I'm actually waiting,it's just no handsome boy is asking me out and mom says I can't date until I'm sweet 16 lol.

my and my sister are not allowed to have a bf, but we can go out on dates if we go with a bunch of friends. i have had a few bfs since i was 10...lol, but i never told mom. mom is more worried about my sister than me because she likes boys too old for her; mom doesn't like when she flirts with older boys. i think that rule is good for my sister otherwise she would have a new bf every couple weeks. she is very popular with the boys at school and i have to listen to her yak about it when she get home from school. i tell her to write it all down in her journal, but she just ends up reading it to me. :)

[EmilyD4]

I’m so sorry abbey. I hope it’s for the best

[angelina]

After my recent thread about thinking about other boys http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=2044829
My b/f says he's just not in to me anymore.WTF
sorry friend,in your previous thread itself i advised to do according to your wish instead of hanging over on him when you suspected his fidelity..it is not too late.No more waiting .Go for another boy whom you trust.
Waiting is bad and cheating is worst

[Nikki_1]

I am sorry that this has happened, it just goes to show how immature some boys are. Remember... its HIS loss, not yours!

[Abbeys]

Thank you all for your kind words and advice.It's really helping.

The thing that really hurt and I don't understand is,he said "your boobs are too small".
They are tiny I know that and he knew that so why now?

Makes no sense.

Was that an excuse?

[inactiveguy678]

Excuse or not that is not a boy for you. The is not a catch no matter how cute he is because mocking your appearance is not cute.

No one raised properly should just say things like that outright.

I think its best that this happened early. Who knows what else he will say further down the line to get out of your relationship and make you feel bad.

Whoops i just saw this on new posts didn't see it was on puberty for girls! Sorry.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

Hiya Abbey sorry to hear about the position you find yourself in, And if that is what your bf said to you sounds like he was using you and could just dump you without any thoughts for your feelings. And it just goes to show he didn't deserve you.
Hope you find someone soon. Take Care. X

[TessTheGreat]

If he's more interested in the size of your boobs than he is in you then he's the wrong guy. And he won't want to go out with me either lol.

[EmilyD4]

Thank you all for your kind words and advice.It's really helping.

The thing that really hurt and I don't understand is,he said "your boobs are too small".
They are tiny I know that and he knew that so why now?

Makes no sense.

Was that an excuse?

Seems like an excuse to me! But I like girls with smaller chests so what do I know...

[Elysium]

Puberty for Girls :arrow: Relationships and Dating

I'm so sorry, Abbey. It does sound like an excuse to me too. If he was really so shallow as to dump you for something like that, you really dodged a bullet.

[Jinglebottom]

Thank you all for your kind words and advice.It's really helping.

The thing that really hurt and I don't understand is,he said "your boobs are too small".
They are tiny I know that and he knew that so why now?

Makes no sense.

Was that an excuse?
He sounds shallow and immature. Perhaps this is a sign that you should treat this breakup as less than a sad event, and more as the beginning of a new chapter in your life, where you may meet someone far more worthy of your affection.

[lliam]

My b/f says he's just not in to me anymore.

WTF


This often happens. After all, you thought about other guys yourself, right? Maybe he had similar thoughts about girls and made a decision.


Anyway, he didn't break up in the most sensitive way. Jerk.



But just see it this way:

Quite a few boys say goodbye silently and do not want to talk about it.

So, he said something after all. Albeit in a rather, let's say, a insulting way.


So just hang with your mates, distract yourself, blame him for what so ever when you chitchat with your friends about this guy. Or you could also create a voodoo doll from him and stick needles in the doll ... :D


And if you feel better someday ... move on.


Good luck.

[angelina]

If he's more interested in the size of your boobs than he is in you then he's the wrong guy. And he won't want to go out with me either lol.
well said..so it seems that the boy will be chasing on girls..exploring their boobs' size..no end to it..he is quite useless and better to throw him out..

[Char03]

Thank you all for your kind words and advice.It's really helping.

The thing that really hurt and I don't understand is,he said "your boobs are too small".
They are tiny I know that and he knew that so why now?

Makes no sense.

Was that an excuse?

Whether it was an excuse or not that is such an immature, pathetic and hurtful thing to say. He really doesn't deserve you. From your profile picture I think you are beautiful and any guy should feel lucky and proud to have you as a girlfriend. :)

[JessicaShy]

Hey Abby, so sorry to hear that and they way he said it. You are very pretty and I'm sure will soon find somebody who appreciates you

[Abbeys]

Thank you.

You have all been so kind.

I'm still devastated!!!!

I would have done anything to keep him.
Change the way I act,talk,dress even think if that's possible but I can't change my body,well,not at the moment I can't afford it.

So thanks again.


Abbey


XXXX

[Uniquemind]

Thank you.

You have all been so kind.

I'm still devastated!!!!

I would have done anything to keep him.
Change the way I act,talk,dress even think if that's possible but I can't change my body,well,not at the moment I can't afford it.

So thanks again.


Abbey


XXXX

Even if you could do those things, I’d advise against it having had friends who have attempted this.

Those who attempted this, ended up hurting the balance of other vital friendships in our social circle. One friend, because her boyfriend was so controlling (he was older than her too) I’ve just lost complete contact with at no fault of my own.


It’s okay to grieve, but it’s also important to know that changing the core of yourself wasn’t the answer, never was, rarely will it ever be a solution.


There are times where changing behavior (like negative addictions: workaholicism, drug, sex, hanging with the wrong crowd) or some behavior modification is needed to make a relationship healthy and balanced, but this situation is not that.

[ClaireHofmann]

Well, it happens. You just need to move on.