Is sex and love the same thing?

[Ifxzzy]

I had an argument today with a friend discussing if sex and love was the same thing. His answer was yes and mine was no reason. Why I think sex isn't love it's because you can have it with anyone and you don't have to love them it can be with a friend right? What if it's just for pleasure? I forget his reason about it but it really annoyed me because he added religion to his reason. What do you guys think?

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[Croconaw]

They're absolutely not the same thing.

[Karkat]

(I will start this out by saying that I love and appreciate your avatar)

In my opinion, it's entirely different. I guess it can be the same to some people in THEIR experiences, but it is a fact that no two people view sex the same way.

I agree with what you've said. You can have casual sex and not be emotionally tied to it.

I personally have only had sex with the guy I love, so casual sex seems foreign and uninteresting to me. Sex is pleasurable. It's a fun, exciting thing to do. I just think the emotional factor it CAN bring is what makes it so good. When I have sex with my boyfriend, it makes me feel so close to him. I trust him; I love him, and being close to him, and making him happy.

However, sex isn't my sole basis for my love for him, and so long as you're making good decisions, having casual sex is fine. Some people don't want relationships, but want to experience sex, or like sex.

I mean, unless we're asexual, we've got needs. :P

[ImAurora]

Not at all. You can have sex with someone and not love them, and you can love someone and not have sex with them. Completely separate.

[Synyster Shadows]

I think sex and love are two separate things.

[Ifxzzy]

(I will start this out by saying that I love and appreciate your avatar)

In my opinion, it's entirely different. I guess it can be the same to some people in THEIR experiences, but it is a fact that no two people view sex the same way.

I agree with what you've said. You can have casual sex and not be emotionally tied to it.

I personally have only had sex with the guy I love, so casual sex seems foreign and uninteresting to me. Sex is pleasurable. It's a fun, exciting thing to do. I just think the emotional factor it CAN bring is what makes it so good. When I have sex with my boyfriend, it makes me feel so close to him. I trust him; I love him, and being close to him, and making him happy.

However, sex isn't my sole basis for my love for him, and so long as you're making good decisions, having casual sex is fine. Some people don't want relationships, but want to experience sex, or like sex.

I mean, unless we're asexual, we've got needs. :P

Thanks for your answer I understand

[riverboy]

They are different

[Cygnus]

The White Padded Room :arrow2: Relationships and Dating

[Emerald Dream]

Sex and love are different things that often coexist.

You can have sex to express love, or you can show love to enhance sex. Neither is necessary to have the other one, though.

[Seemyheart]

In my opinion, they aren't the same.

[Smeagol]

Nope. Sex =/= love. Reason :

People pay prostitutes for sex. People have one night stands. People rape people. This is all sex. This doesn't have any love involved.

People can be asexual and still love other people romantically. There is unrequited love. That's romantic love. Also, people love their friends and stuff... that's not *generally* sexual.

[Melodic]

Sex is an physical attraction or is forced for money.

Love is an attraction in the inside and outside and can never be bought.

[Luminous]

Absolutely not. Many people have sex without love or love without sex. They are very different things.

[ksdnfkfr]

All I know is I do sex stuff with the person I love, but our love existed before anything sexual started and would continue to exist if it stops. Sex is good and really nice, but is kinda superficial. Love is much deeper.

[ninja789]

not at all

[project_icarus]

Well... sex is a physical act, something that you do. Whereas love is something that you feel. And circumstantially the two may or may not coexist.

[ScottishCanary]

Sex and love are by no means the same thing. You can have sex without love and love without sex. Yes they often go together but totally different concepts!

[mrpieface2]

Definitely not the same thing. If you have sex with someone that probably means you really love them but still not thing

[Dalcourt]

Love and sex are not the same thing. For some people it might be the same as they only have sex with people they love. But it's really to completely different things.

[ColinB]

i cant imagine anyone thinking they are the same thing.....100% not. You can mess around with someone and feel absolutely no love toward them.

[Charlie48]

sex is an act of doing, love is an emotion so they are different in that sense, though they generally go quite well together :P

[TheLivingLie]

One word... Rape

[backjruton]

You can love family members but you wouldn't have sex with them (in most cases.. :$)

You can love someone "as a friend" or think of them "as a brother/sister" and I know it's not as much as proper love but it is something people say

As has been said, asexuality. You can love someone but not particularly want sex with them. Personally, I "experience sexual attraction and drive, but not strongly enough to want to act on them" (I copied this off the AVEN wiki again) which is clear to me because I'm definitely attracted to one of my friends but as to if I would do anything else, I hate physical contact. I have no plans to lose my virginity OR have my first kiss, not in the near future. I would never kiss someone, It takes a lot for me to build up the courage to hug even family members and I think it would take a VERY long time in a relationship for me to have sex with someone. I think what I do with myself is enough to satisfy my needs, I wouldn't want to wait on other people anyway if I was in the mood for it and they weren't

Rape

Prostitution

I doubt people who film porn videos actually love eachother. Especially because on one of the websites I've watched it on, they say the sex is with their "Boyfriend" but on multiple occasions they've done this and filmed different videos with different boyfriends.

One night stands

Friends with benefits? I personally think that sounds quite stupid and not something I would go for

And you can be drunk and have no idea what so ever what you did the night before when you woke up in the morning

[Dwemer]

Not the same things at all.