How do I get other girls to pay attention to me and know that I'm available to date?

[Katie2003]

I'm fairly open about being bisexual but something like that isn't immediately obvious by looking at me, or anyone else as far as I can tell.

I want to make myself attractive to other girls, not so much to boys although I do date boys I strongly prefer the girls. I'm looking for clues as to which girls are bisexual or lesbian, but not picking up on them if they even exist.

How do you let girls that you don't know well or don't know at all but meet somewhere randomly, that you like other girls and are open to having them ask you for a date?

I am usually the more submissive person in a relationship and not exactly wanting to approach another girl that I don't know well and ask her for a date. But I would like more dates with girls, and to have dates with girls that I don't already know.

[BlackParadePixie]

So you're 15 and going around meeting random people you don't even know?

That seems really sketchy.

[Katie2003]

?????? I'm not clear why you think that? I meet people at church that I don't know since we have hundreds of people attending services, sometimes they bring friends or relatives along. I might attend a church service with friends at a different church sometimes or go with them to an activity in their teen group. I see kids I don't know at school events like dances, games, or club activities, who are in higher grades than I am so it's unlikely that I would know everyone at my school. There are kids who are home schooled that come to athletic events and dances, but I don't know them since they have never attended school.

Those are the sort of people I'm trying to meet with the possibility of getting a date. I may be wrong about this, but I think those places are pretty safe for meeting new people. I know I'm not old enough to go out trying to meet random strangers in public places.

[ska8er]

Look online to c if there r any LBGT groups
that meet in ur area or have a social network
on the web for personals. U can also go to any
dances or parties and scope out anyone who
seems to share ur same interests. First meet
and get to know another before u go up to
someone and give them the impression that
straight out that u r Bi.

[RCT109]

I'm fairly open about being bisexual but something like that isn't immediately obvious by looking at me, or anyone else as far as I can tell.

I want to make myself attractive to other girls, not so much to boys although I do date boys I strongly prefer the girls. I'm looking for clues as to which girls are bisexual or lesbian, but not picking up on them if they even exist.

How do you let girls that you don't know well or don't know at all but meet somewhere randomly, that you like other girls and are open to having them ask you for a date?

I am usually the more submissive person in a relationship and not exactly wanting to approach another girl that I don't know well and ask her for a date. But I would like more dates with girls, and to have dates with girls that I don't already know.

for me i try to make friends with them to see if im interested in them and then if i am i come out and say hey im bi do you want to grab coffee or pizza something casual and see where it goes

[Anneki]

i would also say that you could try online or with specific dating apps for girls or just Tinder. Then everything is clear before when you meet the girl and you don't have to make friends with her and then maybe loose her again because she thought that you were only friends when you come out to her. It can be very difficult with girls since we can be quite intimate with each other without the sexual part like go for a dinner, movie, dance, sleep or touch a lot. But quite a lot of girls would be curious but there also have to be a match like in every dating game.

[Katie2003]

Mom isn't OK with me using dating websites, but it probably wouldn't be very much help as we live in a smaller town that's not in a heavily populated region, the nearest big city is an hour away. I don't think there would be very many if any others my age that are bisexual or lesbian from my general area.

Yes, there has to be something you have in common as well as a mutual attraction for anything to work.

I'd be OK with going out doing fun things, then sleeping and cuddling and kissing as a start, even though I am OK with having sex with a girl on our first date.

[Melodic]

I'm that girl that everyone assumes is straight because I don't fall under the "bisexual" stereotype. I've noticed just being more confident and open about my sexuality to everyone has gotten more girls to pay more interest in me.

[Anneki]

I'm that girl that everyone assumes is straight because I don't fall under the "bisexual" stereotype. I've noticed just being more confident and open about my sexuality to everyone has gotten more girls to pay more interest in me.

How do you become a bisexual stereotype? I can guess what a lesbian stereotype looks like but a bisexual seems to me more difficult to identify from straight girls. Even though i know a lesbian couple and no one would guess that they are lesbians.
I thinks great that you are open about and i guess that a very few girls will avoid you. Eventually more will be curious or open up to you or what do you experience?

[Melodic]

How do you become a bisexual stereotype? I can guess what a lesbian stereotype looks like but a bisexual seems to me more difficult to identify from straight girls. Even though i know a lesbian couple and no one would guess that they are lesbians.
I thinks great that you are open about and i guess that a very few girls will avoid you. Eventually more will be curious or open up to you or what do you experience?


I don't even know how one would become a bisexual stereotype because I don't even think it exists. I just know I've gotten enough "You don't look like you're into girls" comments to make me realize I apparently don't fall under that stereotype. :lol:

[yeehaw]

It’s kinda hard to make yourself feel “available” around where I live, because there’s a very low ‘girls-liking-girls’ demographic. If you’re out, most people will know about it and tell others. The upside to this is that I am quite knowledgable about people I know who fall into the ‘girls-liking-girls’ category.

The problem here is not really knowing the person. As Maddie said, there isn’t really a bisexual stereotype and it’s not always 100% clear if the person is straight or not. Best way to combat this is be open about your sexuality and confident about it and present advances in more of a flirty manner.

[InternetTeen]

Just find some dating apps. I know a guy who is gay and he singed up for a dating site. He found another guy and now their in a happy relationship.

[Katie2003]

Well apparently at least one girl did figure out that I was bi, she's 18 and in my sister's grade although they aren't close friends she asked my sis if she thought I would be interested in going out with her. My sis introduced us and we have spent some time together walking home from school, and talking about things. We have our first date set up for Friday evening. Looking at her, I would not have been able to tell that she is bi. It simply doesn't show. I'm not sure exactly how she knew that I was since I have only seen her once in a while in the hallway at school. But my sis is a wonderful advocate for finding me a new girl to date!!!!!

[Anneki]

Well apparently at least one girl did figure out that I was bi, she's 18 and in my sister's grade although they aren't close friends she asked my sis if she thought I would be interested in going out with her. My sis introduced us and we have spent some time together walking home from school, and talking about things. We have our first date set up for Friday evening. Looking at her, I would not have been able to tell that she is bi. It simply doesn't show. I'm not sure exactly how she knew that I was since I have only seen her once in a while in the hallway at school. But my sis is a wonderful advocate for finding me a new girl to date!!!!!

How did it go?

[Katie2003]

How did it go?

Thank you for asking! Our date went much better than I could ever have hoped for! I realize now that I needed someone with her maturity. She was very respectful and made me feel wanted and loved right from the start. You have no idea how good that made me feel, since I have had issues recently about my size and appearance and I'm now up over 165 pounds. She's a bit bigger than I am but looks great to me, she's pretty and has a nice shape. But more important she knows how to talk to me to make me comfortable, and how to talk to other people when we are together. None of the other girls I have dated seemed to have those skills, or if they did, they sure weren't using them.

She proudly introduced me to her friends as her new girlfriend, or her new romantic interest to make it clear that we were dating and not just hanging out together. We held hands, or had our arms around each other's waists most of the evening. Several people told us that we were a cute couple. We had lots of fun going to two graduation parties, then went for a ride and stopped for a while at a spot where teens hang out. We mostly talked, but did end up making out. Then we came back to my house and she slept over.

She told me that she would love to teach me how to make love to another girl, as opposed to just having sex (which I have already done quite a few times) so I can see that she is really interested in me. She also gave me a beautiful baby doll shorty nightgown to wear in bed with her, saying it was much better to look sexy than to simply be naked together. It was a beautiful, loving experience unlike anything that I have done in the past with other girls which now that I look back were always just two horny girls trying to have orgasms together. Even with my sister it was never like this!!!!!!

So I think she will be very good for me as a partner, and based upon our discussions it sounds like she is interested in a long term friendship. I was warned by several friends not to get infatuated with her right away and end up getting hurt, but it seems like this has potential of becoming more serious as time passes. She is very positive about being together and exploring new adventures. I am very open to whatever happens, and remaining cautious about giving her my heart. But I can see that happening pretty quickly. I want to be her girl, and I think that's pretty clear to her by my actions when together. Of course my big sis is thrilled and calling herself a matchmaker this morning. ;) Mom really likes her as well and agrees she will be good for me because of her maturity and respect.