Me and my friend like the same girl

[InternetTeen]

Me and my friend both like the same girl. I used to talk to her quite often but then she stopped talking to me. Now she's always spending time with him although we still get along and she still chats with me. Do i just let her go? If they go out and break up should i go for her?

Update: She ignored us both and went for someone else. I've moved on :)

[Tom_theflash]

Idk, maybe this is one of those times when you just need to let the situation play out, and whoever wins, wins. Try your best to win over this girl by flirting, being nice, whatever, and if she ends up liking you, then that's great. If that happens, and your friend gets upset, just tell him that she chose you over him, and it was really all her decision, so he shouldn't be mad at you. If your friend ends up winning over this girl, my advice would be to handle it with maturity. Don't freak out or get mad, just accept it and move on with your life. There will be plenty more girls in your life to flirt with and date... I think this could be a good situation to practice exercising your maturity. If it comes down to the fact that you need to get over the girl, my advice is to distance yourself from her, and focus on someone new. You'll be over your crush in no time.

[ska8er]

As Tom said above-let it play out.
Keep being the friends that u r. In
case she finds out that ur friend is
not all that then u go step in.

[InternetTeen]

Idk, maybe this is one of those times when you just need to let the situation play out, and whoever wins, wins. Try your best to win over this girl by flirting, being nice, whatever, and if she ends up liking you, then that's great. If that happens, and your friend gets upset, just tell him that she chose you over him, and it was really all her decision, so he shouldn't be mad at you. If your friend ends up winning over this girl, my advice would be to handle it with maturity. Don't freak out or get mad, just accept it and move on with your life. There will be plenty more girls in your life to flirt with and date... I think this could be a good situation to practice exercising your maturity. If it comes down to the fact that you need to get over the girl, my advice is to distance yourself from her, and focus on someone new. You'll be over your crush in no time.

This is perfect advice. Thank you so much! :)

[jamie_n5]

I would back away and just be friends. She chose the other guy. I think it best for you to just look for an other right girl for you. You will find her. If she breaks up with the other guy don't pursue her just let her go unless you are still single and she initiates a relationship.

[rob246]

Me and my friend both like the same girl. I used to talk to her quite often but then she stopped talking to me. Now she's always spending time with him although we still get along and she still chats with me. Do i just let her go? If they go out and break up should i go for her?

hmmm this is a hard situation if it was me and i liked a girl and friend knew i'd like to think he'd back away? why not try talking to him about it?

[West Coast Sheriff]

It depends on how much she means to you. If she's important you can try to go after her more, worry about spending time with her and trying to squeeze him out. If you couldn't go against a friend, then let her choose. You can always be an option if chemistry goes bad or doesn't develop between them.

[Jordan99]

Idk, maybe this is one of those times when you just need to let the situation play out, and whoever wins, wins. Try your best to win over this girl by flirting, being nice, whatever, and if she ends up liking you, then that's great. If that happens, and your friend gets upset, just tell him that she chose you over him, and it was really all her decision, so he shouldn't be mad at you. If your friend ends up winning over this girl, my advice would be to handle it with maturity. Don't freak out or get mad, just accept it and move on with your life. There will be plenty more girls in your life to flirt with and date... I think this could be a good situation to practice exercising your maturity. If it comes down to the fact that you need to get over the girl, my advice is to distance yourself from her, and focus on someone new. You'll be over your crush in no time.

Excellent advice!

[StacyD]

She either likes you or she doesn't. From the sound of it, she doesn't. At least not in the way you want her to. It could be that she has no idea that you feel this way. If you think that's the case, just talk to her. Playing some long term song and dance where you try to "win her over" is not really a wise option. Unless you want to play that game and waste time on a situation where she may not even like you. Get over with and find out. Tell her how you feel, ask her how she feels. Go from there. Even if they are together and then break up, there's nothing for you to "go for" if she doesn't give two shits about you in a romantic way.

And p.s., don't worry about how your friend is going to react, he obviously isn't spending his spare time worrying about how you feel. So man up and just talk to the girl, lay your cards on the table. She'll respect honest, open communication more than anything else.

[Harrier]

Don't try to "win her over" by being someone you aren't. If she doesn't like you like a bf by you being yourself then the two of you aren't meant for each other. If you think it's worth pursuing her at a cost that may mean you lose both her and him as friends (potentially) then let her KNOW how you feel about her and see what she thinks.

[lliam]

. Do i just let her go? If they go out and break up should i go for her?


it's so simple in any case ... she decides

[Brent2003]

Gotta leave her alone here or you will be without her and your friend.

[benlodge123]

Me and my friend both like the same girl. I used to talk to her quite often but then she stopped talking to me. Now she's always spending time with him although we still get along and she still chats with me. Do i just let her go? If they go out and break up should i go for her?

For now, I would just let it blow over. If she goes for your friend, be the bigger man and dont let it bother you. Dont let it cause arguements between you 3. Its good that you are friends with her, friends are better than relationships in some cases. If they go out, and break up, you will probably end up being her rebound which is never a good thing, plus it will cause problems for you and your friend. Your best bet is to stay mates with her and see where it goes.

[InternetTeen]

Idk, maybe this is one of those times when you just need to let the situation play out, and whoever wins, wins. Try your best to win over this girl by flirting, being nice, whatever, and if she ends up liking you, then that's great. If that happens, and your friend gets upset, just tell him that she chose you over him, and it was really all her decision, so he shouldn't be mad at you. If your friend ends up winning over this girl, my advice would be to handle it with maturity. Don't freak out or get mad, just accept it and move on with your life. There will be plenty more girls in your life to flirt with and date... I think this could be a good situation to practice exercising your maturity. If it comes down to the fact that you need to get over the girl, my advice is to distance yourself from her, and focus on someone new. You'll be over your crush in no time.

She's ignored us both and gone for someone else. I've moved on :)

[colton.S]

let her decide don't push

[NewLeafsFan]

Assuming that she doesn't move back onto you or your friend, just remember two things in the future if this kind of thing ever happens again.

1) If you get her, don't brag and remember that you can still be there for your frind during this 'difficult time"

2) If you don't get her, don't lose the friend over it