I feel like my life is going nowhere

[TheRedViper]

I turned 17 a month ago, and yet my life seems to be in a constant state of motionlessness, never advancing forwards, only moving sideways. I have no job, no girlfriend, I don't go to parties and such, I don't play a sport, I don't even have my learners. I'm average at most of my classes, and only actually good at a couple, and am pretty bad at maths. I'm constantly sad and negative because one of my best friends and the girl I was in love with (cliche I know, but I really was. We were very close, and she loved me too, just as friends though, nothing more) has left my school and we pretty much never see each other anymore and very rarely text. All my friends around me are so social and cheerful, but I'm just drifting among them, brooding and feeling like I don't belong and am wasting my time. Heaps of people in my year level have very active social lives, which includes going to parties and having fun and going to work and talking to people there, and then there's just me, who I do none of these things. I don't like parties anyway, so I'm not too concerned, but since I don't have a job either (though I've applied at a few places) I am really limited in my social interactions, which is pretty much limited to my group of friends at school. I don't see myself getting a girlfriend anytime soon; not because I'm unattractive or unlikeable, since I know it's not the case, but because there isn't anyone in my year level that I would want to go out with, and I don't really have any other venues for getting a girlfriend. Though I have an account I don't use Facebook, since it bores and depresses me seeing all these people having so much fun and being so social. Don't get me wrong, I'm not antisocial or have no friends. I have quite a few good ones, but I've found I'm starting to drift away from them very slowly, and the only friend I truly cared about more than anyone (and she cared about me a lot too) is gone.

So basically, to summarise that wall of text, I feel like my life is being wasted and is going nowhere and making no forward progress. If anything I've gone backwards since this girl left, since with her I felt like a new, better person, but now she's gone and I've gone back to feeling negative and brooding. I still joke around and have a laugh and talk with my current friends, but it isn't the same at all. I like them on a basic level, whereas me and this girl had a much deeper and more caring and trusting relationship, and I felt kind of special cause she was the first female friend I'd actually had. I have one or two others, but it's completely different. So yeah, basically I'm feeling shit for a number of reasons, but mostly it's because of my good friend leaving and really missing her a lot, and cause I've come to the realisation nothing is going on in my life, and it's all so monotonous and unchanging and somewhat unsocial to a degree. I'm worried this won't change anytime soon. I'm not really the type of person that can just go out there and immediately make new friends. It happens more naturally and randomly for me.

[DiamondsGirl]

Let me sound like an old hag here for one moment: Jake, you're young. It's way too early to say 'I have failed in life'. I think the only reason why we get boyfriends/girlfriends in high school is simply to take a peek into the world of romance and commitment. It's not like you're planning to get married NOW, are you? :) regarding friends, you really don't need to be friends with people you don't like. If you do, you'd end up feeling like a phony. I think you just miss your friends right now. What about giving them a call? :) being heartbroken is just a part of teenage life IMO.. don't worry we're here to help you get over it x

[Living For Love]

You could try to spend more time with your friends, get closer to them, try to get involved in their activities. I guess you don't necessarily have to have a girlfriend to feel happy, at least for now. And that girl you really liked, she's gone now, but nothing's lost. You live in a big city, I'm pretty sure you can find another other friends that will be as caring and trustworthy as her. Just move on, don't cling to the past, find something, or someone, that can give a meaning to your life, and you'll be fine. This is just a phase, we all go through it at a certain time in our lives, you just need to learn how to deal with it.

[Croconaw]

I'm sure everyone has felt that way at one point or another. You have friends, so try and spend more time with them. Don't feel bad about not having a girlfriend because you're only seventeen. Some people don't even start dating until they're over age eighteen. Don't rush to find a girlfriend either. It's very unlikely that the first one will be the right one. Some people are naturally good at school, but don't feel bad because of it. You're average at school, but that shouldn't matter to you. It just means you need to study more. I'm sure there is something you're good at. You're only seventeen years old and I feel you're looking to far into things. It's way too early to tell because you still have your whole life ahead of you. You have potential, so go accomplish great things!

[KaraaaHope]

You already stated the only thing that matters as far as your relationship worries - that you don't feel there's anyone you want to date yet. That's the only reason you need! It won't be like that always, I promise.

You seem like such a sweet guy. I'm 16 and I know it's hard to have patience but it really is the best thing. You're only 17 too, so just go with the flow :) There's nothing wrong with you and it sounds like you're just SMART about your choices. Stay that way!

:) Big hugs

[TheRedViper]

Just wanted to share a weird coincidence with you guys that sometimes makes me question whether there is a higher power. So it was midnight and I was drifting off to sleep when my phone vibrates twice, indicating it was a text. I thought this was strange, since I never text people and vice versa... save for one person; one person with little to no regard for time and sleep. The girl I was talking about. As if she herself had read my earlier post on this forum, the first thing she says is "are you busy tomorrow?" I was so stunned by the sheer degree of the coincidence it was strange. I said I'm free the rest of the week, and she ambiguously said she has "news to tell me." Seems strange, normally she just comes right out and says this. My first thought was that she was pregnant, and for some reason wanted to tell me. I dismissed this though, since she has this rod thing in her arm that stops her from getting pregnant, but she then said she was getting it taken out tomorrow.... Something I would strongly advise her not to do, in her case. So yeah, she hasn't answered for an hour, since she normally replies at really random times, but yeah, I just wanted to share that insanely weird coincidence. It's 1am here, which means I'm incredibly awake and alert, so I thought I'd write a massive paragraph to fill some time between now and getting up for school in five hours XD