Anyone else have parents who still spank them as a teen?

[Katie2003]

My parents are awesome, but quite strict at the same time. They are the ones that other kids come over to talk to about things they can't or won't talk with their own parents about.

We still get spanked sometimes. I want to make it clear we are not being beaten or abused. But this is one of my parents go to methods of discipline. It is how both of them were raised, and they feel very strongly about continuing this family tradition. To be honest, I am very happy that my parents are strict with us and have rules and punishments, because I know too many other kids whose parents don't care and let them get away with anything. Some of my friends have told me that they wish their parents were like mine and showed concern for their behavior. Their other go to method of punishment is grounding, which has also happened to me a number of times. Sometimes if I do something really stupid, I might get a spanking followed by a period of being grounded. I feel that I learn from both, so whatever they choose is acceptable to me. I can't imagine being in a family where there were no rules or punishments, that would make me think my parents didn't care enough to set limits on what I could do, or correct me when it was necessary.

At 15, I am probably spanked no more than once a month, and I always deserve to be punished when it happens. It's never random, and never done out of anger. I tend to be a bit mouthy and talk back to my parents at times, and I sometimes still make really bad choices when doing things with my friends or at school.

They also still spank my big sis who is 18 and just now graduating from high school, she will be attending college in the fall. They already told her that as long as they are supporting her and paying for college, clothes, and a car, she is expected to obey them and follow their rules, and I'm quite certain they would spank her if they thought she needed one.

So, are any of the rest of you spanked? Could you share your age, how often it happens, and a few details of how your parents handle it?

[BlackParadePixie]

nope. never been spanked.

[Katie2003]

It seems more common in my area with kids up to about age 10 or 12. I do know a few my age or older who are still spanked, but that's only a small percentage of kids. The ones I know who are spanked are more likely to have really strict parents, and kids whose family attends church regularly. Most of the kids I know were only spanked a few times when they were little, if they were spanked at all. Many were never spanked even once in their life.

[Barbara.]

I haven't been spanked since I was a little child. Mom still spanks my little brother but he is only almost 3 years old and I'm sure once he's old enough Mama will quit spanking him too and punish him like she punishes me now. The way I get punished now is having my privileges taken away for certain amount time.

[Jinglebottom]

Spanking is weird and wrong.

[kro814]

I am a 13 year old boy. Me and my lil brothers still get spanked. Always on the bare bottom because that is a household rule. If you are asking --dad usually uses the strap -mom a paddle. If we are spanked at cousins our aunt has a wooden hairbrush.

[bonbon]

No. My parents consider it pretty barbaric to spank kids, and I fully agree with them. Nothing justifies violence, and yes, regardless of reasons and intensity, spanking is violence.

When I do something wrong, my parents try to explain me how that was wrong, and let me face nasty consequences that may happen. And usually that works, and I appreciate that they always treated me as a being with a brain, and not a dumb thing that needs being hurt to understand a lesson.

[Pultost]

I've been spanked ONCE, when I was a lot younger. I was impossible that day and wouldn't listen. It wasn't hard, it was more like a "snap out of it" slap. I don't think spanking is necessary to punish a kid. Take their phone away and they're in hell! xD

[Anneki]

No never....it's illegal here.
I also heard one say, when you start using violence you have lost the battle...

[Katie2003]

I've been spanked ONCE, when I was a lot younger. I was impossible that day and wouldn't listen. It wasn't hard, it was more like a "snap out of it" slap. I don't think spanking is necessary to punish a kid. Take their phone away and they're in hell! xD


I didn't even get a phone until I turned 15 last month, and it's the sort that mom can monitor my usage and know who I call or text as it all shows up in a daily report on her computer. Frankly, I'm not impressed with it and don't see the appeal other kids seem to find in their phones. So until recently, taking that away wouldn't have been an option.

Also, that other comment about raising kids and a battle, I don't think my parents see it as that, they are actually our best friends. To us that doesn't seem strange or unusual, they have always been that way since as far back as I can remember.

[Pultost]

I didn't even get a phone until I turned 15 last month, and it's the sort that mom can monitor my usage and know who I call or text as it all shows up in a daily report on her computer. Frankly, I'm not impressed with it and don't see the appeal other kids seem to find in their phones. So until recently, taking that away wouldn't have been an option.


Yeah, I wasn't serious. I just imagined that if that was an option, given how addictive people are to phones, it would've been a good punishment for anyone. ;)

[Katie2003]

Oh, I totally agree with you that it could be very effective for someone that uses their phone constantly. That just isn't me.

What would work with me (don't tell mom) is putting a lock on the refrigerator and kitchen cabinets. Take away my food for a day or two, and I would be really pissed, and likely to regret whatever I had done to get that punishment! Unfortunately that's not legal to do, and I am too well fed.

[andrea03]

My mom has never hit me.

[Anniebanannie]

My parents have spanked in the past. (I'm hoping it's the past,) I'm 18 now and it's been a while. It's just something that's done. So Katie and Kevin, I know what you're talking about.

[Katie2003]

My parents have spanked in the past. (I'm hoping it's the past,) I'm 18 now and it's been a while. It's just something that's done. So Katie and Kevin, I know what you're talking about.

Thanks for telling us, do you clearly see that this was done out of love, and not brutality? I agree totally with your words "It's just something that's done" and I'm positive my parents reason for doing it is because they love us and want us to learn from our mistakes.

I find it to be somewhat of an emotional reset, which is something my school counselor told me. She's another person who grew up getting spankings from her parents, and spanks her own kids now. She said that if you feel less guilty for what you have done and resolve to try not to make the same mistake again after being spanked, then your parents have been successful in what they are choosing to use as your punishment.

She says that from talking to other kids over the years, that probably 10% to 20% of high school kids in our area were spanked growing up, and many of them are still spanked at least once in a while in their mid to late teens. She thinks that some of them are ashamed to admit it because they don't want people to know they did something bad enough to be punished that way, or don't want to admit that they got a spanking.

[Anniebanannie]

Thanks for telling us, do you clearly see that this was done out of love, and not brutality? I agree totally with your words "It's just something that's done" and I'm positive my parents reason for doing it is because they love us and want us to learn from our mistakes.

I find it to be somewhat of an emotional reset, which is something my school counselor told me. She's another person who grew up getting spankings from her parents, and spanks her own kids now. She said that if you feel less guilty for what you have done and resolve to try not to make the same mistake again after being spanked, then your parents have been successful in what they are choosing to use as your punishment.

She says that from talking to other kids over the years, that probably 10% to 20% of high school kids in our area were spanked growing up, and many of them are still spanked at least once in a while in their mid to late teens. She thinks that some of them are ashamed to admit it because they don't want people to know they did something bad enough to be punished that way, or don't want to admit that they got a spanking.

I agree. I absolutely know it's out of love. I've never been spanked when my parents were angry. I think some people won't admit it because they figure they'll get a judgmental reaction. Even in this thread there was judgement.

[NewLeafsFan]

In your post you have highlighted the two extremes. You mention your parents, who I think belong in the 1700s, and other kids who's parents don't bother to correct them. My parents are very relaxed with my little sister. So from experience, I can tell you it's a lack of effort and laziness, not a lack of caring or love.

Personally, I don't understand why you think it should be one extreme or the other. Parents can properly discipline their kids with timeouts, loss of privileges, grounding, etc. I often wonder, especially with teens, why it isn't considered sexual assault and not only a physical problem. In any other situation, puling down someones pants and hitting them on their ass would be sexual assault. And it should be.

[Sina-B]

NO, never been spanked.
I would never do that to my children too.

[lliam]

We still get spanked sometimes. I want to make it clear we are not being beaten or abused.

can't imagine labeling parents, who spank their children as awesome, even if they are like you described them.


There was a time I acted like jerk towards my mom, so she agreed I could living with my dad, cause she couldn't stand the war at home anymore.

Even there, she never spanked me or such. So, if your love your parents anyway, your parents should treasure that.

Nevertheless, they should question what they are doing wrong when they spank their kids, even if it's just a kind of spanking, you and your siblings can easily get along with.

[Katie2003]

It works for my family, and apparently for some other families in the US. I'm surprised to learn that it isn't commonly done in other parts of the world and was curious to see how many teens are still spanked.

Having grown up knowing nothing else and seeing other kids whose parents never make rules or punish them makes me appreciate my parents even more. They really are awesome people, and I'm fine with being spanked once in a while if they use it responsibly as a punishment. Quite honestly I would rather be spanked and have it over with in just a short time, than be grounded for a week or longer, or lose privileges. For me, it does help me learn a lesson and understand why I am being punished.

They do always lecture me and explain exactly what rule I had broken, or what I had done to deserve the spanking. I can easily deal with 10 minutes of this when it's done out of love.

[Bakingboy03]

I have never been spanked, my parents believe in more modern ideas (nothing wrong with parents who do just my family is not on board with it)

[TessTheGreat]

I've never had it thank god, it sounds cruel to me.

[evansk8]

No stranger to it growing up in TX. I remember spankings from my dad when I was really little but he's long gone now. MY mom just did a slap on the face. But I don't live with her currently due to health problems. I've been at my uncle who does spank with a paddle usually and its pretty terrible though my cousins seem used to it.

[kro814]

Texas is a big spanking state. Corporal punishment is practiced in all the schools.

[Freckles]

That is not true or even close Kro. It is legal but very few schools actually use it.

[Sina-B]

My father yes. But since a year less

Really? You got spank with 14 y.o.? shocking.

[Brigje]

No never....it's illegal here.
I also heard one say, when you start using violence you have lost the battle...

It is regarded as child abuse and illegal where I live as well.

Texas is a big spanking state. Corporal punishment is practiced in all the schools.

This is unbelievable for anyone living in a civilized country.

[Shiny Moon]

Last time it happened I was probably around 13 years old. If my mom or dad touches me now I would probably punch them in the face or something :lol:

[Katie2003]

I was spanked just the other day by mom, and it's only been a couple months since I was spanked by the gym teacher at school. It's just the way some families choose to discipline their kids. I don't think a lot of schools still use it as the main form of punishment, but I have had messages from kids in their teens who say they were spanked at school.

Beating is child abuse. Corporal punishment and ordinary spankings are not. From what I have learned doing some research and talking to friend's parents, it was way more common a generation or two ago than it is now, but it is still allowable within families and some choose to use it.

[Alicebae]

Ya me n my sis get spanked like last night I left a big mess out in
our kitchen and mom got pissed abt it cos she did tell me to clean a few times
Lolz but I jus usually stick ma butt out then it’s over not so bad

[ajcchick2001]

My parents are awesome, but quite strict at the same time. They are the ones that other kids come over to talk to about things they can't or won't talk with their own parents about.

We still get spanked sometimes. I want to make it clear we are not being beaten or abused. But this is one of my parents go to methods of discipline. It is how both of them were raised, and they feel very strongly about continuing this family tradition. To be honest, I am very happy that my parents are strict with us and have rules and punishments, because I know too many other kids whose parents don't care and let them get away with anything. Some of my friends have told me that they wish their parents were like mine and showed concern for their behavior. Their other go to method of punishment is grounding, which has also happened to me a number of times. Sometimes if I do something really stupid, I might get a spanking followed by a period of being grounded. I feel that I learn from both, so whatever they choose is acceptable to me. I can't imagine being in a family where there were no rules or punishments, that would make me think my parents didn't care enough to set limits on what I could do, or correct me when it was necessary.

At 15, I am probably spanked no more than once a month, and I always deserve to be punished when it happens. It's never random, and never done out of anger. I tend to be a bit mouthy and talk back to my parents at times, and I sometimes still make really bad choices when doing things with my friends or at school.

They also still spank my big sis who is 18 and just now graduating from high school, she will be attending college in the fall. They already told her that as long as they are supporting her and paying for college, clothes, and a car, she is expected to obey them and follow their rules, and I'm quite certain they would spank her if they thought she needed one.

So, are any of the rest of you spanked? Could you share your age, how often it happens, and a few details of how your parents handle it?

Sorry that I'm late to this, but reading how open to nudity and sex your parents seem to be, based on other posts of yours, this is somewhat surprising.

Anyway, my last spanking was when I was 16.

[colton.S]

I still get my butt busted

[kro814]

I still get spanked too.

[Leon2]

IIf someone tried to spank me I'd throw them

[Birds18]

I still get spanked if I really do something wrong like sneaking out of the house or very late for curfew.

[HeyCameron]

My parents have never spanked me and I'm glad for that ^_^

[Birds18]

You definitely know when you get spanked by my parents. You feel it the next day. I don't get spanked very often though.

[Katie2003]

You definitely know when you get spanked by my parents. You feel it the next day. I don't get spanked very often though.

My spankings are usually like that as well. I get spanked by mom maybe once a month or so. My big sis who will be 19 in a few days and going to college next month gets spanked more often than that, but she's really mouthy and back sasses mom over unimportant stuff, and constantly violates her curfew times.

[Birds18]

I don't get it often but when I do it's long and hard spanks.
If I was 19 I don't think I'd get spanked I'd probably get kicked out of the house.

[evansk8]

My mom never spanked me but she did slap me across the (face) cheek sometimes. More of a shock. I've lived mostly with my uncle over the past year and I got spanked by him a couple times. Not fun! But its over quick.

[Jordan99]

Spanking is a very old school method of enforcing discipline and should not be practiced now. There are better ways to correct errant behavior such as explaining to children how and why their behavior is unacceptable. My parents never spanked us and we turned out very well I think. My parents are also very educated and know how to influence and instill discipline without hitting.

[Brigje]

Spanking is a very old school method of enforcing discipline and should not be practiced now. There are better ways to correct errant behavior such as explaining to children how and why their behavior is unacceptable. My parents never spanked us and we turned out very well I think. My parents are also very educated and know how to influence and instill discipline without hitting.

Very well said.
It really surprised me to read that in a civilized country parents still spank their teenage children.

[Katie2003]

Very well said.
It really surprised me to read that in a civilized country parents still spank their teenage children.

I just looked it up and there are 19 states in the US which allow schools to spank students as often as they feel it is necessary. That's roughly 40% of the US. Our state is one of those. I believe that many of the kids whose parents attend church are spanking them and I have heard other kids say the same thing. It may be an old fashioned thing that has become a tradition in many families. IDK, our next door neighbors are about 30 and have kids who are like 9 and 6 and they get spanked when they misbehave. They told me I should spank them if they misbehave while I'm baby sitting them.

But in other countries, it seems parents and schools rarely if ever spank kids and I think that's why some people are surprised to hear it's so common in other places in the world.

My mom is a PhD in behavioral psychology and says she was brought up this way, there were 9 kids in that family, and she says it still works perfectly for her to use with us. So education has nothing to do with it at all. We get very good talks about everything and can ask anything without being judged.

[erik2000]

When I was younger I usually got punished with the belt but now it is more with the cane.

[Birds18]

Wow wow wow
I just get really long spanking never a belt or anything.
The spanking lasted until your entire ass is like a stop sign. Then 5 minutes of corner time

[Katie2003]

Wow wow wow
I just get really long spanking never a belt or anything.
The spanking lasted until your entire ass is like a stop sign. Then 5 minutes of corner time

5 minutes of corner time is nothing. My girlfriend's parents give her and her siblings a minimum of 1 hour corner time and she's nearly 19. I've had an hour corner time on several occasions, usually it's shorter than that though like 30 minutes.

[Birds18]

I think it would be more embarrassing being older and getting spanked.
I don't know if my parents will continue spanking me now that I have started getting Some pubic hair..

Although my cousin just turned 12 and he still gets spanked all the time.

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[Tim the Enchanter]

Wow wow wow
I just get really long spanking never a belt or anything.
The spanking lasted until your entire ass is like a stop sign. Then 5 minutes of corner time

RIP Brady... My parents don't do that, and I'm happy they don't.

[Brigje]

I just looked it up and there are 19 states in the US which allow schools to spank students as often as they feel it is necessary. That's roughly 40% of the US. Our state is one of those. I believe that many of the kids whose parents attend church are spanking them and I have heard other kids say the same thing. It may be an old fashioned thing that has become a tradition in many families. IDK, our next door neighbors are about 30 and have kids who are like 9 and 6 and they get spanked when they misbehave. They told me I should spank them if they misbehave while I'm baby sitting them.

But in other countries, it seems parents and schools rarely if ever spank kids and I think that's why some people are surprised to hear it's so common in other places in the world.

My mom is a PhD in behavioral psychology and says she was brought up this way, there were 9 kids in that family, and she says it still works perfectly for her to use with us. So education has nothing to do with it at all. We get very good talks about everything and can ask anything without being judged.

The USA (or some states in the US) have more very conservative laws that the rest of the western world frowns-up about.

And with all respect to your mom, but I am pretty sure that you won’t find spanking, as an effective means for correcting kids, in modern western behavioral psychology books.

But I better should keep my mouth shut, because otherwise some people would feel insulted, I gave my opinion in an earlier respons and I stick with it.

[Birds18]

Every parent is different. Also everyone's version of spanking is different Some people would say that it's child abuse. It's not like I'm going to call the police and have my parents arrested because I did something wrong.

[kro814]

I am 13 and still get spanked. Plus our school has corporal punishment.

[ShineintheDark]

I was physically disciplined as a child and I turned out pretty ok. My parents did scale it down as we grew up though to the point now where we pretty much are never hit, no matter what we do because, whilst physical punishment works in young children, it lessens its effect on older peo0le as they grow older and more resistant to it. In addition, little children are gonna be little shits no matter how much you try and explain things to them whereas at our age, we are more likely to understand the meaning and consequences of our actions so don;t need physical pain to take its place.

[Birds18]

I'm sure the spanking wont last much longer. I'm I won't be spanked at 14
I don't think you would spank kids once puberty starts.

[kyle2003]

My brothers and I have never been spanked. That doesn't mean that my parents don't have rules or set high expectations of us. they just find other means to convey those to us and get us to understand the importance of them when we do something wrong without having to spank.

[centreoftheuniverse]

i'm 14 in a few weeks, and up until about four/five years ago i was slapped regularly, as was my sister, for misbehaving, etc. she's a year younger than me. and it's definitely not abuse - i am actually glad that i was punished in such a way, as it was good discipline from my parents.

the only thing is that since my two youngest sisters were born (they're now 6 and 10) they are virtually never slapped. and i can definitely tell the difference between myself and them - they won't listen to my mum, they don't use good manners, they're disobedient, lazy, etc.

what's worst, though, is that on the rare occasions they are slapped, there's also somehow a reason for me to be slapped. it really pisses me off - they're not properly punished, they can get away with anything, and yet i'm still bearing punishment for some things i didn't even do.

i think that spanking really depends on the family. as we live in such a modern society, i feel that spanking should be an extreme last resort. children do need to be punished, but properly, not just "i'm taking your phone away for the night" or something stupid like that.

if it was up to me, id be doling punishments like chores, extra schoolwork, etc. spanking should not be the first method of punishment, however i do think that it shouldn't be completely overruled.


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[kirsty_js16]

are you spanked as a punishment
i'm 14 in a few weeks, and up until about four/five years ago i was slapped regularly, as was my sister, for misbehaving, etc. she's a year younger than me. and it's definitely not abuse - i am actually glad that i was punished in such a way, as it was good discipline from my parents.

the only thing is that since my two youngest sisters were born (they're now 6 and 10) they are virtually never slapped. and i can definitely tell the difference between myself and them - they won't listen to my mum, they don't use good manners, they're disobedient, lazy, etc.

what's worst, though, is that on the rare occasions they are slapped, there's also somehow a reason for me to be slapped. it really pisses me off - they're not properly punished, they can get away with anything, and yet i'm still bearing punishment for some things i didn't even do.

[centreoftheuniverse]

are you spanked as a punishment

yes. are you?

[kirsty_js16]

yes to often
yes. are you?

[Anniebanannie]

yes to often

Yes, I think that just about everyone thinks this!

[Anniebanannie]

I'm sure the spanking wont last much longer. I'm I won't be spanked at 14
I don't think you would spank kids once puberty starts.

Have your parents told you that for sure you won't be spanked once you turn 14?

[Katie2003]

I'm sure the spanking wont last much longer. I'm I won't be spanked at 14
I don't think you would spank kids once puberty starts.

That's never made any difference in my family. I know plenty of kids in their late teens who still get spanked sometimes including my big sis who just turned 19 and got spanked today for being 2 hours late on her curfew time coming home last night.

[Birds18]

I'm sure she just got a few slaps on the ass. Not over the knee spanking

[kro814]

Over the knee spanking gets more embarrassing the older you get.

[Katie2003]

Over the knee spanking gets more embarrassing the older you get.

Which is exactly why some parents, teachers, and school disciplinarians continue this sort of punishment.

I'm sure she just got a few slaps on the ass. Not over the knee spanking.

Actually she got exactly the same sort of spanking we always get in our family. Bare bottom with a belt. I watched her being spanked by our mom.

[Birds18]

Which is exactly why some parents, teachers, and school disciplinarians continue this sort of punishment.



Actually she got exactly the same sort of spanking we always get in our family. Bare bottom with a belt. I watched her being spanked by our mom.


Wow Your parents don't play.

[TristanM]

I still get it from my dad but not from my mom any more. We have talked about grounding instead but that would mean missing practices and stuff and I don't want to get kicked off any teams so I kind of have no choice. It's not a lot though and at least I get to tell my side first because he knows my mom exaggerates everything ;)

[Taylormade]

My dad doesn't spank me as a punishment. He's very non-violent and uses different methods of punishment like restricting TV or internet.

[Chrisbm]

My dad still spanks me when I break the rules even though I am 19. I don’t get it that much like I did when I was younger.

[Katie2003]

My dad still spanks me when I break the rules even though I am 19. I don’t get it that much like I did when I was younger.

From what I have been told from other kids who were spanked starting at a young age, it's not uncommon for them to continue being spanked in their late teens. It has to do with living in your parents house, obeying their rules, and them supporting you financially. Out of respect for all that if you choose to continue living there, they are the ones in charge and have the right to punish you if they see a need.

I totally expect that I will be spanked at 19 because my older sister still is at that age, as I mentioned in an earlier reply to someone.

[kro814]

"My dad still spanks me when I break the rules even though I am 19. I don’t get it that much like I did when I was younger."

Wow Chrisbm, You are 19 and still spanked? That sucks big time. You are an adult and should be able to stop that.

[igorsero]

My parents still whip me regularly.

[Soccerboy2005]

I’m 13. And I still get spanked by both my parents. Over the knee and bare butt. I usually get spammed like 2 or 3 times a month

[marcxhk]

Caned counts?

[Katie2003]

Caned counts?

From what I understand, being caned is about the same as getting a spanking. That's what they do in the UK isn't it? Same sort of punishment, being hit on the bottom, either bare or over clothes but given with a different object, implement or whatever you want to call it is the only real difference, isn't it?

[TristanM]

OK but where do parents buy the canes? Belts and hairbrushes and slippers come from regular stores. Do they have Canes R Us in England?

[kro814]

Canes R US --Gawd, I hope not. That's an awful thought. I never heard of caning in this country.

[Katie2003]

Canes R US --Gawd, I hope not. That's an awful thought. I never heard of caning in this country.

I don't think it's done in the US. Mostly other parts of the world.

I had to look, there are places online that sell punishment canes so there must be some people buying them. I don't think I would like being punished with one. :(

[Just JT]

Imo spankjng is abusive
And no I haven’t been spanked, slapped, punched kicked or beaten in about 4 years (by famil) and don’t intend on letting it happen ever again

[bobbybaseball]

I don't think it's done in the US. Mostly other parts of the world.

I had to look, there are places online that sell punishment canes so there must be some people buying them. I don't think I would like being punished with one. :(


Not really a cane but I used to get the switch sometimes in grade school when I was really bad.

[TristanM]

I have gotten a switch a few times when we were camping. It stings.

[Katie2003]

I've been switched as well outdoors, usually while camping. My grandparents always seemed to prefer a switch over anything else when I camped with them. I think that must be real similar to what it would feel like to be punished with a cane.

[bobbybaseball]

Did you guys get your pants pulled down for the switch?

[kro814]

The switch is supposed to really hurt over a bare butt. It happened to a couple my friends that live in the country. They even have to go out and cut their own switch.

[TristanM]

Did you guys get your pants pulled down for the switch?

Yes or off.

[Katie2003]

Did you guys get your pants pulled down for the switch?

Yes, by my grandfather. Grandma let me pull them down on my own. I was always punished out in the back yard by them or in the woods while we were on a camping outing. And I always had to cut the switch off a nearby tree under their supervision. I understand that's how they were raised but that was a long time ago.

[erik2000]

OK but where do parents buy the canes? Belts and hairbrushes and slippers come from regular stores. Do they have Canes R Us in England?

My parents never told me where they buy the canes but they are very similar, just grow each year. I get one for each Christmas

[lbj3344]

I'm 13, and me and my siblings get spanked. Either the belt or a wooden spoon. Usually bare unless it's just a warning shot

[citycanuck]

I can't ever remember being spanked. Punishments have mostly been being grounded, loss of privileges, etc. I'm not really sure how I feel about spanking. I get that sometimes kids do stuff that can make parents angry or feel like they aren't able to manage their kids. I know I haven't been perfect. And people say that kids don't have any respect for adults anymore since they're not supposed to spank them. But then I think that maybe there's a difference between instilling fear in your kids versus having them respect you.

[Katie2003]

I can't ever remember being spanked. Punishments have mostly been being grounded, loss of privileges, etc. I'm not really sure how I feel about spanking. I get that sometimes kids do stuff that can make parents angry or feel like they aren't able to manage their kids. I know I haven't been perfect. And people say that kids don't have any respect for adults anymore since they're not supposed to spank them. But then I think that maybe there's a difference between instilling fear in your kids versus having them respect you.


I'm def not the least bit afraid of my parents, they are awesome people. In fact I have probably said this before, but my mom is the one other kids come over to talk to about stuff they can't or won't talk to their own parents about.

Spanking is very traditional in my family, and I know nothing is going to change that. I respect them and I know the rules quite clearly. They don't demand that we are 100% perfect all the time, but there are limits to every sort of behavior and some things that are (and rightly should be) totally forbidden.

It's just that sometimes I can be naughty, disrespectful, and insubordinate just like every other teenager I know, and I know full well what to expect if they catch me or find out.

[thatrandomguy01]

I have gotten a switch a few times when we were camping. It stings.

I assume you mean that you got a bare bottom spanking. If that is true, were you completely naked or did you just have to drop your pants and underwear down far enough to expose your butt? Have you ever gotten an erection from a spanking?

[big-girls-dont-cry]

I haven't been spanked in years but i have a friend who's parents spank her and her Brother . This past summer i was at their house when her Mom pulled her Brothers pants down and spanked him right in front of us .

[kro814]

That is the worst part of spankings is when you get it front of someone else. Big-girls-don't cry- see her post.

[Katie2003]

That is the worst part of spankings is when you get it front of someone else. Big-girls-don't cry- see her post.

I agree, I've been spanked in front of others more times than I've been spanked privately. Siblings, relatives, and friends have seen me spanked. You get used to it, there's no other choice.

[Jamesk0050]

How old was her brother and did his mom pull his pants and underwear all the way down to the floor so you saw everything, back and front?

[julienprod]

hell no they stop doing it at 8 lmao

[Chrisbm]

Yeah, my dad does the spanking though.

[Tim the Enchanter]

I haven’t been spanked in a long time, I’m always pretty behaved so I don’t have to be.

[evansk8]

My uncle uses a hairbrush. I hardly ever get it but sucks when I do. Don't live with my mom anymore but she was more into yelling and slapping me across the face.

[ChrisA1998]

Yeah, my dad does the spanking though.

so you get spanked at 19 yo ? wtf ??

[Oscar-V3.0]

I haven’t been spanked in a long time, I’m always pretty behaved so I don’t have to be.

Yes of course... Everybody knows that little tim is angel... :lol:

[Chrisbm]

so you get spanked at 19 yo ? wtf ??

My dad is old school when it comes to punishments. His house his rules

[ChrisA1998]

My dad is old school when it comes to punishments. His house his rules

that sure doesn't give him the right to hit you

[Tim the Enchanter]

Yes of course... Everybody knows that little tim is angel... :lol:

You know it my man ;)

[evansk8]

I certainly hope I don't get spanked when im 19. Rare now anyway

[kro814]

There should be an age limit for spanking kids.

[bonbon]

There should be an age limit for spanking kids.

Yes, and it should be set to zero.

[Oscar-V3.0]

Yes, and it should be set to zero.

No, sometimes little kids do deserve it :lol:

[Katie2003]

I certainly hope I don't get spanked when im 19. Rare now anyway

Tell that to my big sis Megan, who is 19 and away at college, but when she comes home to visit, she still gets spanked if she breaks the rules.

[erik2000]

There should be an age limit for spanking kids.

I'm close to 19 but I still get spanked a lot. But now it's more with the cane and not the belt like before

[TristanM]

You know it my man ;)

I vote for Tim to get spanked because angels are no fun :D

[Oscar-V3.0]

I vote for Tim to get spanked because angels are no fun :D

We are actually both angels and we are a lot of fun. :lol:

Ain't that right my little Tim the Enchanter ?

[bonbon]

No, sometimes little kids do deserve it :lol:
That they deserve it doesn't mean it should be done. I strongly believe there are other means to educate kids than by beating them.

I'm not alone beliving that, it seems: nytimes published just today an article about it (https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/05/health/spanking-harmful-study-pediatricians.html).

[Oscar-V3.0]

That they deserve it doesn't mean it should be done. I strongly believe there are other means to educate kids than by beating them.

I'm not alone beliving that, it seems: nytimes published just today an article about it (https://www.nytimes.com/2018/11/05/health/spanking-harmful-study-pediatricians.html).

I'll give you my youngest brother to babysit, then you may reconsider :lol:

[big-girls-dont-cry]

No, sometimes little kids do deserve it :lol:

I have to agree to a point. I babysit mt cousin sometimes and when he is out of control i'll remind him who is charge by "lightly" spanking him on his bare behind,

[theblue]

I have to agree to a point. I babysit mt cousin sometimes and when he is out of control i'll remind him who is charge by "lightly" spanking him on his bare behind,

I agree. They really do deserve it.
Though I don't get spanked at all.

[kro814]

How old is your cousin? Do you have permission from his parents to spank him on his bare behind?

[Oscar-V3.0]

How old is your cousin? Do you have permission from his parents to spank him on his bare behind?

Is that so relevant??

[Brigje]

I am still surprised that in some American families spanking still seems to be the norm to "correct" children, while it is unlawful in many European countries.

I just found this interesting read;
"Spanking Harms Children, According to the American Academy of Pediatrics (http://time.com/5445646/aap-corporal-punishment-policy/)"

[Katie2003]

I am still surprised that in some American families spanking still seems to be the norm to "correct" children, while it is unlawful in many European countries.

I just found this interesting read;
"Spanking Harms Children, According to the American Academy of Pediatrics (http://time.com/5445646/aap-corporal-punishment-policy/)"

It seems to be a long standing tradition in some families, and in certain parts of the country particularly in more rural areas and with people who attend church regularly. At least that's what I've learned from talking to people in my area and doing some research about it, and I think I've mentioned this before when this subject comes up.

Most of the kids that attend our church say that their parents spank them, but not all of them. Our state is one of the 19 states which permits and encourages spanking in schools, and in my school district it's apparently always been the preferred form of punishment. Mom says she was spanked at school and that was in a time frame from 30 to 45 years ago, and it hasn't changed since then. I still can get spanked at school and they use it in elementary, middle, and high school.

I don't see any of this going away or dramatically changing any time soon as it's basically a cultural practice. It would take several generations to make that happen from what I understand about cultural changes. I think they would probably laugh at the report from the Pediatricians organization since that would be considered "outsiders" to the parents who set the preferences and encourage the school board to continue that form of discipline.

[EthanMTX]

I guess its like cool reading this that I am not the only one that still get them. I get grounded and stuff like that too. But I still get spanked sometimes…not as much now and only for little kid behaviors. Yeah, they suck, it hurts, and you know it still the next day but I know my parents love me bc they never beat me. It's just more embarrassing now.

[evansk8]

Thanks for sharing Ethan. I'm in TX too and face the same thing. I guess its like cool reading this that I am not the only one that still get them. I get grounded and stuff like that too. But I still get spanked sometimes…not as much now and only for little kid behaviors. Yeah, they suck, it hurts, and you know it still the next day but I know my parents love me bc they never beat me. It's just more embarrassing now.

[Naturelover]

no, I will be punished differently (house arrest, TV ban)

[Caitigrrl]

No way never

[kro814]

You are lucky. Parents have the right to spank throughout the USA.

[Bri7]

Nope

[ShezzaD05]

I was spanked by my Mum a lot when I was growing up but it has not happened to me for a couple of years now. She still spanks my younger sister though and she has spanked my older sister just a couple of weeks ago so i know it could still happen to me. It is always bare bottom with her hand and I hate it because it is humiliating as well as hurting. my dad has never done it and I think that is one of the reasons i am closer to him.

[RileyX]

I used to be spanked as a kid but only at a young age, i think its not as common as it used to be and there are other non physical ways of punishment that are being used instead, but your sister being an adult shouldnt be spanked at all and should have a more mature "punishment"

[kro814]

I was spanked by my Mum a lot when I was growing up but it has not happened to me for a couple of years now. She still spanks my younger sister though and she has spanked my older sister just a couple of weeks ago so i know it could still happen to me. It is always bare bottom with her hand and I hate it because it is humiliating as well as hurting. my dad has never done it and I think that is one of the reasons i am closer to him.


Wow--how old is your older sister? She should not be spanked if she is an adult.

[ShezzaD05]

Wow--how old is your older sister? She should not be spanked if she is an adult.

She is nearly 16.

[Natacha]

I was never spanked. I'm not sure it's really a common thing to do in Denmark. I'm sorry for you who experience it

[Brigje]

I was spanked by my Mum a lot when I was growing up but it has not happened to me for a couple of years now. She still spanks my younger sister though and she has spanked my older sister just a couple of weeks ago so i know it could still happen to me. It is always bare bottom with her hand and I hate it because it is humiliating as well as hurting. my dad has never done it and I think that is one of the reasons i am closer to him.

She is nearly 16.

It must be very humiliating for a 16-yo girl to get bare bottom spanked by parents.

I feel sorry for all of you.

[kro814]

I am 14 and still spanked. I thing 16 is too old to be spanked although it's up to parents.

[Taylorrrb]

Absolutely not

[TristanM]

Absolutely yes. Ouch. But still better than getting grounded.

[Maxbreak]

I get shouted at, and sent to my room. Thankfully not spanked

[Beccabear]

I don’t think I’ve been spanked since I was 5 or 6, and usually my mom did it more than my dad

[Katie2003]

You are lucky. Parents have the right to spank throughout the USA.

It's still quite common in the USA apparently, but may be more common in certain regions than others. Kids in the UK have also responded that some of them get spanked but it seems less common there than it is here. In both cultures it seems to be traditional and continues within families for generations especially if the family knows other parents in the area who are also spanking their kids.

It must be very humiliating for a 16-yo girl to get bare bottom spanked by parents.

I feel sorry for all of you.

My parents still spank my big sis Megan and she's 19 and away at college. But she stayed out really late last time she was home for a visit, and got spanked when she came in after 3 AM. Megan knows full well what will happen and chooses to do what she wants rather than obeying the rules.

[Brigje]

My parents still spank my big sis Megan and she's 19 and away at college. But she stayed out really late last time she was home for a visit, and got spanked when she came in after 3 AM. Megan knows full well what will happen and chooses to do what she wants rather than obeying the rules.

a) It proves that spanking is a foolish way of correcting behavior.
and/or
b) Maybe Megan likes it to be spanked bare bottom?

[Katie2003]

a) It proves that spanking is a foolish way of correcting behavior.
and/or
b) Maybe Megan likes it to be spanked bare bottom?

Megan is WAY beyond caring about being spanked, or about how it's done. She's always been a brat, mouthy and insubordinate to our parents. She's gonna do whatever she wants to and if she gets punished she seems not to even care, figuring it's a good tradeoff for her being able to stay out half the night or whatever. To her, rules and curfew times mean very little and it seems to me that she's totally frustrating to have to deal with.

[kro814]

Wow--19 and still spanked on the bare bottom? Isn't Megan considered an adult now? I think that she should be able to refuse spankings.

[Adamant]

One good thing about being in care/fostered is that they are not allowed to hit you. Because of stuff that happened when I was little nobody would think it was a good idea anyway.
So not a problem i have.

[will2005x]

no never ever been spanked

[nudiegurl13]

It must be very humiliating for a 16-yo girl to get bare bottom spanked by parents.

I feel sorry for all of you.

Same. I think once you start growing hair down below you're too old to be spanked. I don't care so much about being naked in front of other girls now, but when I first started puberty I would've been so embarrassed to have mom (or anyone) see me naked especially from the waist down

[Katie2003]

Wow--19 and still spanked on the bare bottom? Isn't Megan considered an adult now? I think that she should be able to refuse spankings.

This all enters into the parents who are still providing home, food, clothing, paying for college tuition manner of thinking. My parents, and apparently many others who continue to spank older kids, feel it's their right to set rules and punishments for us until we graduate from college and get a job capable of supporting ourselves and move out of the family home. So for those reasons Megan knows she can't refuse if our parents decide to spank her since she is still totally dependent on them for everything she has, and for her education.

While she is technically an adult, she isn't out on her own, they are spending like $20,000 a year to send her to college, so they have the right to set rules and punishments and she agrees with that arrangement. Of course that won't stop Megan from pushing the rules, or doing whatever she wants. She's told me many times she doesn't care if she gets spanked and it won't stop her from doing the things she likes to with her friends. She doesn't like being spanked, but says it's a minor inconvenience.

[Deleted00]

I've never been spanked. Never been hit either. If my parent hit me, there'd be some problems.

[JQL---]

Sadly yes. Especially for stupid reasons.

[arnorway]

never got spanked in my entire life (and i have done some bad shit)

[kro814]

You are lucky and I also see that you are from Norway. I think spankings are less common in Europe.

[TristanM]

Yes people get spanked less and left handed on the other side of the international date line and they get spanked upside down in Australia and south of the equator. I read that on the internet so it has to be true. :D

[arnorway]

You are lucky and I also see that you are from Norway. I think spankings are less common in Europe.

i dunno about that as i have friends who sometimes get spanked. my parents are just not like that, i guess. they hardly ever yell either. it's a lot of talks with them, not just when i've done something stupid. like recently, they told me that i got puberty-moody a lot.

Yes people get spanked less and left handed on the other side of the international date line and they get spanked upside down in Australia and south of the equator. I read that on the internet so it has to be true. :D

:D

[benjs5000]

got spanked when i was little but not anymore

[Oscar-V3.0]

Yes people get spanked less and left handed on the other side of the international date line and they get spanked upside down in Australia and south of the equator. I read that on the internet so it has to be true. :D
"You shouldn't believe every thing you read on internet."

- Albert Einstein

[TristanM]

Happy new year. I hope every-butt-y survived the holidays :)

[Fuwod9giw9s9c9e9]

Happy new year. I hope every-butt-y survived the holidays :)

Lol, that was awful, please leave :D

[Oscar-V3.0]

Happy new year. I hope every-butt-y survived the holidays :)

Lol, that was awful, please leave :D
It was so awful that I LOL'd for 5 minutes :P

[Chrisbm]

Happy new year. I hope every-butt-y survived the holidays :)

I did! Did you?

[TristanM]

No candy-cane butt this year!

[xELENAx]

My Dad tells me that if i'm going to act like a little kid he is going to punish ,e like one when i mess up. Either he will have me remove my pants and panties or he will lecture me while he undresses me himself. Them he puts me over his lap and uses his bare hand. He never hits me too hard though.

[melissa16]

My last spanking was 2 years ago..my brother (9) still gets it sometimes.

[Socal dude]

Not by my parents but by my grandpa, usually if he finds out I’ve been bad or something dumb, he makes me pull my pants down I’ll just be in my underwear and he will spank me not that hard were it’s going to leave a mark, then he rubs it and tell me to be good. Last time was like a year ago

[breaux]

No. My parents have never been interested in physically abusing me.

[jenjen]

..sorry wrong post

[TristanM]

..sorry wrong post

Careful! You could get spanked for trespassing :D

[jenjen]

Careful! You could get spanked for trespassing :D

lol well i just remembered this account i opened it yonks back but was not allow to use it then ;) and was gonna say something about spankings in our house and my bff but thought probably not until i get to know more ) :)

[kro814]

Do you get spanked too Jenjen?

[jenjen]

Do you get spanked too Jenjen?

Not often now and none since last year ) my bff still does though :(

[TristanM]

Looks like everyone is behaving. Keep it up!!!

[Rachie97]

I’m from a pro-spanking family. My Mom and her 2 sisters are all big believers in it. I doubt I’ll spank my future kids but I don’t consider how we are spanked in my family as abuse. Sadly that’s not always the case in all families. I haven’t been spanked in a long time but my Mom often jokingly says that “maybe you need one” uh no, thanks.

[TristanM]

I’m from a pro-spanking family. My Mom and her 2 sisters are all big believers in it. I doubt I’ll spank my future kids but I don’t consider how we are spanked in my family as abuse. Sadly that’s not always the case in all families. I haven’t been spanked in a long time but my Mom often jokingly says that “maybe you need one” uh no, thanks.

I am from an amateur-spanking family but that's bad enough :D

[kro814]

Has anyone been spanked in a while? I got it the other night.

[Katie2003]

I'm actually learning to behave myself, only been spanked a couple of times since school started. That's nearly unbelievable for me~!

[Allover Kelly]

Parents never did, But I was with a guy that liked being spanked.

[Chrisbm]

Hopefully it’s been a while since everyone has gotten the belt

[evansk8]

I got one for cheating on a test. Wasn't fun but better than being grounded

[kro814]

Gosh, sorry to hear that Evan.

[Pultost]

I got one for cheating on a test. Wasn't fun but better than being grounded

That's fucking insane. For cheating? I do not dare think about what they would've done if you done something real serious. I'd pick grounding over violence any day, but that's me.

[kro814]

Some of us feel that a quick spanking is preferable to a long grounding.

[Red Light Bandit]

Fortunately this is not my case but I have a friend who is beaten even though he is 16 years

[Birds18]

I've been spanked probably twice since I turned 14.

I think it's better than grounding but you definitely feel it .

[Chrisbm]

Hopefully everyone was Spanking Free for November

[Adamant]

Some of us feel that a quick spanking is preferable to a long grounding.

A genuine question for those who have been spanked.

I have been beaten badly and other stuff which was definitely abuse. I am not saying it must always be abuse as i have a friend who was smacked and spanked a few times when he was younger and his family really seems loving and nice.....still dont get it though.
I really cant ever imagine hitting any kids i have though.

I get that it can be quick and over and done with and maybe its accepted out of respect that its your family way of doing it but....

At teenage stage it has to be done hard if its going to affect you and how do you feel about your parents wanting to hurt you?
O.k you might accept it but will you still use it for your kids?
Don't want this to get weird or argumentative but interested in any answers.

[Chrisbm]

Hope everyone has been spanking free in 2020 so far

[Katie2003]

A genuine question for those who have been spanked.

I have been beaten badly and other stuff which was definitely abuse. I am not saying it must always be abuse as i have a friend who was smacked and spanked a few times when he was younger and his family really seems loving and nice.....still dont get it though.
I really cant ever imagine hitting any kids i have though.

I get that it can be quick and over and done with and maybe its accepted out of respect that its your family way of doing it but....

At teenage stage it has to be done hard if its going to affect you and how do you feel about your parents wanting to hurt you?
O.k you might accept it but will you still use it for your kids?
Don't want this to get weird or argumentative but interested in any answers.

I have never taken it as my parents wanting to hurt me, I have always accepted it as their method of punishment. I seriously doubt they have ever wanted to hurt me just for the sake of hurt, they are not like that. The way I see it, when I get a spanking I'm supposed to be learning a lesson that I have failed to live up to their expectations, broken a rule or a requirement. Negative reinforcement works very well for motivation.

Fortunately I am now at a point where I don't get spanked very often any more, after my therapist figured out the reason why I was acting out and intentionally causing trouble so I would get spanked as a result. My behavior is prolly 1000% better than at any time recently.

I'm OK with them continuing to spank me in the future if they think it is deserved because I know it won't be very often.

Not being old enough to be a parent yet, I'm not positive how I would punish my own kids, but I do know they have to have rules and there has to be discipline involved. I see no reason not to spank them, and I also would not do anything excessive or cruel.

[Natacha]

I'm not too happy about the word "still" in your question

[kro814]

No spankings so far this year. I hope the trend continues.

[Birds18]

No spankings so far this year. I hope the trend continues.


Same here

[Katie2003]

Amazingly I haven't yet either this year so far, but did get one over the holiday break along with my older sis Megan, because we got into a physical altercation when she pushed me down. She got the worst of it.

[NoName2001]

Had the first spanking of the year last weekend. Mouthed off to dad

[evansk8]

Nothing yet for me. But my younger cousin got one. I heard it and it didn't sound good. We didn't really talk about it. Hopefully I won't be getting anymore

[HeyCameron]

I'm not too happy about the word "still" in your question

To me, it seems a bit inappropriate for a teenager to be spanked. I'm not a fan of spanking in general, but as a teen, that kind of contact seems wrong. I don't want my parents touching my butt, frankly. It's one thing for a younger kid, but I'm almost an adult and I have areas that are off-limits. :confused: But I guess things are different in other families and I can't really relate.

[kro814]

It was my turn to get spanked last night. Not a good way to start off the year.

[evansk8]

So I was an idiot and 1) missed curfew 2) let my phone die. My uncle told me since it was my second curfew violation I was gonna get spanked. He used the back of a hairbrush to do it, which he threatened the last time (guess he was serious). I feel fine now but in the moment it was not only humiliating but also painful. He said he was worried sick and that it was irresponsible to be late and not call. I asked him what would have happened if I called and he said I would have got spanked but not as bad.

[NoName2001]

So I was an idiot and 1) missed curfew 2) let my phone die. My uncle told me since it was my second curfew violation I was gonna get spanked. He used the back of a hairbrush to do it, which he threatened the last time (guess he was serious). I feel fine now but in the moment it was not only humiliating but also painful. He said he was worried sick and that it was irresponsible to be late and not call. I asked him what would have happened if I called and he said I would have got spanked but not as bad.

That sucks! Is that your first spanking of the year? Did he do it bare butt? That’s how my last spanking was. Two so far this year so not a good start I guess

[evansk8]

It was my first spanking since last November

[NoName2001]

It was my first spanking since last November

That’s not bad! At least compared to my record so far :D

[kro814]

All spankings in our house are bare butt. Like a rule and not a good one.

[NoName2001]

We only get bare butt if dad is really mad or we did something really bad. We usually get to keep underwear on

[evansk8]

I got it on underwear. Still hurts

[AustinAw3some]

I can't ever remember being spanked by my parents.

[evansk8]

I can't ever remember being spanked by my parents.

Lucky!