I feel like I'm losing her

[TrueCharlie14]

My friend has (undiagnosed) depression, she always tells me that she pushes everyone she loves away.
She's doing the same to me, I keep telling her that I and everyone else is there for her no matter what has happened in life, but she always replies with "it's fine" and "k" to stop the conversation.

She says she's incurable and okay with the fact and she doesn't realise that I'm not trying to force her into happiness but just to help her cope.
I like to think of myself as more mature and compassionate than people my age, and I can't imagine what she's going through but she always keeps secrets from me and it hurts. I understand everyone has a right to their privacy but when it's obvious that talking about something will help she always responds with the same thing. It hurts so much because she's one of the only people I've been close with, I'm not close with my family and the fact that she keeps shutting me is making me feel horrible but I know to keep on being there for her, I just... don't know how anymore.

[Ethan19]

Sometimes you just have to come to terms with the fact that sometimes things just don't work out. It could be because you grow out of each other, that you shouldn't be around each other etc.

Even though she has a mental illness, you have no obligation to make someone happy at the expense of your own happiness.

If I were you, and she responds like that, I just wouldn't strike up a conversation. Wait until they talk first next time. If they don't, dont bother talking

[Phosphene]

That is a very hard situation to be in. My empathy for both of you <3

I'm going to play the devil's advocate here and speak from your friend's position. I've been that person. I've been in such a dark place that I feel no one can help me and thus pushed everyone away. There's no justifying it, but I have been there and I can relate to how she's feeling.

Some of the best friends of my life all have something in common: they were honest with me and called me out for being a bitch to them and for getting so wrapped up in myself. You know people care when they can tell you things they know you don't want to hear. And when I wouldn't listen, they let me realize on my own that I needed to change. It got to the point I felt like I hardly had any friends, and I didn't want to admit it, but it was my own fault.

It's frustrating trying to be there for someone who's shutting you out. There comes a time when it feels hopeless. She's not going to say it, but she does need you. She already knows you'll help her. All you can do is wait for her to approach you.

I hope the best for your friendship :) please keep us updated.

[Just JT]

Unfortunalyy you can’t help,people who don’t want the help. Sad as it sounds you just kinda need to accept their choices. If you can’t you might wana look at why you can’t