I just came out to my family

[headhunterbg]

So less than an hour earlier I added on Facebook my relationship status with my boyfriend. My mom saw it and showed it to my dad. It was much worse than I thought,my mom didn't say almost anything,although I could see she was disappointed. But my dad said a lot of bad stuff about me, the worst is that he said he doesn't want me to life with them anymore and will send me to life with my grandmother,who is in another country.
My heart was beating like crazy in that moment,I couldn't even say something,I just listened to them.
I feel like my life just fell apart and nobody will ever care about me anymore. I don't know what I'm going to do and what's gonna happen with my life... please help,guys

[Jinglebottom]

I'm sorry, if I were you I would tell them it was a dare or a joke gone wrong I guess... you may have to lie and everything but it's better in the long run than being sent to whatever (most likely) homophobic country your dad was talking about.

[Phosphene]

I'm really sorry they turned out not to be accepting. Although the lying option doesn't sit well with me, if you do decide to go that route, give your dad some time to cool down before you do. Maybe sending you away was just an uncalculated first response due to his anger. I'd say not to get your hopes up about him changing his mind altogether but to be patient with him and try to have a civil discussion once he calms down.

[Ethan19]

As said, I would try and play it off as a joke. Although, it might be too late... My honest opinion is to not come out until you're at like university or something

[sofie04]

So less than an hour earlier I added on Facebook my relationship status with my boyfriend. My mom saw it and showed it to my dad. It was much worse than I thought,my mom didn't say almost anything,although I could see she was disappointed. But my dad said a lot of bad stuff about me, the worst is that he said he doesn't want me to life with them anymore and will send me to life with my grandmother,who is in another country.
My heart was beating like crazy in that moment,I couldn't even say something,I just listened to them.
I feel like my life just fell apart and nobody will ever care about me anymore. I don't know what I'm going to do and what's gonna happen with my life... please help,guys

I am so sorry :( You did the right thing and you should be proud of yourself. I think in time they will accept you.

[ska8er]

So less than an hour earlier I added on Facebook my relationship status with my boyfriend. My mom saw it and showed it to my dad. It was much worse than I thought,my mom didn't say almost anything,although I could see she was disappointed. But my dad said a lot of bad stuff about me, the worst is that he said he doesn't want me to life with them anymore and will send me to life with my grandmother,who is in another country.
My heart was beating like crazy in that moment,I couldn't even say something,I just listened to them.
I feel like my life just fell apart and nobody will ever care about me anymore. I don't know what I'm going to do and what's gonna happen with my life... please help,guys

Did u show them ur Facebook? Didn't u sense
that something like this would happen if u came
out to them. A lot of guys as well as girls think
that coming out to ur parents or friends is going
to make things right but in a lot of cases it only
adds more tension to u and them. U have to
always think things out before u make any kind
of declaration on who or what u r. For now just
let it ride with ur parents and don't bring it up.

[yeehaw]

This may be a bit of tough love, but they may have been more upset because you didn’t tell them personally first, thinking that they can’t trust you and that you’ve personally hid it from them. Obviously you can’t really go back in time to change that, but I can see why you came out by just posting it on Facebook rather than telling them as that is something I may have done if I wanted to come out to my dads side of the family (not happening lol)

As above said, try and keep it out of all topics of conversation as it may just rile them up a bit more and make them more mad. Things are gonna be more tense for a while but at the end of the day if they love you then they should respect your decisions. Personally I feel that your dad saying he wants to send you another country is a bit of an empty threat because he was so surprised/angry, I think when he starts thinking calmly and reflecting on his actions he will not carry out the threat.

I wish you the best and I remind you that you are not alone, everyone here will support you through this. Keep us updated and we’ll try our best to advise where we can.
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