Is 16 too old to get Grounded?

[Riley2015]

I just wondered because i am 16 and my parents still use grounding to punish me and it seems highly unlikely they will stop this until i turn 18. Does anyone else still get grounded at 16 or do you think its too old for being grounded? It's not like i can stop it, i am still 16 and still living with them so its not like i have an option to get out of punishments they impose.

[drhalsey1]

I don't think there really is a "too old" for grounding until you're actually like 18 and moved out or whatever. Plus once you get to be around 16 there aren't many other punishments they could impose, as things like spanking or whatever are for much younger, and grounding is something that actually works at it properly punishes by taking what is wanted generally, so as long as it's justified for what was done I guess it's all fine

[Riley2015]

I don't think there really is a "too old" for grounding until you're actually like 18 and moved out or whatever. Plus once you get to be around 16 there aren't many other punishments they could impose, as things like spanking or whatever are for much younger, and grounding is something that actually works at it properly punishes by taking what is wanted generally, so as long as it's justified for what was done I guess it's all fine

I pretty much agree with that tbh

[ska8er]

I just wondered because i am 16 and my parents still use grounding to punish me and it seems highly unlikely they will stop this until i turn 18. Does anyone else still get grounded at 16 or do you think its too old for being grounded? It's not like i can stop it, i am still 16 and still living with them so its not like i have an option to get out of punishments they impose.

The key words in ur post r "still living
with them". They r responsible for u as
long as u live in the same house. Ive
been grounded a few times mostly not
finishing chores or staying out too late
and not checking in. I'm an only so they
have a tight grip on me. Sometimes I feel
like a dog on a leash but I understand them
and they r cool.

[Caycedilla]

I don’t think it’s too old to be grounded. I’m almost 16 and most of my friends are already 16 and they’re still grounded sometimes. I agree that it’s about being responsible, both the parents and their children

[Riley2015]

I'm an only so they
have a tight grip on me. Sometimes I feel
like a dog on a leash but I understand them
and they r cool.

Same here, well except i am not an only child but yeah they have a tight grip on me too. I don't think they will loosen it much even when i hit 18 tbh

Sounds like we are both in the same boat

[ska8er]

Same here, well except i am not an only child but yeah they have a tight grip on me too. I don't think they will loosen it much even when i hit 18 tbh

Sounds like we are both in the same boat

LOL Yeah-I learned to live with it. Once
u leave home and u r on ur own u get a
little bit of freedom and ur responsible
for ur own self. Do ur parents have the
same grounding for ur other siblings?

[Riley2015]

Do ur parents have the
same grounding for ur other siblings?

Hell no, my other siblings are girls and they get treated a LOT more leniently than i do, really a lot more. Big difference in how they discipline them and how i get disciplined.

[ska8er]

Hell no, my other siblings are girls and they get treated a LOT more leniently than i do, really a lot more. Big difference in how they discipline them and how i get disciplined.

:lol: Sometimes some girls need more discipline. ;)

[HardCandyGirl]

I get grounded. Mom says "My house, my rules", so... fair enough, many times it's my bad. She says "even if you're 30, but still in this house, you have to follow some rules"... and what can I say? When it's my house I'll be in charge if she's living there or visiting... MY RULES "Mom, go to you room and think about what you just did" :D I know, I'm dreaming...

[lliam]

You also can see it this way:

Your mom, your dad got the dept, caring of you when they brought you to life. Thus, they took on the duty to raise you to a person who can take care of own as an adult.


However, this doesn't mean yo have any commitment tiwards your parents because your parents only pay their debt back to you.

So, as long as your parents haven't fullfilled their debt, their property is partly yours as well.

Your house, your rules. At least if it concerns your own life.

[Ben7]

Grounding specifically is acceptable till you're 18. And if you're living with your parents beyond that age, don't necessarily know whether you'd be grounded but you are still expected to live by whatever rules and standards your parents set. If you're older than 18, they may not ground you since that may be too old, but they might eventually ask you to leave if you end up doing something they don't like too often. But who knows, all parents are different I'm sure.

[Jordan99]

I don’t think it’s too old to be grounded. I’m almost 16 and most of my friends are already 16 and they’re still grounded sometimes. I agree that it’s about being responsible, both the parents and their children

I agree. I've been grounded at 17 for busting curfew. My parents were totally right and I was wrong.

[jamie_n5]

As long as you live at home you need to abide by your parents rules. I am 19 and working but still live at home. So I obey and abide by my parents rules and wishes still. It is just how it goes in my opinion.

[EvaNL]

I agree with others saying that if you live in your parents' house, you have to follow their rules.
As to whether grounding at 16 is too old or not, that's for your parents to decide.

You could discuss the rules and punishments. Of course, don't do it while are being punished, because usually emotions are high during this time and a discussion would most probably end up in a fight.
So, discuss it when everything has settled down. Think with your parents, not against them. I don't know, offer them something like "no more grounding, but instead take away my PS4 for a week" if they know you really like gaming on it, but you still would like to see friends.
Give them options as to what would hurt or inconvenience you if you really don't want to be grounded. That way they'll see you as more responsible person and they know you're thinking about it.

But, of course, you could just undergo the punishment. At some point, it will stop or you will move out.

In the end, it's still their decision.

[Katie2003]

16 is not too old to be grounded as my big sis is 18 and still gets grounded sometimes. I was grounded for two months once for something I did that was really wrong, and I accepted it.

We also still get spanked if that's what our parents choose to use as punishment for something. Do we like it? Of course not, but we realize they are strict with us because they love us and are concerned, so all in all it's a good thing that they make rules and punish us when we break them. They are really good parents, and we feel blessed to be a part of this family. Other friends of my sis and me come over to talk to my parents about stuff they won't tell their own parents, so you can see that they are well respected.

Other people have already said that as long as you live in your parent's house you have to obey their rules, and part of that is accepting whatever sort of punishment they feel is deserved or appropriate. While you could try to negotiate punishments at a time when you aren't being punished, it may not be very helpful. From what I can see in my own family and from what my friends tell me, parents tend to use similar punishments to what they were brought up with from their own parents, who are now your grandparents.

[pumpkineater34]

not to me

[Sandra123]

I just wondered because i am 16 and my parents still use grounding to punish me and it seems highly unlikely they will stop this until i turn 18. Does anyone else still get grounded at 16 or do you think its too old for being grounded? It's not like i can stop it, i am still 16 and still living with them so its not like i have an option to get out of punishments they impose.

Of course is not "too old" you are kid like me be good and obedient and everything will be great :)
And yes dad some time get me grounded

[inactiveguy678]

I don’t think so unless you don’t really live in your parents house “their house their rules". Case in point one my friends was raised by maternal grandparents and occasionally visits his real parents. After the age of 14 only his grandparents are allowed to ground him or give severe punishments since they know him better and through some stuff he felt estranged from his parents.

[london98765]

i am 14 and dont get grounded at all. i think 16 is way to old to be grounded, but like many others have said, it is your parents' house and you have to follow their rules

[DerBear]

It's a tough one really when you think about it. At 16 you really are becoming a young adult so really you shouldn't be behaving in such a way that'll get you grounded. However really the age in which grounding becomes completely obsolete is around 18 because by then you should be more independent.

The last time I would have been grounded would have been 13 or so...but then again I've always gotten on great with my parents and was always a bit more mature for my age than probably I should have been.

[JuliaVT]

It's not too old at all. If fact, it stings more the older you get.

[CuteGuy889]

The last time I got grounded I was 16.....My mom puts me in an outside room and usually takes my pants off too (leaving me in my undies) if I'm grounded so that its embarrassing to come out till night.

[nathanlee]

They're still your parents and they have to upbring you, you must behave :)

[HeyYo]

I don't think so. I think the last time I was grounded was 15. I'd say 18 is the point where you are too old, but also, you shouldn't even be doing things to get yourself grounded at 18 so...yeah. lol

[cinderfella]

On one hand since my parents know grounding me hurts I would say yes it is. But then again I get that limiting freedom is a good parenting tool coz parents can't hit children anymore.

[amazmain]

I’m 16 and my parents do not ground me. However I seem to be lucky as my parents are reasonable and don’t freak out over much

[samuel15]

You just have to not get caught, that's how you stop being grounded

[bunnyhabit]

their house so their rules when your 18 you can leave their property since adult and do what you want of course a bit more expensive.

[HeyCameron]

Nah, I don't think so, my brother got grounded when he was 16.

[Katie2003]

My 18 year old sis got grounded a couple weeks ago, but it was only for 10 days.

[Just JT]

Nope not to old at all. I’m almost 18and although I don’t get “grounded” an6more, I might have some privelidges taken away for some time. Like maybe I can’t drive moms car for a week for getting a ticket or something.
What they call natural consequences

[KristenM]

I don't think it's too old. You have to deal with the punishment if you break the rules or do bad things.

[Barbara.]

Mom has said and I agree as long as I'm living under her roof and must abide by her rules, and if rules are broken that would be a punishment.

[Harrier]

I have friends who get grounded for stupid things. But it's the parents house so their rules. But I don't think they are teaching good lessons imo. I got grpunded for stealing alcohol. I understood why I got grounded. I deserved it.

[Birds18]

I'm sure that I will be getting and spanked until I'm about 17

[kyle2003]

Well, if you break the rules, it is epxected they will punish you somehow, right? What other way are they suppose to punish you? Would you rather be spanked? I'm 15 and my parents ground me. They also ground my older brothers after they turned 16.

[BlackParadePixie]

lol, no way. I think it all depends on what you did though and how strict your parents are. Like...my parents are totally cool, but if I like shoplifted or something...yeah, I'd definitely be grounded. As long as you're under 18, you pretty much have to do what they say.

[Semi_IronMan]

That’s up to your parents to decide quite frankly, you live under their roof and they pay for your lifestyle so they’ll decide the best way to punish you if you do something wrong.

[erik2000]

I have never got grounded but I still get punished with the belt or cane at 18.

[Birds18]

I have never got grounded but I still get punished with the belt or cane at 18.


You get hit with a cane?

[erik2000]

You get hit with a cane?

Yes. When I was younger it was most times the belt but after 16 it is rather the cane. It hurts a lot more. :(

[Birds18]

Wow that's like slave stuff.
I just get a long steady spanking Until I'm howling.
I've never hadAn instrument to used.

[Croconaw]

It’s not too old

[Birds18]

I would think that the older you get the more effect of grounding would be.

[Beccabear]

I haven’t been in a long time but I know that if I did something my mom would still ground me

[Riley2015]

Yes. When I was younger it was most times the belt but after 16 it is rather the cane. It hurts a lot more. :(

Never been caned but i have had the belt

[erik2000]

Never been caned but i have had the belt

The cane hurts like double :(

[Chrisbm]

No. Your not to old to get Grounded or the belt

[Josh12jpayne]

It's probably fine. Just goalong with it

[everlong]

i don't think so. i got grounded when i was 17

[TrueCharlie14]

It depends on the person in question's actual maturity

[Katie2003]

It depends on the person in question's actual maturity

That might have some bearing on it, but I think it depends more on the parents line of thinking and what punishments they have used in the past.

[TrueCharlie14]

That might have some bearing on it, but I think it depends more on the parents line of thinking and what punishments they have used in the past.

It has to be on the maturity of both the child and the parent, if the child has shown that they can function on their own and be responsible then the parent must realise that they are growing up and becoming an adult.

[Katie2003]

It has to be on the maturity of both the child and the parent, if the child has shown that they can function on their own and be responsible then the parent must realise that they are growing up and becoming an adult.

So what sort of punishments do you think are appropriate for older teens, let's say 16 to 19 year olds? I'm curious because there aren't all that many options that I see being used with my friends and family members. I've been grounded a few times, but my big sis got grounded a lot more often when she was like 17-18.

[Suplad]

If they have something to hold over you (you live with them, pay for college, feed you...) they can still ground you, even with how much it sucks

[EmilyM]

I’m 16 and I still get grounded