My boyfriend doesn't have all i want ? Help me guys !!

[User13]

Hi guys !
Well , I don't know if someone has the same problem as me but I hope you will be able to give me some advice .
Well , about two years ago I fell in love with a guy who has an amazing energy that suits me just perfect . I thought my energy suits him too but that wasn't the case . He found a girlfriend and they are more than a year together . I am not in love with him anymore , but we are playing chamber music together and always winning all the competitions and having amazing concerts because of our energy . I still think sometimes we would be a great couple . But now i have a boyfriend too . And when I compare those two , I see nothing but sadness in me . I want a boyfriend that can give me something more than just a kiss on the lips , I want someones energy to make me feel like nothing can stop me . I love my boyfriend but he is just always the same , tired , exosted and he doesn't have that flame that I need . I can't do anything to change that . And I also can't break up with my boyfriend because everyone in school will think that I am a slut . So , yeah , my problem is that I don't know what to do now . Shall I wait the next year to go to college in another country and then breakup ( and hope to find someone with who i can relate ) or should i break up now ? I don't know , it feels strange bc on the one side i love my boyfriend and on the other I really need someone with that fire in themselves . Has somebody a similar problem ? :what:

[yeehaw]

Puberty For Boys :arrow: Relationships and Dating

This is better suited here.

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From experience, I can honestly say that if you don’t want to be with your boyfriend, you should probably break up with them as soon as it’s appropriate to. Everyone at school will say things, and that’s always the case because kids in our generation love to see drama and failing relationships - but doing it early could help save some arguments and is generally easier for the guy. Think about it this way: if you were on the receiving end, wouldn’t you want someone just to get it over with to save the hurting and pain in the long run from their lying just to sustain the relationship ?

You should try and someone compatible for you, in your case with the ‘energy’ that your old crush possesses. Whether you find that person within a few weeks or a few years - do NOT feel like you have to justify yourself by being with someone just for the sake of a relationship: this can emotionally tire you out and it doesn’t really benefit you in any way if you’re hopping from relationship to relationship just for the sake of it.

[ska8er]

I think u r still in love with ur
ex. If ur boyfriend doesn't have
that spark-look for someone else.
If not then b satisfied with the one
that at least pays u attention.

[jamie_n5]

Well your first priority is you and your happiness. If you are unhappy and uncomfortable then maybe it's time to call it quits. If you do love him and find him a good person then maybe you need to take the first step to light his fire. Some guys just aren't sexually aggressive and actually like and want the girl to make the first moves to turn them on. You might try that or if you are truly unhappy now don't put yourself through an other year just to try and look good to others. The hell with them. Besides most people have several relationships before they find that right person. Good luck.

[HardCandyGirl]

If you're not happy with someone, you should break up, specially if you're still thinking of someone else. If I'm in love or something with a boy who doesn't love me or feel the same, I can't be around or be friend with him, not until I get over it.

[lliam]

Has somebody a similar problem ? :what:


not yet.

You should talk to your boyfriend about it, regardless of whether it violates his feelings or not ... which will be happen in case of separation anyway.

Also, consider that your next (or any future) boyfriend may not share the same energy with you as it happens in relation to your chamber music partner.



Maybe you should really learn to differentiate such cases.


What you share with your chamber music partner may be something you can never share with a life partner because it's a completely different level of relationship.


But probably only time will tell if it's such a thing in our case.



If you google, you will surely come across a lot of similar partnerships ...

... and in case of Celebs, at their divorce rate, you may even come to realize that such energetic relationships will eventually neutralize each other at some point.

Some couples found other more fitting partners for their private lifes but still worked together successfully after theirs divorces.

[scott2002]

I think u r still in love with ur ex.
But it takes two people who both have that 'energy' toward each other to create a true relationship.
You have not found that boy yet. I'd say, better to break off the relationship you are in, and then you'll be ready and available when a much better boy comes along.