girls look at me with disgust...

[Jman437]

Since I was a little child, girls always looked at me with disgust, they gave me the same look they give to a spider they found in the bathtub. People always tell me that "I'm delusional" or that "I'm too insecure" and that "I can't get a girl if I'm insecure", which is BS, because I see a lot of insecure guys with girlfriends. I'm completely comfortable with my looks and my personality(I'm good-looking, I smell good, and even though with the more I know, the more I realize I don't know, I have a good amount of intelligence). I'm currently in college, and none of my friends have a girlfriend, but I see lots of girls talking to them and laughing at their jokes, while I can't even get a girl to talk to me without being disgusted...
I don't know what to do...

[Karkat]

(If it helps, girls don't tend to like me all that much either :P )

Well, you're confident in yourself, moreso than some I've seen. (Me) The only problem I can see potentially from what you say is that they might actually be finding you arrogant, but you don't sound arrogant, so I doubt it.

I really can't tell you what could be going on without more information, sorry.

[backjruton]

People always tell me that "I'm delusional" or that "I'm too insecure" and that "I can't get a girl if I'm insecure", which is BS, because I see a lot of insecure guys with girlfriends. I'm completely comfortable with my looks and my personality(I'm good-looking, I smell good, and even though with the more I know, the more I realize I don't know, I have a good amount of intelligence).

Yeah, this is BS, because I think of myself as someone who is extremely insecure in the sense that after some experiences in school I find it very hard to trust people and I'm not very good at bigging myself up either. I, more often than not, make fun of myself to make people laugh. I love to make other people happy at "my own expense". I actually have a chance of having a relationship with a girl which I'm denying because I don't know where my head is yet, and I've completely put myself off a heterosexual relationship because I've seen what some people can be like, my mum recently accused my dad of cheating on her because she found some random bracelets behind a chair she'd never seen there before... I don't want to end up in that kind of situation. I need a relationship where we're both equals which is why I would prefer to be with another guy that's like me with a lot of my tastes so I feel like the relationship is stable.

I never get told I'm insecure or delusional though, I'm more of the kind of person that makes a lot of friends quite easily and just for the wrong reasons. Obviously my autism (PDD-NOS?) makes it harder for me to communicate with other people which is why I always make fun of myself and lower people's expectations of me to try and make friends. MAYBE, just MAYBE, you should try doing what I do, because I've found my life much more enjoyable since I started putting myself down. I think of the bad things and tell people about these instead as most of them are funny and embarrassing. I don't know exactly what your situation is but this is how I got out of mine at 15 when I was finally diagnosed... :D I immediately told everyone "I'm autistic" and they started being nicer after that, that's how everything started, and maybe it's just because of sympathy but I'm perfectly happy with it anyway :) :yes:

[Stronk Serb]

Well, being called the "class lunatic", it's kinda hard to socialize with people because of the prejudices, be it girls or guys. Girls are more acceptive of me, because they know I am a gentleman at heart, I stood up for a few girls. Try to socialize, if you find girls that accept you, awesome, if not, well try harder. I'm sure you will find someone.

[Jman437]

(If it helps, girls don't tend to like me all that much either :P )

Well, you're confident in yourself, moreso than some I've seen. (Me) The only problem I can see potentially from what you say is that they might actually be finding you arrogant, but you don't sound arrogant, so I doubt it.

I really can't tell you what could be going on without more information, sorry.

Okay. Just tell what you need ^^

[Karkat]

Okay. Just tell what you need ^^

What are you usually doing when girls react negatively to you?
Are you usually talking, or quiet?
How are the girls usually treating you?

[Jman437]

Yeah, this is BS, because I think of myself as someone who is extremely insecure in the sense that after some experiences in school I find it very hard to trust people and I'm not very good at bigging myself up either. I, more often than not, make fun of myself to make people laugh. I love to make other people happy at "my own expense". I actually have a chance of having a relationship with a girl which I'm denying because I don't know where my head is yet, and I've completely put myself off a heterosexual relationship because I've seen what some people can be like, my mum recently accused my dad of cheating on her because she found some random bracelets behind a chair she'd never seen there before... I don't want to end up in that kind of situation. I need a relationship where we're both equals which is why I would prefer to be with another guy that's like me with a lot of my tastes so I feel like the relationship is stable.

I never get told I'm insecure or delusional though, I'm more of the kind of person that makes a lot of friends quite easily and just for the wrong reasons. Obviously my autism (PDD-NOS?) makes it harder for me to communicate with other people which is why I always make fun of myself and lower people's expectations of me to try and make friends. MAYBE, just MAYBE, you should try doing what I do, because I've found my life much more enjoyable since I started putting myself down. I think of the bad things and tell people about these instead as most of them are funny and embarrassing. I don't know exactly what your situation is but this is how I got out of mine at 15 when I was finally diagnosed... :D I immediately told everyone "I'm autistic" and they started being nicer after that, that's how everything started, and maybe it's just because of sympathy but I'm perfectly happy with it anyway :) :yes:

Dude, I'm an expert at that! Thanks for reminding me of it! xb
The very few girls I "attracted" found me funny for doing that, I'll just need to moderate it :)

[Jman437]

Well, being called the "class lunatic", it's kinda hard to socialize with people because of the prejudices, be it girls or guys. Girls are more acceptive of me, because they know I am a gentleman at heart, I stood up for a few girls. Try to socialize, if you find girls that accept you, awesome, if not, well try harder. I'm sure you will find someone.

It's kinda hard, you know... I never did anything awkward or embarassing in front of girls so they could look at me like "oh my god, what a weirdo...". I try my best to socialize, I'm not very good with social skills, my awkwardness is so bad it's good xb.

I can say my hopes of getting someone are very, very low...

[Jman437]

What are you usually doing when girls react negatively to you?
Are you usually talking, or quiet?
How are the girls usually treating you?

I'm usually quiet, but that's just me. I don't really like to speak that much...
I'm not doing anything, that's the issue, but they look at me like I'm some scary murderer.

They simply give me the look i described, and ignore me...

[Stephane17]

Since I was a little child, girls always looked at me with disgust, they gave me the same look they give to a spider they found in the bathtub. People always tell me that "I'm delusional" or that "I'm too insecure" and that "I can't get a girl if I'm insecure", which is BS, because I see a lot of insecure guys with girlfriends. I'm completely comfortable with my looks and my personality(I'm good-looking, I smell good, and even though with the more I know, the more I realize I don't know, I have a good amount of intelligence). I'm currently in college, and none of my friends have a girlfriend, but I see lots of girls talking to them and laughing at their jokes, while I can't even get a girl to talk to me without being disgusted...
I don't know what to do...


Jman,
Let me tell you something ok,
It may not be your time right now, and even if you were at the age for love it may not be the moment for you, you need to really ask yourself, is it me creating this or mabey your so called friends may know you a little to much and may occur to you they may be "Gossiping about you""?
And another thing i wanted to add in there for you to realise that these days you will find alot of people with judgemental thoughts...Now i would never judge someone based on there looks and so called size, everything will happen in time, it happens all the time, you find that one true love that loves you with passion and cares so much for you......
But when i say people judge i dont , if i wanted someone to love i would be looking for those people , i dont like judgemental people myself it is hurtfull
on the contrary i am looking for someone who is completely honnest i can love and can five my vow's to and be able to love them till the end of my days and not have to worry about people judging me ,

But all-in-all i wish you the fare-well luck bud, Something will come your way too love you, be patient and time will tell alright my friend

Feel like chatting pm me anytime you want and i can help you with that..
I have a friend who is always saying he will never have someone to love and i have completely changed his thoughts and he is in love with a woman who loves him back!
Best of luck,
Stephane17

[Karkat]

Jman,
Let me tell you something ok,
It may not be your time right now, and even if you were at the age for love it may not be the moment for you, you need to really ask yourself, is it me creating this or mabey your so called friends may know you a little to much and may occur to you they may be "Gossiping about you""?
And another thing i wanted to add in there for you to realise that these days you will find alot of people with judgemental thoughts...Now i would never judge someone based on there looks and so called size, everything will happen in time, it happens all the time, you find that one true love that loves you with passion and cares so much for you......
But when i say people judge i dont , if i wanted someone to love i would be looking for those people , i dont like judgemental people myself it is hurtfull
on the contrary i am looking for someone who is completely honnest i can love and can five my vow's to and be able to love them till the end of my days and not have to worry about people judging me ,

But all-in-all i wish you the fare-well luck bud, Something will come your way too love you, be patient and time will tell alright my friend

Feel like chatting pm me anytime you want and i can help you with that..
I have a friend who is always saying he will never have someone to love and i have completely changed his thoughts and he is in love with a woman who loves him back!
Best of luck,
Stephane17




Agree a lot with this. Especially that it might not be you at all. Who knows.

Best to find someone who isn't going to treat you like that anyways. You're better off.

[Jman437]

Jman,
Let me tell you something ok,
It may not be your time right now, and even if you were at the age for love it may not be the moment for you, you need to really ask yourself, is it me creating this or mabey your so called friends may know you a little to much and may occur to you they may be "Gossiping about you""?
And another thing i wanted to add in there for you to realise that these days you will find alot of people with judgemental thoughts...Now i would never judge someone based on there looks and so called size, everything will happen in time, it happens all the time, you find that one true love that loves you with passion and cares so much for you......
But when i say people judge i dont , if i wanted someone to love i would be looking for those people , i dont like judgemental people myself it is hurtfull
on the contrary i am looking for someone who is completely honnest i can love and can five my vow's to and be able to love them till the end of my days and not have to worry about people judging me ,

But all-in-all i wish you the fare-well luck bud, Something will come your way too love you, be patient and time will tell alright my friend

Feel like chatting pm me anytime you want and i can help you with that..
I have a friend who is always saying he will never have someone to love and i have completely changed his thoughts and he is in love with a woman who loves him back!
Best of luck,
Stephane17




I've been way too patient by now, ALL my friends found their true love while I'm here alone as a stray dog... It's not that I'm jealous of them, but they all tease me for not having a girlfriend, just that, and it makes me feel inferior, it makes me wish their lives would go downhill, it's like they got a girlfriend just to tease me... I may be an evil person by saying this, but if all their relationships ended terribly, I would be so happy... I hate myself for saying this, but I just don't like being teased because of not having a girlfriend. I know why they do this, because before they got a girlfriend, they were total losers who cried because they couldn't get a girlfriend, it's like they need one to be happy, and when they have one, they tease those who haven't...

Look, I'm the unluckiest guy you'll ever meet, if I ever meet someone who I love(oh wait, I did, many times...) it'll just end up being more of the same, they're going to reject me, until the day I die alone...

I've lost absolutely all hope of ever getting a girlfriend, it's lost since the day that every friend of mine got the right girl for them. Whenever I see lots of happy couples kissing and cuddling, whenever I hear love songs on the radio, I completely die inside, I try so hard not to cry, because I remember that I will never find someone who loves me... It's not that I desperately need someone, it's just that my life is hard right now, I'm in college and it's being extremely hard, and I can't find any happiness in anything, I just think that getting a girlfriend would be something that would bring me happiness...

About that gossip stuff, it's true, they gossip a lot about me. I'm lucky I'm in college and they're not, because no one needs to know about my awkward secrets...