Nnoki
April 30th, 2018, 11:05 PM
First, as always, I don't know if this post belongs here, if it doesn't please move it where it belongs.
Second, this is kinda long (and maybe a little bit confusing) so yeah, beware
I've found out something really curious about myself lately, and it is about my friends (male friends), I tend to treat them like if we were on a relationship (like if we were boyfriends or something), like being jealous when they're with another guys, and things like that.
I know that's an issue, and I'm working on it
But recently I discovered that only a small percentage of my friends are the ones who I treat like this, and I've tried to find a connection between them (any physical/mental things that they might have alike) but have actually no clue
I've divided my friends in 2 gropus since then:
The ones who have "It"
The ones who don't
The first group I found out that I usually trust them the most, I tend to get very interested in personal details about their life and many other things, I tell them about my life, we joke around and sometimes play a little rough, etc.
The second group I usually tend to have small talk with them, talk about some basic topics (usually a funny youtube video we found or something), they don't know anything about me, I don't know anything about them and I couldn't care less about it, we never have physical contact, etc.
The issue comes here
I always, the moment I see someone's face, instantly know which group they'll belong to, don't need to talk to them, just look at their face and that's it.
It doesn't happen that often, right now the people who have "It" that I still talk to are just like 5 guys. The ones that I don't talk to anymore were like other 6 or 7 (In all my life, just 13 guys had "It")
I've been trying to figure out what's "It" that makes them special to me, I would wanna know if anyone else goes through something similar or just someone could try to give any idea what "It" could be
If you read all of this, I can only thank you and hope to get at least some advice
Edit 1: There's only been one case in my whole life that one guy from group 2 made it to group one (right now he's one of my best friends), usually if you're not on group one at least within one week we met, you're never gonna be there.
Second, this is kinda long (and maybe a little bit confusing) so yeah, beware
I've found out something really curious about myself lately, and it is about my friends (male friends), I tend to treat them like if we were on a relationship (like if we were boyfriends or something), like being jealous when they're with another guys, and things like that.
I know that's an issue, and I'm working on it
But recently I discovered that only a small percentage of my friends are the ones who I treat like this, and I've tried to find a connection between them (any physical/mental things that they might have alike) but have actually no clue
I've divided my friends in 2 gropus since then:
The ones who have "It"
The ones who don't
The first group I found out that I usually trust them the most, I tend to get very interested in personal details about their life and many other things, I tell them about my life, we joke around and sometimes play a little rough, etc.
The second group I usually tend to have small talk with them, talk about some basic topics (usually a funny youtube video we found or something), they don't know anything about me, I don't know anything about them and I couldn't care less about it, we never have physical contact, etc.
The issue comes here
I always, the moment I see someone's face, instantly know which group they'll belong to, don't need to talk to them, just look at their face and that's it.
It doesn't happen that often, right now the people who have "It" that I still talk to are just like 5 guys. The ones that I don't talk to anymore were like other 6 or 7 (In all my life, just 13 guys had "It")
I've been trying to figure out what's "It" that makes them special to me, I would wanna know if anyone else goes through something similar or just someone could try to give any idea what "It" could be
If you read all of this, I can only thank you and hope to get at least some advice
Edit 1: There's only been one case in my whole life that one guy from group 2 made it to group one (right now he's one of my best friends), usually if you're not on group one at least within one week we met, you're never gonna be there.