In love with my straight best friend

[Rub09]

So i'm bi and met my now best friend in 8th grade. I began to have feelings for him since last year (that's how i knew i was bi lol) and they haven't dissapeared:( I've only told very few friends about my sexuality, one of them being him (who reacted pretty well to it). I've also told these friends about my feelings for my best friend and they all have recommended me to forget about it, that it's impossible for something special to happen. I know that what they say is true but it just doesn't help that everytime i am with him i get really happy. Deep inside me, i don't want these feeling to end... I have to say that the first days after coming out to him he was somewhat awkward when he was with me, but now he is like before i came out. There is still a little awkwardness between us tho. Now that i'm in my senior year i feel pressured to confess to him before classes end but at the same time i don't want to do it because that would probably mean the end of our relationship as friends. This really bothers me because i'm not someone with a lot of friends (just like 4 close friends) and thinking of losing him as one of them is just like....i don't know how to express that but you get the idea. So what do i do? Do i confess to him or do i just wait for the feelings to dissapear? Thanks for your help:D (sorry if there are any gramatical mistakes, i'm not a native english speaker :p)

[Zachary G]

the feelings you have will never disappear, you will always have them. you have to decide what is more important to you, your friendship with him or him knowing how you feel towards him. keep in mind there is always a chance that by telling him you could lose him as a long time friend, but at the same time he could be very accepting of it. its a two sided sword, so you have decide if having him in your life as a friend is more important than possible not having him in your life but having him know how you feel. its a hard decision to make, i wish you luck in your decision.

[ska8er]

I agree with Zack above- if ur not sure
how he is going to take it then don't tell
him. Having him as a friend and staying
friends is more important than not to
have him in ur life at all. After awhile
maybe he will think of u more than a
friend.

[Max the Disenchanter]

This won't end well

[CoryW]

Look, just my opinion but if your in love with him tell him! If he has feeling for you then great
If he don't move on because it wasn't meant to be.
If you don't tell him your gonna be thinking about it constantly.

[Max the Disenchanter]

Look, just my opinion but if your in love with him tell him! If he has feeling for you then great
If he don't move on because it wasn't meant to be.
If you don't tell him your gonna be thinking about it constantly.

Yeah, if you don't mind potentially ruining your friendship.

[CoryW]

Yeah, if you don't mind potentially ruining your friendship.

I don't know. How can you have that great of a friendship if your if your in love with someone who's not in love with you?

[mick01]

You said it was awkward between the two of you after you told him about your sexuality. Why do you think it would go well if you told him you were in love with him? You said that he was straight. What good could come out of it if you revealed your true feelings for him?
I disagree with Zach. The feelings you have for him will eventually go away if you spend less and less time with him. That is, if you both go to different colleges next year or have some sort of other separation.
My opinion is to keep your feelings to yourself and keep the friendship alive.

[Max the Disenchanter]

I don't know. How can you have that great of a friendship if your if your in love with someone who's not in love with you?

In love =/= love

[scott2002]

Right now, he's probably fine with the fact that he has a good friend who happens to be gay. You two have apparently been friends for several years and I'm suspecting you've probably hinted more than once about the two of you maybe doing something physical together, or maybe you've given him a couple of little-peck kisses on his cheek and he's never thought anything sexual about anything like that. But I'd agree that if you try to do anything sexual with him you will make your friendship extremely awkward, and it could well be the beginning of the end.
He's okay with having a gay friend, as long as his other friends know without question that HE is not gay, and there is nothing physically sexual in his friendship with you.