Meeting

[skittlesh]

Soooo I’ve started to make a friend but how do I start to meet up with him how can I take that next step without imposing saying like hey I wanna come round yours I feel like they have to make the first move since I’m the new one in the friendship group

[BlackParadePixie]

why not just say, "Hey I'm going to be at __________________(pick a good meeting place for people/friends), you wanna meet up?

it can be like a coffee shop, or a mall, or whatever...there's plenty of different places friends meet up.

[ska8er]

I agree meet at a coffee or
soda shop just for drinks or
to talk.

[IcyCool]

Okay, so, from what I understand, you've just joined a new friendship group, and you kinda wanna meet up. Assuming you're in high school, I have a few questions right now:

Does this friendship group go out after school already?
Do you hang out with them at lunch?
Do they have lots of time?

If they already go out, then just ask your friend if you can come along. Just remember to give them the no option, like by saying "do you guys go out after school?" and then if they say yes, then you can say "Can I come? It's fine if you say no" or something like that, because you don't want your friend to feel pressured to let you come with them.

If you hang out with them at lunch, then towards the end of your break, ask them if they wanna meet up after school or something. If they say "not after school. I have to babysit" or something like that, then ask them if you can do it on the weekend or something.

If they have lots of time, then that's an even bigger reason to ask them about it. Time is money, and money is power. Although, if you're the age I'm imagining, money does not come by that easily.

If you're intimidated by them, or are shy to ask because you feel outnumbered, then take a deep breath. Remember that if you ask about it, they'll probably forget by the end of the week. You won't be known as "the guy who asked us out" or anything.

If they constantly leave you out, or they have group meetups without you, then I'd suggest finding new friends on the sideline. Just some people who make you happy.

Hope this helps! Let me know if anything exciting happens!

[Melodic]

It's hard for me to come up with plans & ideas of how to hang out with someone. Usually I try to find events around town and see if any of them would be something that we would both be interested in. Then I'll mention the event to them casually, see if they're interested, then ask if they want to go.

Now thinking about it, this is also a great way to ask someone on a date as well.

[jamie_n5]

Just ask if your new friends hang out anywhere or do things together and ask them if you can be included with them and have them let you know where and when something will take place.

[conradpjones]

I agree meet at a coffee or
soda shop just for drinks or
to talk.

Good advice. I would do the same. Maybe you could ask him to a dance