Losing my virginity

[newyorker]

I know it sounds really lame but im still a virgin and lately I’ve just been going crazy about wanting to have sex with someone. I haven’t been in many relationships at all, I think because of some religious beliefs/ limits I had when I was a little younger but I’m so ready to lose my virginity at this point it isn’t even just about being really horny and wanting to have sex, I jerk off every day now but I still want the emotional connection that comes with having sex with another person. Idk what I’m really asking, I guess I really want to lose my virginity but I want my first time to be special and with someone I actually care about and not just a tinder hookup. Does anyone have any experiences that could help me figure this out for myself???

[mick01]

The first time I had sex with a girl was a bad experience. I think it was because I just wanted to see what it felt like. But, I wasn't into the girl at all. Then I met another girl and I really liked her and was totally into her. The sex with her was amazing.
So first, find someone that you're attracted to and whose company you enjoy. Build a relationship with her/him, without worrying about or focusing on losing your virginity. When the time is right, you'll get that chance.

[Matt 04]

In other posts you said you were bi and 19. In either case you should try to get to know the person first and share common interests, ask questions and develop a relationship. Join clubs to meet people with similar interests. Sometimes friendship can turn into romantic or sexual relationships. I have a friend who is a girl and we have been friends for several years. We have talked about dating but her parents don't want her to date until 15. We are content right now to develop our friendship and hangout with others and do things like going to the mall or dinner.

[TWDjacob]

My advice is not to rush it. If you want a good experience get to know the person more and don't just rush theough the motions

[jamie_n5]

I think you are on the right track. Be patient and wait till you find that special person. It will be so much more meaningful and enjoyable with that special someone.

[ska8er]

Just wait for that special someone. Don't
try to lose it just because u think ur missing
out on something or cause others r doing it.
If u have to ask then u r not ready yet. Don't
rush it.

[Chris298]

I know man... I was 18 when I lost it and it felt like forever to me... And to be honest, it IS better when its in a relationship... My first time was pretty much a random hookup with a girl in my class at uni... And don't get me wrong it was an awesome (and unexpected) experience, and i certainly dont regret it, and it gave me the confidence that i needed around girls... But still, it does compare to what its like with my girlfriend now, and i always kinda wonder what it would have been like to lose it to her... And the objective is just different when there are feelings involved... No matter what, i want the girl to have an awesome time and i wanna make her cum, but when its more casual, its almost more like a competitive or showing off on my part, or at least trying... But with my girlfriend, i just want to make her feel amazing...its weird and its hard to explain, but it is different... Its like I'm not even thinking about myself, I'm totally into her, and she is doing the same for me