Pushing my girlfriend away and I can't help it

[Human]

I'm pushing my girlfriend away and I can't help it. I get too jealous and I can only feel better by telling her why (for example i got jealous because you liked that guys picture on facebook) but then she gets upset at why I feel jealous... she says I don't trust her, even though I at least think I trust her. She says it makes her feel like sh*t but the only way I can cope with these feelings is by telling her so she can reassure me...

[Seemyheart]

If you need that kind of reassurance from her, I have to agree with her, it seems like you don't trust her enough or you need her to show you she's there for you and only you
And don't get me wrong, it's nice to hear someone just wants you and only you, but if it gets to the point you start things with her just to get that reassurance, then that's not good.
Maybe you should talk to her about how your feeling, let her know where your coming from
Hope this helps

[Human]

If you need that kind of reassurance from her, I have to agree with her, it seems like you don't trust her enough or you need her to show you she's there for you and only you
And don't get me wrong, it's nice to hear someone just wants you and only you, but if it gets to the point you start things with her just to get that reassurance, then that's not good.
Maybe you should talk to her about how your feeling, let her know where your coming from
Hope this helps

I have bpd so it's nearly impossible for me to actually feel like i fully trust her, although I logically trust her, it's hard to explain really... I know she wouldn't cheat but I'm still scared she would.

[Seemyheart]

I have bpd so it's nearly impossible for me to actually feel like i fully trust her, although I logically trust her, it's hard to explain really... I know she wouldn't cheat but I'm still scared she would.

Oh yeah,I get it. There's always that fear someone will cheat, no matter who they are. I say you just let her know how your feeling, and you don't mean to push her away, even if it may come across that way

[WeAreOneRepublic]

You can only go by her word she won't cheat and I understand why you real this way and that.
I have been through similar jealousy, not through Facebook photo liking but her talking to other guys and not as much to me. She got annoyed at it and yeah, ended a bit later (she is popular with the guys so I think I can have that right).

You really have to trust her and if she is good then she won't cheat, if the whole Facebook photo liking is really getting to you thn you might need to stop from displaying to you. It isn't much liking someone's photo, it's like saying I have a crush on someone because I liked their photo.

[TheLivingLie]

My gf is the exact same thing, or at least was...

[Dwemer]

I understand what u feel. I am the same way. When I like someone I am very scared of loosing her. But because your so jealouse u are increasing the chance of just that.

Ask yourself what good does it do to worry about her liking someones pictiure. If she is falling for that guy there is nothing u can do about it and then she isnt even worth your time. Just be yourself, have a great time together and that only happens if u feel good yourself and not be jealouse.

[Danny Phantom]

I'm pushing my girlfriend away and I can't help it. I get too jealous and I can only feel better by telling her why (for example i got jealous because you liked that guys picture on facebook) but then she gets upset at why I feel jealous... she says I don't trust her, even though I at least think I trust her. She says it makes her feel like sh*t but the only way I can cope with these feelings is by telling her so she can reassure me...

It does seem like you do not trust her, to the average person. (I know you have bpd and I can relate, as I do too.). To me, it seems like you really care about her and you do not wanna lose her. Communication is key, and the fact that you ARE telling her this, is a sign that you are not afraid to discuss your feelings with her, which is something she should be happy about. Tell her about your bpd, in time, she will get over it, but it may take awhile.

Hit me up if you need any more advice. You know I'm always here, brother.

[Rallo]

I have bpd so it's nearly impossible for me to actually feel like i fully trust her, although I logically trust her, it's hard to explain really... I know she wouldn't cheat but I'm still scared she would.

I know exactly how this feels (I have bpd myself as well). I'm not sure how good my advise will be though, as this is not something i've completely solved in my personal situation either..
Luckily for me, in my case, the girl I'm dating some what understands (I believe she has mild bpd herself, she's not diagnosed with anything though), so I can simply ask her how she would feel if it the tables were turned so to speak. She usually doesn't understand completely, though it's enough that she can see I still trust her though am still a bit paranoid about it all at the same time.

Over all, only thing I can recommend is trying to nicely explain it.. For example "how would you feel if it was me liking all these girls pictures?:/ I don't want you to overly answer me now, just think about that so you can try to understand how I feel and understand that I do still trust you, just this is quite hard for me" or something like that. Goodluck! :)

Feel free to post on my profile any questions or anything else you may need advise on, or if you prefer PM me an alternative way of contacting you. :yeah: