Cancer

[MysticMarine]

For a few months I have known my mum is having surgery on her breasts she told me it was cosmetic however 2 days ago she told me it was cancer. I don't have words to explain how much i love her, she's been in my life supporting and just I can't explain my love... I have this fear that i can't go on if she wasn't here it haunts me all the time and I feel inside a cycle of horrifying emotions.

I can't seem to ever ease myself with this. Having her tell me she has cancer just made be break down I can't handle the thought of things going bad. I don't know how to handle things and therapy never works. I'm even tearing up writing this as it just feels like my world is crumbling... to be honest i'd probably take my life if my mum weren't here I just don't know how to explain it. I mean I don't want to die but ugh nevermind.

[nicktheman2003]

I'm really sorry to hear about your Mom.
Please be strong for your Mom and get that thought out of your mind that you want to take your life. Your Mom needs your love and support and by having those thoughts about taking your life will not help your Mom. I love my Mom so much and I can imagine how bad you feel about your Mom's cancer. Your Mom is depending on you to be strong and there for her, I know your 13 and it's a lot of weight on you. Just like your Mom would be there for you, you have to be there for her. Pray for your Mom and reach out to a relative or adult you trust, you don't have to face this alone. I'm here for you if you need to talk.
Take care.

[Jordan99]

I am very sorry for what you and your mother are going though. I don't know what your mom's diagnosis and prognosis are but if caught early enough, cancer can be treated with a good recovery and survival rate. What really has me concerned though is your state of mind and your contemplating hurting yourself. Do you think that is what your mother would want from you? In my humble opinion, you need to seek the services of a professional therapist who can help you better deal with your emotions and depression if you have it. I'm glad you shared your post on here but I really think you need professional intervention just like your mom is getting for her healthcare needs. You should also discuss your thoughts and feelings with your mother and other family members if they are available.

[jamie_n5]

Just be loving and supportive and strong for her. Be there and pray for her to beat the cancer.

[Elysium]

I'm very sorry you're going through this. When my mother was diagnosed a year and a half ago, I didn't really know how to respond either. Now I regret the way I responded, which was by almost not responding at all. My advice to you: be considerate. Show that you care. If your mother goes through any sort of treatment (mine went through chemo & radiation), call to check in after treatments, help out around the house if you can, etc.

I had and still have a very hard time showing I care and it hangs over me constantly. I am not always the child my mother deserves. But right now, your mother needs you just as much as you need her. Nobody's expecting perfection of you and nobody's expecting anything "right" or "wrong" from you. Just do your best.

My mother's in remission now as far as I'm aware. With good luck and good medicine, this can and will be beat. It is not a harbinger of tragedy.

[Ben7]

I am very sorry to hear the bad news.

But you should have hope and faith that she can get better. Many women with breast cancer do. It isn't a death sentence anymore like it once was. So help your mom out with anything and everything you can around the house, talk to her often and have deep conversations with her, try to make her laugh, and overall just be mindful of how she is feeling.

Spend as much time with her for no other reason other than she's your mom. And do not assume the worst.

And lastly, pray for her.