Going to church

[Cheergurl2002]

I guess this is a vent and not a question. I am 15 and don’t want to get up every Sunday and go to church. My mom says that I need to go. I don’t want to fight about it, but I am not really into it. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

[drhalsey1]

You may be called wrong for feelings against a religion, but ultimately you're the one who decides whether you are "wrong" or not, because you're the one who decides what you believe or don't believe, so I would say no, your are not wrong for not being into the religion

[IcyCool]

My mom and I used to go to church, but then we got lazy and now we stay home on Sundays. I don't like going to church, but I do believe in my religion and I pray regularly, so, you shouldn't feel bad about it.

[Tim the Enchanter]

I'm not sure, I have to go to church every Sunday as well. Guess I have never really thought about it in that way before.

[Uniquemind]

I go when I feel the urge to go to church. It’s not necessary and if your heart isn’t in it then all that “worship” is a lie anyway....hence invalid before God.


I just see it as a hangout with other people. Something about society that forces face to face communication.

[mick01]

I go to a catholic high school and participate in whatever religious activities take place there but its more out of obligation than faith. Once we turn 16, me and my siblings are not forced into going to church. It's our decision.

[Zachary G]

I find forcing someone to do something they dont want to only leads to resentment and lack of interest.

To answer your question, no, you arent wrong for how you feel because those are your feelings and you own them. The next question is, what do you do about it from here?

[Kiki03]

My mom doesnt make me and my brother go anymore. I just dont have any friends there.

[NewLeafsFan]

No. It is such a shame that your (or your parents) religion has not provided a positive experience for you. In my opinion, the main point of participating in religious practices is to provide comfort, a sense of belonging, and answer the big questions. It doesn't sound like your church has done any of those things.

[Katie2003]

We go as a family every Sunday, and I have always liked it and will continue to attend with them. But if you don't sincerely want to be there, then it isn't going to do you, or your family, any good to make you participate when you aren't interested. I believe you can still be a good person and never attend church, it's more about your personal values and behavior.

[Pultost]

I don't mind going to church. It's nice. But no one should be forced to go there, as it's certainly not for everyone.

[Phosphene]

Cheergurl2002 Being forced into things nearly always makes them less enjoyable... it's unfortunate your mom is doing that to you. You didn't clarify if you'd rather not go because you don't wish to follow a religion or you just don't want to attend church at all/at the time your mom wants you to. If you wish to go, maybe service is also held at a different time? I know people who go to church on Sunday and Wednesday evenings.

[Lucy G]

My mom and I used to go to church, but then we got lazy and now we stay home on Sundays. I don't like going to church, but I do believe in my religion and I pray regularly, so, you shouldn't feel bad about it.

My friend says you don't have to go to church to be a good person and make some sort of decent contribution to society. If you privately pray at home then as long as you feel happy inside that's all that matters x

[Char03]

My friend says you don't have to go to church to be a good person and make some sort of decent contribution to society. If you privately pray at home then as long as you feel happy inside that's all that matters x

I completely agree with Lucy. However, I can see you're in a tricky situation and I know my parents would be exactly the same and while I am at home and live in their house I kinda have to go with what they say. However, I quite enjoy church to be honest.

[Oscar-V3.0]

I guess this is a vent and not a question. I am 15 and don’t want to get up every Sunday and go to church. My mom says that I need to go. I don’t want to fight about it, but I am not really into it. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

You have the right not to believe in the same things as your parents. Nothing wrong with that.
If there is something wrong, that would be you not telling your mum what you think and let her force you to go

[Lucy G]

I completely agree with Lucy. However, I can see you're in a tricky situation and I know my parents would be exactly the same and while I am at home and live in their house I kinda have to go with what they say. However, I quite enjoy church to be honest.

Lol the only times my parents go to church is for weddings or funerals. Probably as much to do with the nice looking building as much as anything else.

[Adamant]

I m
Know I am not the best pefson to answer because i have never been to church but the op said he didnt want to go to church every week. How about a deal. Offer to go every other week or miss one a month whatever you can get and promisr you'll get up early and not moan when its churvh week. Maybe offer to do chores while she is at church.
Good luck.

[Natacha]

Everybody should have the right to choose for them selves

[WinterND]

I don't visit a church. Only when somebody dies

[Jrunner]

Ur not wrong for feeling that way, if ur hearts not in it then u won't really enjoy it or get much out of it, but just try to keep in mind that there may be other benefits to being part of a small community like church or whatever that aren't available to ppl in society in general, so I'd say just keep an open mind and do what ur parents tell u until ur 18 and then u can do whatever!

[ska8er]

No one should b forced to do or go
anywhere but I don't think that taking
one hour out of the week to go to church
is going to kill anyone no matter how boring
or repetitious it may be. Ive been going now
for 13 years but no one is forcing me. U can
also worship how u c fit but give church a try.

[Mariooo]

we go one or two times a month to church, not every sunday

[Margie]

Going to Church makes me feel better.