What is happening?

[Ilove318]

Recently (in the last few months) my dad and I have grown really far apart, and I understand that happens in these years of life, but I can't help feeling I've done something wrong. I feel he expects too much from me. He really wants me to be like he was in high school, academically focused and uncaring about every other aspect of social life. He says it doesn't matter if you have no friends, you can go to the library. He just doesn't understand! I feel frustrated because I've told him this heaps of times: friends are important.

Everyone thinks I'm lazy, but I feel miserable (I have depression) and useless half the time. When I'm motivated, I do things I like, like writing or something. I feel he wants me to be another version of him, and I don't want to. He said I could plan an entire holiday if I transfer into the high school he wants, and that's great! But he and my mum don't respect how I want to live my life.

I know I sound like an ungrateful brat, but rather than the 5 star hotel and resorts, I want to stay in small motels in a village or something like that. They speak to me sarcastically calling me a 'backpacker' when that is something I honestly want to do.

I understand if they don't want to do that, and I won't force them, but I wish they would tell me nicely. Talking to my parents doesn't help because they have preconceived opinions on nearly every matter. I have also tried to bring my grandma to talk with them, but even her opinion doesn't change them. :(

Am I a bad daughter? Please help!!!:confused:

[jamie_n5]

School is important and friends and a social life is also important. Just do your best in school and try work with your parents on having social time. As far as vacations go I think it best to go along with your parents and try your best to enjoy yourself.

[scottishlooby]

You are definitely not a bad daughter! You are dealing with a lot of stuff, it's a hard time for most people plus you are also dealing with depression on top. I guess your dad just wants the best for you and can't understand why you arent like he was when in reality you are a completely different person in a completely different time to when he was growing up. I don't know what advice to give you tbh but from reading some of your other posts I have a lot in common with you when I was 13. Nearly 3 years later I still have some issues but trust me it does get better. Anyways, the point I wanted to make was try to give yourself some credit that you have a lot of crap to deal with but you are still getting through it!