Moving to second base

[SpicyCurryyy]

1st base - Kissing, hands above the belt.

2nd base - hands below the belt, clothes come off.

3rd base - Mouths below the belt.

Home plate - Sex.

K so I'm at 1st we've kissed on two separate occasions on basically two dates (2 for 2!!) Friday night we're getting food and then ice cream. If it's not too late/dark we walk down by like the harbor right on the water to a romantic swing bench. That's unlikely to happen, I'm feeling like we will get some sort of line like our last date. That means we take a longgggg walk back to her house, I drop her off then I turn around and walk home at like 10ish. Last time we did like a 2 second kiss for goodbye. So nice but that's not the best we can do cuz we've had like a legit hookup at my house a few weeks back. So this is what I am asking. In the context of a GOODBYE kiss (usually short and sweet, also in public) how can I get further and get aggressive to grab her ass or something? (specific moves, signals, etc.) For example I have heard pull her from the waist then move to the ass but I'd appreciate any other suggestions.


Btw im not shallow or anything there's a reason I love spending time with her and walking all that way. I'm not in it for the hookup stats, I just wanna show her I'm confident and I wanna make moves like that hope you guys feel

[mick01]

First of all, this thread has zero chance of survival on here.
But going on vt and asking a bunch of strangers how you can grab your girlfriends ass, who you apparently really love and respect, is actually pretty sad.

[West Coast Sheriff]

I have been following your threads and think you are in the right direction. Where I feel I can be helpful in many subjects, relationships and dating isn't something I should give much advice in. But it seems like you like her, you are kind and thoughtful and not afraid. Good luck. Enjoy taking things slow and don't rush to sex but if the relationship continues to go places the sex will come a long the way. good luck!

[Alumni]

I dunno man, you kind of want to be passive about it.

You really don't want to be too practical about moving up bases, just because it may come off as 'he's only into me for fucking' and you seem like the type of person who just wants passionate strides in a steady relationship.

Just takes time, don't rush it. Be slow and gradual, yet not so tedious and nervous. I feel as if your second base is too high, just because you're progressing slowly and it seems like you've shown her the confidence to take her places.

You'll usually get a read or vibe from how she appears. Also, I wouldn't really take on grabbing her. Some girls don't like that, and it's better to kind of take it safely than fucking something up.

[PlasmaHam]

Don't do anything physical with a girl unless you know that she is comfortable with it. Don't put yourself out on a limb by assuming she'll just love you grabbing her wherever.

Your focus right now should just be developing the relationship. Physical interactions should come second. Don't get yourself caught up in the lie that you need intimate physical relations to prove to your gf that you are confident and committed.

[SpicyCurryyy]

First of all, this thread has zero chance of survival on here.
But going on vt and asking a bunch of strangers how you can grab your girlfriends ass, who you apparently really love and respect, is actually pretty sad.

Thanks for the constructive criticism I will take that into account

[SpicyCurryyy]

Actually true I think it’s better to feel it rather than force it thanks guys

[jamie_n5]

I think you better wait a while before you expect moving up any bases. You should be doing some heavy kissing and making out before you grab or reach below the belt or feel her breasts. Be patient and it will pay off.

[scottishlooby]

I dont think you should be overthinking it so much - you don't need to follow like a routine or do some "specific move" lol Just try to be natural about it and let stuff happen as it happens

[scott2002]

I see and hear about so many girls after the fact claiming that a boy violated them in one way or another, including just 'unwelcome touching'.
What I've been doing (and I'm FAR from an expert) is asking for the girl's permission before touching anything that you haven't touched before. Just a simple, "Is it okay if I touch you here? {while you have maybe one fingertip gently touching one of her breasts outside of her clothes for example}
GIRLS, HELP THIS GUY OUT WITH THIS.

[scott2002]

1st base - Kissing, hands above the belt.

2nd base - hands below the belt, clothes come off.

3rd base - Mouths below the belt.

Home plate - Sex.
Where I live, our "bases" are a lot more conservative:
1st - Anything above the shoulders, nothing below
2nd- Anything above the belt, nothing below
3rd - Anything below the belt short of "putting it in".
Home Plate - Sex