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RadCoolDabJack
April 18th, 2018, 06:06 PM
This is going to be a weird one.

There is this girl I like, and have liked for the past 5 years. It is not that I am the most awkward person in the world, I talk to a lot of girls, and have been in a few different relationships, but this is particularly awkward for me. The summer between 5th and 6th grade her and I went to a summer camp. We became good friends and "dated" despite being extremely young. We were like extremely good friends and had a really fun time. We promised each other that we would talk when we entered middle school because we knew we would be in the same one. But idk what happened, but the first day of middle school I couldn't find the nerve to talk to her. After about a week she got pissed off at me (remember we are in middle school at this point so the gayest reasons were good enough to get mad at) we didn't tell anybody but one of her friends that knew we were "dating" at the time, told my friend and word got out quick. She said some stuff about me I said things back but we never talked for 3 years. I am in 10th grade now and we happened to be in the same class this year and the seating chart put us sitting together. She tried to break the ice a couple times because she is a much nicer person that is obviously not effected by something I said 4 years before that, however I was always awkward and hesitant to respond. We were moved and I sit with someone else now, but Iv'e always liked her and in the back of my mind always thought that we would end up together again because we shared so many interests. I am an outspoken person, and can come off as annoying. This hasn't affected my social life too much, but I think she considers me a much different person now. A bit ago I thought it was time that I finally attempted to mend our relationship through text, however I was intoxicated at the time and what I said was the most un-smooth, awkward shit I could have ever said. Now it is even more awkward and I can't seem to get over this person.
If you have no suggestions on how I could talk to her, at least give me advice to try to get over this.

ska8er
April 19th, 2018, 05:19 AM
If u r outspoken then y did u not
answer her when she tried to break
the ice while sitting next to u? Yeah
Ok it might b kind of awkward but
after three years forget it. That was
then and now is now. When u c her
next go up and say Hello-now U try
to break the ice.

SpicyCurryyy
April 19th, 2018, 09:56 PM
You have to talk to her and find out what is going on. You will never rest in your mind until you know for absolute certain, and the only way for that is through whatever she says.

Alumni
April 20th, 2018, 02:34 AM
You need to stop backing off and try making strides to approach her.

No, seriously. That's really the only way I can tell you in a straight-forward manner.
You'll regret not breaking the ice. Trust me, I've been in this exact situation with a girl I knew. I still think of her to this day sometimes, even though she's long gone. My heart still crumbles into pieces when I think about it.

Also, don't make it too late. Another day is another opportunity missed.

(P.S. Doing it via text is an ice-breaker, it makes things a bit more awkward especially if you're having a hard time trying to approach her physically)

Good luck man, I feel this story and it makes me think about what I would've done if I were in your situation again. Just talk to her, it's not the end of the world. You won't get over it unless you seek that satisfaction.

Once again, you'll never get over it unless you talk to her. I know I'm just some random off of the Internet, but it's something that I can't stress enough and truly wish that someone would've given me the same advice that I'm giving you when this happened to me.

Maybe it would've all been different.