At war with mom

[Beach_Blonde]

Since I turned sixteen me and my mom have been at war. Nothing has really changed on my end. My sister said she went through something similar after she turned sixteen.

Can someone explain what the fXXx is going on?

[West Coast Sheriff]

I don't know everything that's going on so I'm just guessing. But maybe your mother expects more responsibility from you since you are getting older. 16 is close to 18 and maybe she's just trying to prepare you for being an adult.

[skittlesh]

I have theory which I have devised from my biological behaviour studies on primates and also observing my family. All females go through a phase of challenging the ever weakening alpha female they test the water constantly through their lives but when they turn a certain age or stage in development they do a big push and this is that war your talking about. Your mother know feeling threatened (this is all subconscious instinct) reacts and continues the war seeing her place in the household at risk. You’ll see similiar things happen with fathers and sons but more often and less severe lasting only a few hours I have my own theory for that also.

[jamie_n5]

You are at the age where you want more freedom and parents worry about what troubles you may get into. You are stuck between being a kid and an adult. Things are a bit frustrating. Maybe sit down with your mom and ask her what she expects of you and tell her what more freedoms you want and tell her you will tell her your plans in advance.

[conradpjones]

This is a normal daughter mom thing. This happened with my friend too. If I were you, I would just try to stay calm

[ska8er]

Stick it out til u r of age
and then if u cant get along
move away. If u live in the
house then u have to Try to
get along with her. U want ur
freedom but u r not old enough
to live it.

[HardCandyGirl]

Anyway it's a war you're not going to win, so... In a war nobody wins, some lose more or less. And it's your mom, she wants the best for you, so be pacient and try to get along well with her.

[lliam]

Don't see it as a war, but as the usual process of loosening your ties from home. I guess it's also called "cutting of a child's cord". Unless deeper dissonances are the cause of your mom's behavior, she simply responds instinctively.