Parents Ignoring Your Accomplishments

[Holby]

Do your parents ignore your accomplishments?

Sometimes when I get good grades, nobody ever says anything to me. However, if I get one bad grade, they act like it's the end of the world. They also don't recognize it when I do something good, like cleaning my room, or helping someone. When I do something just slightly off, they think I'm a bad persom and get mad. I understand why they get mad, but now it seems like everything I do is either bad or usless. Never anything good.

[Ethan19]

Like there becomes a stage of where something is expected because it is the norm. So, good grades if you continuously get them, to me, shouldn't constantly be congratulated - because you're achieving what is expected. That's why I agree with a comment on a bad grade too.

As for cleaning your room and helping someone, I don't seem these to be accomplishments. Cleaning your room is basic hygiene and shouldn't need a congrats. Helping someone is just courteous.

I see your point, my parents do congratulate me, but only when it matters. Like I took midterm exams for uni and got firsts - I don't expect a congratulations because it's not the final grade of this year.

I think you want gratification for too much. You shouldn't need your parents to validate you for you to feel what you've done is good.

[Ilove318]

I can totally understand how you’re feeling. My parents are very similar. They think picking on my faults will make me fix them, but to be honest, it has the opposite effect. I have become lazy and depressed and anxious. Maybe if you’re willing, you can tell them you want them to recognise your efforts.

[Kiki03]

I get really good grades but they dont make as big a deal out of it now as much as they use to.

[lliam]

It was hard work getting my dad to ignore my accomplishments ... or pretending to do so.

I'm pretty terrible at digesting praise, compliments, etc. I then easily get embarrassed. It's much easier to respond appropriately to criticism. Particularly constructive criticism, whereas annoying criticism and such only allows two types of reactions: ignoring or kick ass.

[abcdeqwe]

My mom is very much like this, she never tells me when I do something good and she always holds my mistakes over my head. I don't think she means to do this but it definitely fucks with my self-confidence.

[jamie_n5]

My parents have always be supportive and compliment me when I accomplish something or do well. I feel for you. It definitely is a great confidence and ego booster to get compliments.