She’s acting cold I don’t know why

[JakeJahad]

I don’t get why my girlfriend is giving me the cold shoulder. We’ve been doing so well the past few days then she suddenly gave me one-word replies. I don’t know what I did although I have a hunch. I may have slipped a comment about how hot her brother’s girlfriend was. The said girlfriend was from a foreign dating event and when she showed me a photo I said she looked hot. I already apologized but to know avail. I also asked her what was wrong and she said nothing was but everything just feels so wrong. I don’t think I deserve to be treated coldly if I didn’t do anything wrong.

[shainalia]

so sad

[CoryW]

Being gay means you don't have to figure out what's wrong with a girl.

[NewLeafsFan]

My friend has a gf. The two of them went to a carnival once. He tried to win her a toy giraffe. He really tried. However, he just couldn't knock down all of the stacked cans. She got mad at him. She has since gotten a giraffe poster, a tattoo, and has started stretching her neck out to frightening lengths.

That story actually isn't true. But like my fictional characters, you didn't do the perfect thing. But she is extremely over reacting. I think that you should force yourself to continue acting like nothings wrong. Eventually she will forget about it and the two of you will move on. Talking about it now will likely only make it a bigger deal. I thought that showing you a similar situation would make you think about it in a more neutral stance. Not as her bf, but as a bystandard so that you can decide for yourself how you think it should be handled a bit better.

[Alumni]

Being gay means you don't have to figure out what's wrong with a girl.

I love this comment.

To the OP, you need to really ask yourself if you have done anything wrong in the past (did you talk to another chick and look interested, oof).

If you truly know you've done nothing wrong, try to figure out if anything is going on with her that's hurting her feelings.

[Music Lover]

If you think about calling another woman hot as 'slipping', you've already made your mistake on the level of thought.

If you can't be honest with someone about someone's attractiveness, I don't think there is much to go on for a serious relationship. Now if you think that your girlfriend is the hottest (both physically and otherwise) then you should communicate that to her :) If she knows without a doubt she is number one for you, then she should not overreact if you call someone hot.

TLDR: The problem isn't calling someone else hot, because that may be true. The problem is if you think or she thinks that you believe someone to be hotter than her.

[Uniquemind]

This is one of those hurtles all new couples go through especially if both individuals are new to dating.

Where those boundaries are for each individual and mutually for the relationship of do’s And dont’s. In this case emotional and verbal statements that call in to question romantic loyalty and commitment to the relationship.

It’s nuanced for sure; and some couples and married couples eventually reach a stability emotionally where (I’ve seen this among my parents and uncles and aunts) where the “I’m married or in a relationship, not dead” statement comes into play.

Implying despite being in a relationship you can still notice the attractiveness of others and comment on it mildly as observer would.

[BlackParadePixie]

Being gay means you don't have to figure out what's wrong with a girl.

uhhhh guys...and yes, even gay guys, can act the same way.

[CoryW]

uhhhh guys...and yes, even gay guys, can act the same way.

I never met a guy who got mad cause you didn't mention his new hair cut. Just saying.

[Dalcourt]

I never met a guy who got mad cause you didn't mention his new hair cut. Just saying.

That is hilarious ...but there ARE gay guys who can get mad over those things. You never met any of those flamboyant gays I figure.

And about the question at hand in all honesty if my boyfriend would talk about how hot he thinks some other guy is I would be mad, too, and you could be lucky if I would just be acting cold.

This isn't quite tactful to say such things but just act as if nothing is wrong and be nice and it will eventually be fine soon.

[scottishlooby]

I think its a bit of an over reaction but I guess shes just feeling a bit insecure that you would think someone else is hot. Try just doing your best some things to make her know you think shes the hottest girl youve ever seen. If she still keeps being weird then is it worth being with someone like that?