Shy guys needs help on how to become friend with his crush

[LazyAlex22]

So, let's start off by giving all of the details (hoping that nobody I know can use those imformations to find my account lol): I'm 16 years old, and my crush is 15 I think. We know each other because our parents have been friends for A LONG time (from before I was even born). Usually on Saturday evenings either we go to their house, or they come to ours. One fun fact, is that we're both the same kind of mixed race, so she, and her sisters, are the only people I know who are of the same ethnicity as me. Not only are we similair on a biological level: her personality and hobbies are VERY similair. Every thing that she says sounds like something that would come out if my mouth, it's crazy. We're both introverts, who usually keep to themselves, and who are occasionally sarcastic when responding to irritating questions. I know what you're thinking: "If you are so similair, how come you haven't become friends yet?". Well, it's not that easy. Her silent attitute scares me a bit if I have to be honest (now I understand why no one ever starts a conversation with me xD) and she probably feels the same about me, plus the fact that beign older, and beign a guy, I'm probably the one expected to start the converstation. Oh, I forgot to mention, we both like drawing, and painting. I could start a conversation about that, but I feel a bit like a noob compared to her, since I've been slacking off these last couple of years, and she's been going to the artistic.. High school (I don't know the name of it in english, we call it like this over here in Europe). Basically, she knows a lot more about it than me probably. I don't want to leave a bad impression. So, I need a plan on how to talk to her, with all of our parents around. It's awkard. I can already picture our fathers making fun of us. Also, she's always sick, or tired (she has lots of stomach pain, due to some intollerance or something) and it never seems appropriate to talk to her when she's not feeling well. And when she feels fine, it's intimidating talking to her XD. Some days I just wanted to say "Fuck it" and drink some beer and man up. But I figured I would probably only look like a fool in front of everyone. Anyway, she usually goes and sits alone, away from everyone else for a bit, I think that maybe that would be a good time to talk... But I don't know what to say.. Right now, I can think of tons of things, but she must have some kind of power to stop my brain from functioning or something XD. Funny thing is, I can talk fine with her parents, and with her older and younger sisters, I make jokes, I'm actually a pretty funny, but as soon as she's near, I go full retard mode. I hope they don't notice (who am I kidding, they probably do, my dad found out that I like her, but it's awkward to talk about it). I really like her, and I want to be her friend, I just need some help/advice on how to achieve that. Thanks for anyone who read this massive wall of text, it felt good letting all of this out. Good luck to me next time I meet her I guess

[ska8er]

I think u posted here before. U both
like drawing so u do have something
in common. Its not like the two of u r
strangers. Ask her to draw something
for u and then draw something for her.
Anything to break the ice.

[LazyAlex22]

I think u posted here before. U both
like drawing so u do have something
in common. Its not like the two of u r
strangers. Ask her to draw something
for u and then draw something for her.
Anything to break the ice.

I did? I don't remember, but maybe I just spammed this on all of the forums I knew of and forgot about it.

[josephadams]

Hi there, most of them suggest that first you need to talk with her.

[NewLeafsFan]

Wen yo are trying to impress a girl, you should start by looking at your similarities. While sarcasm can be great to through in once in a while, you need a topic of conversation to get you started. Obviously, you don't want to just sit around talking about sarcasm. Does she share many similar interests with you? Something that you are really passionate about and if you were to talk about it you would just go off like nobody was in the room.

Try to work in sarcasm, appropriate jokes, etc. Good luck.

[RadCoolDabJack]

If your parents are so close invite her to do something together. This won't come off as a date, because it is already your responsibility to entertain her while your parents are socializing. Then all you have to do is find something that will really interest her, something she would wan't to go see, and something that would help you guys connect.

[IcyCool]

Okay. So, first, you need to step out of your introvert box. Start by maybe saying good morning to people you pass by on the sidewalk, or to teachers you see in the hall. A problem introverts seem to have is that they're quiet and awkward when people interact with them. Pay attention to this stuff. Look people in the eyes when they talk with you. You can even just glance at them, then look at something else. Face the person. I used to be introverted, but, now, I'm not since I started doing these things. My friend is introverted, so I'm mainly pointing out his flaws right now (sorry, bud!).

Once you get out of that introverted stage, sit with her when she's alone one time. When you talk, remember, you're in control. Breathe regularly, and just relax. Say hello! Bring out a small smile, then maybe ask her a question like "what do you have for lunch", or "How are you?". These things can make her feel like she's welcome near you. From what I've read, you forget how to act when she's around. Breathe. Remember that. Maybe even forget that you even like her for a second. Pretend like she's just a friend. I've done this once or twice with some people, and now they're really comfortable around me.

I hope my gigantic post helped you. Just remember these things:

Breathe (Breathe, obviously)
Recognize (Recognize the fact that she is just another person)
Enter conversation ("How are you" or "What do you have for lunch?")
Welcome (make her feel welcome)

I'm not a psychologist, but I have been an introvert, and my best friend is an introvert, so I guess this info is kinda valid. Hope it helps!