Got called racists because I wouldn't date him

[Zenos]

Ok today I got called racist because a black guy asked me to date him.
I explained to him that I am dating a guy (whose Asian..i'm white),then he went into a tirade about me not wanting to dating him because he's black,when he already knows out side of my race I only date Asian guys because other then members of my own race I am only attracted to Asian guys that way.

I don't believe you should date a person you are not attracted to,and I fail to see how it's racist to be either attracted only to members of your own race or to members of your own race and and members of only one other race.

Even his own family has told him he's wrong,and that he's trying to guilt trip me into dating him,and that's wrong also seeing as I have a bf.

he's not listening to anyone and is basically in hot persuit of dating me.

[thatcountrykid]

Thats ridiculus and goes to show people will almost always
pull the race card when something doesnt go their way.

[Zenos]

Thats ridiculus and goes to show people will almost always
pull the race card when something doesnt go their way.

yeh and what's worse about it is he's now stalking me,and trying to force me and my bf to break up but that's not gonna happen especialy seeing as my parental units let my bf move in with me=)

[Stronk Serb]

Wooooooooooooow. That's some messed uo shit. You don't have to explain anything to him. Just say you are taken.

[OrKing]

Agreed, that's bullshit. You're about as racist for not wanting to date him due to lack of attraction as I am homophobic for not wanting to get down and dirty with a dude. Nothing against the people/person, I'm just not into anyones wang but my own. Anyway, point being I agree with you. You like who you like, the dude is probably just using the race thing to cushion his own ego. Of course I can't pretend that the dudes insecurity is completely invalid; it's not exactly history for people to be discriminated against due to race, a lot of people still aren't comfortable with interracial dating. For example, see if you can name a movie where a black man dates a white woman where that isn't the main theme of the film. There's not fucking many, apparently Hollywood decided that the population as a whole was uncomfortable seeing that. So yeah, getting off topic, my bad, my point was was that although I certainly agree with you it'd likely be beneficial and kind if you were sensitive about his probable insecurities within the currant circumstances. I'm not saying that you have or haven't been already, I don't know that, but it's just my thoughts. It's hard being rejected in any way, but especially when it comes to dating because no matter what you know it's personal one way or another.

Edit: Didn't see that he knows you're in a relationship. That should be enough for anyone to back the hell off; especially after being told directly that you're not interested and that you are happy in your currant relationship. He sounds like he needs to grow up a little, or at the very least change his mentality when it comes to others relationships and personal choice. Sorry for your situation mate, I hope he gets the picture sharpish.

[Karkat]

Wow, seems like he's pulling the race card. How wonderful.

I've had people pull the race card with me both ways. I've had some people (who I didn't even pursue, nor think of pursuing?) say that I was unattractive and they'd never date me because I was "a white chick". I asked one of them if he'd date a latina, and he said "yeah", and I said, "well I'm latina too. I'm mixed race". He went "Girl, you're a white bitch, stop trying to be something you're not. Don't be racist."

Because it's apparently racist to have heritage other than white if I look caucasian. Right.

(Actually the random unsolicited "I wouldn't tap that" is just about as aggravating as the random solicited "I'd tap that". Did I ask you? No, I didn't.)

I feel for you in the white department. I'm multiracial, so I feel it both ways, but seriously people need to let up about white people being racist if they do the slightest thing that offends you- because you're probably jumping to take offense. Some people just totally jump to take offense. You can practically SEE the sticks up their bum, they jump to conclusions so fast.

I look white, and people assume I'm being culturally appropriative, or racist, or a poser, or fake when I do things. They think I'm the "white girl trying to get some culture". Aye man, THAT'S racist. That's like the afro-latinas that get excluded. "You're not latina, you're black!" Drives me insane. What people don't realize (until they visit Tumblr) is that POC can be just as racist- whether towards white people, or to one another. Asians get excluded because "they don't have it as bad". Mixed race people the same way. Afro-latinas aren't really latinas, and if you look light enough, you're not really a POC, regardless of your actual heritage. It's messed up. In fact, multiracial people are actually so left out- every group you feel you should belong to excludes you. You're not THIS enough, you don't LOOK that, you don't belong here, you're THIS. Or even "What are you?"

Racism is not just a white people thing.

[Miserabilia]

That's not racist at all.
If you would say you don't want to be around him because you hate black people or something, that would be closer to racism.
But if you're dating someone else how is it racist?
Neither is it racist to be more attracted to one race than to another, it's not like you are purposfully insulting or discriminating.

[Dalcourt]

Ok today I got called racist because a black guy asked me to date him.
I explained to him that I am dating a guy (whose Asian..i'm white),then he went into a tirade about me not wanting to dating him because he's black,when he already knows out side of my race I only date Asian guys because other then members of my own race I am only attracted to Asian guys that way.

I don't believe you should date a person you are not attracted to,and I fail to see how it's racist to be either attracted only to members of your own race or to members of your own race and and members of only one other race.

Even his own family has told him he's wrong,and that he's trying to guilt trip me into dating him,and that's wrong also seeing as I have a bf.

he's not listening to anyone and is basically in hot persuit of dating me.

Well, I'm black myself and I don't think what you did is racist. If you are not attracted by a black guy, it's okay, so what...lots of blacks straight or gay don't find whites or Asians attractive, too...It's the same when someone says he thinks blondes are more attractive than brunettes...it's not a racist thing but simply a matter of taste.
This guy was just angry cuz you don't want him and couldn't think of anything else to say, that simple, right?

So, there's no need to worry about guys who play the racism card like that. And anyway would I want to date a guy who's just dating me cuz if kinda blackmailed him into it, I don't think a relationship based on this woul work. Just forget about him and his remarks.

[phuckphace]

has happened to me before as well. apparently I'm racist because I'm mainly attracted to blue eyed white boys. sorry that's just what my preference is, white boys are simply the most attractive to me. what am I supposed to do, feel bad about it and try to teach myself to like something I don't like for the sake of political correctness?

it's funny though, the accusation of racism in my case actually came from another white girl, one of those hippie social justice warriors who spends too much time on Tumblr. a gay friend of mine who is black asked me one time if I'm into black guys and I said "I'm not a coal burner, sorry" and we both laughed our asses off. some people just need to get thicker skins and take things less personally

[Zenos]

has happened to me before as well. apparently I'm racist because I'm mainly attracted to blue eyed white boys. sorry that's just what my preference is, white boys are simply the most attractive to me. what am I supposed to do, feel bad about it and try to teach myself to like something I don't like for the sake of political correctness?

it's funny though, the accusation of racism in my case actually came from another white girl, one of those hippie social justice warriors who spends too much time on Tumblr. a gay friend of mine who is black asked me one time if I'm into black guys and I said "I'm not a coal burner, sorry" and we both laughed our asses off. some people just need to get thicker skins and take things less personally

I totally agree people need thicker skin

[thatcountrykid]

yeh and what's worse about it is he's now stalking me,and trying to force me and my bf to break up but that's not gonna happen especialy seeing as my parental units let my bf move in with me=)

Well if the stalking gets too bad notify your local police or your in school police officer i you have one. Tell him that before you do so and he will most likely stop because he doesnt want to get into trouble.

People will get called racist for the stupidest thing. Apparently im a racist because i dresss like a country kid and "all the rednecks are racist."

[Syeuenevhuwi]

The heart wants what it wants and if it doesn't want a black guy that's okay. If you had said something negative about him being black then it would be racism but you didn't seem to, the guy just needs to grow up.

[liptonlee]

a fool pulling the racist card to mask his failed attempt...
seriously he can do better than that
and you must know you aren't a racist at all! don't let pathetic people get into your nerves.

[britishboy]

Ok today I got called racist because a black guy asked me to date him.
I explained to him that I am dating a guy (whose Asian..i'm white),then he went into a tirade about me not wanting to dating him because he's black,when he already knows out side of my race I only date Asian guys because other then members of my own race I am only attracted to Asian guys that way.

I don't believe you should date a person you are not attracted to,and I fail to see how it's racist to be either attracted only to members of your own race or to members of your own race and and members of only one other race.

Even his own family has told him he's wrong,and that he's trying to guilt trip me into dating him,and that's wrong also seeing as I have a bf.

he's not listening to anyone and is basically in hot persuit of dating me.
Just ignore him, he is hurt and most likely embarrassed. It is easier for him to think you did not date him because of his colour rather than you are not romantically attracted to him.

[Zenos]

Just ignore him, he is hurt and most likely embarrassed. It is easier for him to think you did not date him because of his colour rather than you are not romantically attracted to him.

I finally got him to understand

[Dalcourt]

I finally got him to understand

That's really good to hear. It's good when things that could turn out nasty turn out okay in the end.