Good In Bed

[DanielleIU]

Everyone's heard the term "good in bed," but what does it really mean? Even if it's subjective, how is it judged.... what makes someone good? And is it something we can learn or practice during puberty, or is it more just how each of us responds naturally to sex?

[CoryW]

Maybe it implys to just being able to satisfy who you with

[imanopenbook]

I think this is a great question. To me it means being able to make your partner really happy and satisfied. Everybody has things they like and don't like and being good means finding the good stuff and doing it over and over.

Not being selfish, to aggressive, to passive, things like that I guess. I think we can all learn to be good in bed but it takes practice ;) also communication is huge!

[jamie_n5]

It means that you really turn on and totally satisfy your partner sexually and emotionally.

[Jake445]

I've always thought that it means that you and your partner learn each other likes and dislikes in sex, so you can satisfy each other perfectly eventually.

[Candy in CT]

To me it a guy that can last more them 5 pumps and a girl one that does not have me telling her what to do, unless it is a newbie. Also guys know what your doing and you do not need a map to hit the right spots. Oh yea and watching porn will not really help you guys sorry.

[biancachica]

For me it's being able to satisfy my partner by whatever they define as satisfaction. It could also be different physically and emotionally depending on the nature of the relationship. It is very subjective though, so the best way to know is to communicate with your partner. I guess there is somewhat of a way to "practice" by having good values like respect, I guess you can also practice technique and learn as much about sex as you can, but in the end I think the best practice is actually experiencing it and figuring out what you and your partner like and dislike.

[mick01]

I think it means some physical things obviously, but I believe it starts with being emotionally connected to the person you're with. I just haven't heard much about the partner in one night stands being really good in bed.

[Alumni]

Being very passionate with whoever you're having sex with.
Enjoying the moment, being spontaneous at times.

(Masturbating less often actually is more helpful for sex than it is bad, stronger erections and usually lasting longer, just saying)

[rioo]

I think It is about treating her good, not forcing her to doing something dangerous including safety sex to avoid pregnancy. Also if she is not comfortable with the moment together then just stop it.

[Kiki03]

(Masturbating less often actually is more helpful for sex than it is bad, stronger erections and usually lasting longer, just saying)

For boys. Foe girls its the opposite. Its the girls who masturbate more who enjoy sex with a partner more fron what ive read.

[Ethan19]

I think people have spoken more about the emotional side rather than the physical. To me, it means a partner that knows what you want, when, how and how often etc. They don't need telling or stuff like that. When you find someone that's really good in bed, you'll know (if you have something to compare it to).

But of course there are different kinds of sex

[Dmaxd123]

to me it's a bunch of things:

but my #1 is being an active participant. like if you expect to just lay there and let the other person do all the work, make all the decisions... it's not as much fun

so the more you participate the more it will turn into a give/take experience, the more you will explore, the more both parties will enjoy

so all in all being good in bed is learning how to pleasure, be pleasured, and how to ask to be pleasured if the other person isn't hitting the spot just right

[Harrier]

I'm sure it's subjective. I bet any (or the majority of) self-confident people THINK they are good in bed lol. For one person to say that their sex partner was/is "good in bed" that mwans they were able to get them off better than most (or very very well in their perspective if they are a virgin or not very experienced). So THAT means that one girl could say I was "great in bed" and tell a thousand classmates while the other 12 girls I slept with (an example, only slept with my gf lol) could say I was "awful in bed" but tell nobody, and everybody (including me probably) will think I am great in bed.

So that was the long answer. I could give an equally long answer similar to others about how it's about giving, and listening, etc .... but the short answer you were probably looking for is probably: giving your sex partner an incredible orgasm.

[InternetTeen]

It means that she enjoyed having sex with him.
He's not in a hurry.
His goal is not orgasm, his goal is too have a good time
He is willing to explore, try out things and go with the flow
He's not ashamed of talking about or doing anything
He uses his hands, his mouth and all other tools available to him

[INACTIVEchaosphere]

Everyone's heard the term "good in bed," but what does it really mean? Even if it's subjective, how is it judged.... what makes someone good? And is it something we can learn or practice during puberty, or is it more just how each of us responds naturally to sex?

Good in bed is a measure of how much pleasure a person can give their partner while having sex or being intimate. Like you said, it's going to be up to each individual to decide because everyone likes what they like, and those tastes don't perfectly line up with others'. People can absolutely learn to be better in bed, both in general and by learning what their partner likes. It just takes communication and practice.

[ChloeF]

I thought it just meant being good at sex. le. he or she is a great fuck.

[surfinguy2018]

Mostly just good at what they do.

[Franciscofixe]

Everyone's heard the term "good in bed," but what does it really mean? Even if it's subjective, how is it judged.... what makes someone good? And is it something we can learn or practice during puberty, or is it more just how each of us responds naturally to sex?

Give plearure to the other

[Sofiya02]

I think it just means good at satisfying your partner during sex

[Skylark]

Well, being “good in bed” is different for every person you’re in bed with lol. Everyone has different preferences and different things that make them feel good during sex, so when you’re with a specific person long enough you’ll learn what they like and what they don’t like, and how to best make the experience enjoyable for both of you. It’s all subjective

[Jordan99]

For me it's being able to satisfy my partner by whatever they define as satisfaction. It could also be different physically and emotionally depending on the nature of the relationship. It is very subjective though, so the best way to know is to communicate with your partner. I guess there is somewhat of a way to "practice" by having good values like respect, I guess you can also practice technique and learn as much about sex as you can, but in the end I think the best practice is actually experiencing it and figuring out what you and your partner like and dislike.

I agree with Bianca. On a side note though, what makes my BF so good is the attention he gives me prior to intercourse and the fact that he always makes certain I've cum a few times before he cums. I think he would say I'm good in bed too because I also put his needs and satisfaction first. We've been together for a few years now and have learned each other's bodies, needs and desires; that is huge!

[gymgurl]

To me it a guy that can last more them 5 pumps and a girl one that does not have me telling her what to do, unless it is a newbie. Also guys know what your doing and you do not need a map to hit the right spots. Oh yea and watching porn will not really help you guys sorry.

i like u and ur style.. lol

[Claire Asteroid]

Doesn't good in bed just mean that someone sleeps a lot?

[gymgurl]

Doesn't good in bed just mean that someone sleeps a lot?

thats a sleepy head haha :P

[mikielikesit]

I think being good in bed. Would mean you are able to satisfy your partner and provide him/her a pleasurable experience. Fornusnguy we can reach orgasam pretty easy so one must be able to also know what it takes to bring his/her partner to that same kind orgasam . So being good in bed is just sex it's the whole act of From the first kiss to the last

[OwlBlue]

but what does it really mean? Even if it's subjective, how is it judged.... what makes someone good?

When someone makes you happy indeed and he or she is a good lover. You're heaven. You can learn yes, why not but i also think you're or not. It's like natural to be good in bed to me. Each of us responds naturally to sex yes.

[Adamant]

And there was me thinking it meant sharing the duvet and not snoring.:lol:
Seriously, although i can only talk from theory, isn't it about being able to please your partner (and that might be different from person to person) and not just trying to make it good for yourself?

[Miss Equestrian]

I think it is both emotionally and physically being able to satisfy your partner during the entire process of foreplay and intercourse.

[Natacha]

To know the partners anatomy well enough to know which buttons to push, and to have enoguh energy to follow through and not say "Stop I can't take it. I need a break"

[Pultost]

To know the partners anatomy well enough to know which buttons to push, and to have enoguh energy to follow through and not say "Stop I can't take it. I need a break"

Yeah it would be kind of a turn off if the partner had to take a break. One good reason to stay in shape. ;)

[Diable rouge]

I think it is both emotionally and physically being able to satisfy your partner during the entire process of foreplay and intercourse.

I think it's a good description.

[OwlBlue]

And there was me thinking it meant sharing the duvet and not snoring.:lol:
Seriously, although i can only talk from theory, isn't it about being able to please your partner (and that might be different from person to person) and not just trying to make it good for yourself?

I think it is both emotionally and physically being able to satisfy your partner during the entire process of foreplay and intercourse.

Right!:yes:

[Pultost]

Obviously, getting good in bed is a matter of practice, and growing on each other on the way. No one is automatically good in bed right of the bat.

[theblue]

Good in bed, for me, is someone who does not wake me up unwanted.
Good at sex, for me, is a guy who knows what I want, what I like. Also, some guys are really pushy with certain things, and it's obvious.

[Shiny Moon]

Being good in bed = a good fuck.
That's the short answer for me, and in my experience there's no need for emotions to have a good time, I've been with people I didn't know and they definitely were good in bed, so I think it's just physical.

[BaileyWill]

To me sex is sex.

There’s never really a bad sex experience since it always feels great

[Pultost]

To me sex is sex.

There’s never really a bad sex experience since it always feels great

I think it can be bad if one partner is just "taking" and not "giving". Sex is communication.

[Falcons_11]

Good in bed...Humm...pleasing your partner in every way imaginable. It could be said that you are doing good in bed when they start to scream loudly the name of some deity!!

[Allover Kelly]

When I'm in the mood I can be wild. It happened once where the poor guys back looked like a Hawk got his back from my fingernails. Also if I'm on top watch out. Cowgirls ride.

[RocketSkier]

Being good in bed = "destroy" your partner (in a positive way), he/she has to remember that fuck, that's the only rule.
And in my humble opinion there's non need for an "emotive connection" to have a good time while having sex.

[ShiningStar]

Being good in bed = "destroy" your partner (in a positive way), he/she has to remember that fuck, that's the only rule.
And in my humble opinion there's non need for an "emotive connection" to have a good time while having sex.

Very well put!

[damien]

when a girl tells me im good in bed its usually after ive made her cum a few times

[Spooky_Eli]

Being good in bed = "destroy" your partner (in a positive way), he/she has to remember that fuck, that's the only rule.
And in my humble opinion there's non need for an "emotive connection" to have a good time while having sex.

#Truth

[ashleigh7]

When I'm in the mood I can be wild. It happened once where the poor guys back looked like a Hawk got his back from my fingernails. Also if I'm on top watch out. Cowgirls ride.

Ha!!!! :) well said ;)

[Sheaman16]

I hope one day I will be able to satisfy my partner in bed, but I am a virgin right now!