What's wrong?

[nkk1]

Like 3 years ago I met this girl at school, we started knowing each other then after like 1 year I started having feelings for her :wub: but by this time we were just friends having funny talks,teasing her,playing,joking,etc and to what I could see she really liked me and sometimes seemed to be showing feelings for me and this happened for almost 2 years.

But right now she looks different, she no longer seem to enjoy having time together with me,not interested like before and I'm sure I didn't do any bad thing to her. :what: :(
anybody advice me about what might be going on plz! :what:

[Sailor Mars]

VTHQ :arrow: Relationships & Dating

[SpicyCurryyy]

She may have lost interest, or found another guy. I think I had the exact same situation two years back, and like you, joined this site for the sole purpose of asking the question you just did. I liked this girl and we had a relationship like you did for a whole year. She looked like she was interested, but after a year, she lost interest. I assume either because I didn't make a move and show my interest in the first place, or because she got a boyfriend. Or both.

[Croconaw]

She probably lost interest. I had this situation. I can’t hold a girlfriend for long due to the fact that they all seem to lose interest. They move on when they think something better comes along. It’s better to not try to force things. I tried to force a relationship and it ended up hurting me way more. Don’t do it.

Let her go. I’m sorry. :(

[scottishlooby]

This is really sad :( I guess sometimes people just grow apart over time

[NewLeafsFan]

I disagree with everyone that says that she lost interest. I mean, that is a possibility but I don't think that we know enough to know for sure. You said that she isn't as happy to hang out with you. Is she still spending time with you? If so, that's a good sign. I think that you should have a conversation with her about how she's doing and mention that she doesn't seem as happy as her normal self. She could have something going on that is making her unhappy that is completely unrelated to you.

[IcyCool]

I've never been in a relationship, so don't take my word for it, but what if she was waiting for you to make a move, and then when you didn't, she thought that she should try to play hard to get? Again, I've never been in a relationship, so there's absolutely nothing to back me up.

[Music Lover]

It could be anything. The best bet is to ask her. "Hey, I noticed that you seem to be a bit absent. Everything alright?"

She might have a lot on her mind in her private life.
She might be giving up on you because you haven't made a move and she thinks you're not interested in anything more than friendship.
Or her behaviour might be because of something totally different.

How do you know what's going on? Ask her! :)

I she doesn't give you a proper answer, just tell her that you miss your talks and having fun. The conversation could go anywhere from that.

[Ravensravens]

She maybe lost interest. That happens some times and there's not a lot you can do about it. It would be best if you moved on. I believe you will find someone else.

[Alumni]

She probably lost interest.

If you're looking to date this chick, she probably was leading you on in hopes that you'd ask her. Girls rarely ever ask guys, they kinda just lead onto it.

Girls who like guys a lot tend to have a lot of patience with those guys, but if they just stay low, they move on to find someone else who is suitable for them.

You'll find someone though. You'll feel it. Your heart will fall onto your sleeve, and you'll just sink in overwhelming warmth.



Legit girlfriends who stand by you no matter how many times you mess up are so hard to come by, my first girlfriend was really something I loved because she was so appalling and interesting, but she never saw that in herself and sought out others who were exactly like her without understanding it.

She was amazing, but she had a lot of emotional duress. There were times when she'd be very open and we could talk very deeply, and other times when she was very downward and hurt. We related in that context, and I really think that's why we stayed together for so long, because we took care of each other.

The first time she dumped me was because of how she felt. She had a shitty day and just dumped me and I was a mess. Eventually, I just couldn't hold back and told her I missed her, and we ended up dating again.

But by that time, everything was changing. We were going in different directions, and I wish I would've held her hand a second longer, hugged her a bit longer, or just stared into her eyes just to feel that sense of understanding and warmth and companionship.

I miss her so much.

My moral is; if you really want her, do what you need to do to be with her. Screw what everyone else thinks. Don't live regretting what could've been, especially if the opportunity is there.

Tell her that she's important to you, and that she makes you feel like the days are much brighter. Establish that importance as to why you feel this way.