Building a relationship

[benlodge123]

This girl Lauren doesnt want to be with me. Therefore we decided to be friends which i am more than cool with.
Today, i got home from sixth form and noticed i had a dm on instagram from a girl called Alicia asking for my snapchat. I asked how she found me and she said she didnt know, she stumbled across me. I gave her my snapchat and i asked her where she was from. Turns out she is from about 20 mins away by car. She is in the year below me.
I am not sure whether this is just her general persona, but she seems... very nice. How can i build a relationship with Alicia to get a possible relationship?
How long should I speak to her over snapchat before maybe meeting her?
This might all be me over thinking and her just being a very nice person and she isnt actually into me.
Which is why i would also like to know how she is feelings, over text.
I know some of you guys do not agree with getting to know someone over text; i do not either, but for now it will have to do since i am in the middle of starting a new job and cathing up on work.

[SpicyCurryyy]

No I think it's fine the more you talk over snap the more comfortable she'll be with you and eventually she'll want to hang out in person.

[lliam]

Simply talk talk talk to her. Depending on the content of her answers and how she responds to you, ask the right questions at the right moments. Even if it is just via text, for now.

[benlodge123]

Simply talk talk talk to her. Depending on the content of her answers and how she responds to you, ask the right questions at the right moments. Even if it is just via text, for now.

I feel quite happy about this girl because she is not blunt. She writes long answers! this is a good sign :)

[NewLeafsFan]

There is something really wrong with this whole situation.

You are not "more than cool" with becoming friends with the girl that you previously liked. If you were, you would not have felt the need to mention it. Cause if you were ok with her, you would not have felt the need to mention her in this post. My guess is that to prove to yourself you are ok with it, you are trying to rush in to dating someone else. Terrible idea. It's a form of rebound from rejection and immediate sex. Distance yourself from your "friend" so that you can properly recover.

As for the weird online stalker that "came across" you online, tell her that you are not looking for a relationship at this time. Trust me, you can't handle it right now. And it's more polite than telling her what she really is. Do not wait for a response. Block her number and all forms of social media.

[ska8er]

Keep texting with her. The more u
communicate the closer u will become.

[comeoneileen]

i had the same situation with this guy the year above me that i met at a party and we talked on snapchat constantly and after about a month i invited him to a new years party, so my advice is maybe invite her to a social thing so that if it's awkward there's other people there.

[Ethan19]

I don't understand why you said your first statement, why would you mention the girl that rejected you?

As for the second girl, if she actively found you and decided to make the first move. It is usually a hint that they like you already. If you want to get close to her, just carry on talking. As for when to meet, whenever. Anytime meeting face to face is immeasurably better than texting.

But ask yourself whether you want this girl because of who she is, or is it because you want to get over the rejection of the other with another girl.

[josephadams]

Yes, you need to talk to her.

[Chrisbm]

Don’t go to far. Yes you should keep talking to her, but you got to meet up in person

[ceto2]

Talk about what u both like and take it day by day

[Jordan99]

Don't move too fast or expect to much. Right now it's just talking via text or snapchat. Let it flow. May turn out well or may not. Don't go into it with any expectations.

[scottishlooby]

Personally I would feel kinda wary getting close to someone who just randomly added me until I knew for sure it was legit (like talking on the phone/skype etc)