Am I being desperate for love or do I just need a companion?

[Aventzger]

I've been single for about 4 years and last month, I went out on a couple dates with this guy and it felt like it was going really well but he was someone rather clingy and I wasn't used to messaging someone very frequently. Soon he got rather upset and he started to cold shoulder me and didn't want to speak with me.

Since that week or so dating him, I started to feel lonely. I went back to Tinder(same app I used to meet my previous date) but I couldn't find anyone that I really liked. And even those I found someone attracted to, I never got matched with them.

Then I have friends coming to me for relationship advice. I do by best to help them but after that, I start to feel alone and wonder when will my turn be.

I always told myself that my patience will pay off but at times I wonder if is it even waiting for what is unknown? Sometimes I will feel like I should just get a dog and I hug and kiss my pillow, treating it like a person when I sleep.

Sometimes these feelings of loneliness are so strong, I just cry myself to sleep.

Am I just desperate for love or I just need a companion?

[SethfromMI]

Well it does sound like you are lonely for sure, but at the same time, you shouldn't rush to be in a relationship with just anyone. Those things do take time to find the right person. If you rush, you mind end up in a relationship, but if it is not with the right person it is not going to make you any happier. try to be patient, the right person will come around for you.

[ska8er]

U have friends coming to u for
relationship advice? Should b
the other way around. I believe
u r lonely. I would get out and
join a group or gym and meet
different people.

[NewLeafsFan]

I know how frustrating it is to be told to be patient. I've been there and am technically still there. Just remember that it is a lot worse to be a the wrong relationship than to be in no relationship. So despite the frustration that comes with it, patients is almost your only choice.

The only other advice that I can give you is to not spend time dwelling on it. Don't get me wrong, still go on tinder, still try other ways too. If it comes your only hobby that is not ok. Expand your interests. Join a club, gym, develop a hobby, ect. It makes you a much more interesting person to date when the time comes. Also, you need to become ok with not being in a relationship. Throughout your life, there will be a lot of singles times and if you don't accept that I worry that you will allow yourself to enter the wrong relationships for the wrong reasons.

Good luck.

[Alumni]

Relationships are complicated. Love is complicated.

Falling in love is the greatest feeling in this world but having it end hurts so much.

Take some time. Talk to people. Learn to like new things. Take care of yourself before you take care of others. In order to learn to be with others, you must learn how to be with yourself. That's how you gain the tolerance and patience for others, and you learn to accept them even more.

[jamie_n5]

Things will happen for you man. Just keep looking and being patient. I don't think you are desperate. Just maybe lovesick.