Heartbreak

[Beach_Blonde]

What's the best way to handle heartbreak? Like I just want to smoke and get super high and call it a day but not sure that's the healthiest way to process.

Background me and this girl have been going out off and on since I was 13. We'd date then break up and stay friends, then we would be FWB, then we would date again. And it's always been this way. The biggest problem was that she never wanted to acknowledge we were dating, or that we were ever more then friends. But I know she really cared and she was just scared.

But now I think she wants to call it quits for good and I'm not sure what to do.

[ska8er]

Ask her if it is really over then
u will know but tell her u know
u have been good friends but
the on and off is hurting u. If
she is scared try and help her
some way to talk it out.

If nothing works then get busy
doing something to get ur mind
off of thinking bout it.

[StacyD]

Ask her. Simple. Communication is key and solves so much.
And p.s., if she wants to call it quits, there's nothing you can do. You're not going to force her to stick around. And if you have to plead your case or talk her into sticking around, that's really not a healthy situation to be in. Bottom line? She wants to end whatever it is you two have, guess what? It's ended. And it sounds like she was never serious. Doesn't mean she never cared. Means she never wanted to be committed.

[Alumni]

Well, when my girlfriend broke up with me in an on and off relationship, I was really bummed for a few months (and I still am, somewhat).

If you really feel that she's not committed, then step it back and try to find something that works for the two of you. Is it absolutely over or is it going backwards?

Look, it hurts. It's going to hurt. If you love something so much and it leaves you so abruptly, it's going to leave a marking on your life that will be there for awhile.

If you really feel like you guys are going to move on, then take some time to just reminisce with yourself. Take some time to talk to someone. Take it all in. Take care of yourself, don't fall into a hard depression.

Cry. Cry a lot. Cry so much that you'll want to stop crying. And then get yourself out of the fetal position, take a cold shower, and realize that this is all real. This is it.

And please, don't try replacing this empty emotion so quickly. That's a rebound and those things are horrible, because you're just doing it to fill that void and not to actually enjoy the person.

You'll know when to get back into it, I know I did.

[jamie_n5]

It is hard for any relationship to end. But you are young and most likely will experience several relationships before finding that right and special person. Be strong and try keeping busy and looking for an other girl you want to meet and get close to. Don't do anything stupid or that you will regret later. Good luck.

[NewLeafsFan]

It sounds to me like you've gotten yourself in a messy circle. Become friends, best friends, date, heartbreak. You need to break the circle to avoid getting hurt again and again. It is very unusual for ppl that break up to get back together permanently. The only way to do this is to distance yourself from her once you break up this time.

Try to spend time with other friends. Get a new hobby, join a club, start going to the gym, or do some other activity that will expand your horizons. Good luck!

[comeoneileen]

personally i would either say it's all or nothing and say if she doesn't want you now then you're not gonna stay around if ygm. as for the heartbreak i usually go for the sort your life out and just change everything, like tidying out your room and changing it around, this also works as a good distraction for a few days.

[Franciscofixe]

What's the best way to handle heartbreak? Like I just want to smoke and get super high and call it a day but not sure that's the healthiest way to process.

Background me and this girl have been going out off and on since I was 13. We'd date then break up and stay friends, then we would be FWB, then we would date again. And it's always been this way. The biggest problem was that she never wanted to acknowledge we were dating, or that we were ever more then friends. But I know she really cared and she was just scared.

But now I think she wants to call it quits for good and I'm not sure what to do.

Get another girlfriend/boyfriend. Spend time with friends