My mum still treats me like a little boy

[Stanley02]

Hi guys, I’m Stanley, I’m 15 and go to boarding school

Whenever I go home from school in the holidays, my mum treats me like a 5 year old. Whenever I go number 2, she walks in randomly and gets stuff and even checks that I’m wiping properly! She also walks in when I’m changing, showering and insists on washing my hair when I’m in the bath. Although I still look about 9 (facially and physically) I am 15 and would like to be treated as a teenager... is anyone else treated like this and what do you recommend I do... I’m a very shy person so don’t tell me to just confront her as I don’t think I could.

Thanks guys!
Stanley

[West Coast Sheriff]

I would say that you appreciate all that she does for you but you are growing up/ becoming a young man and that her actions are borderline innapropriate.

The word privacy also comes to mind and if she intrudes on your privacy you can respectfully remind her. "i'm not decent," is one phrase you can try using.

[CoryW]

My dad does the same sometimes. Don't worry because they're gonna do it anyway

[Stanley02]

I would say that you appreciate all that she does for you but you are growing up/ becoming a young man and that her actions are borderline innapropriate.

The word privacy also comes to mind and if she intrudes on your privacy you can respectfully remind her. "i'm not decent," is one phrase you can try using.


That doesn’t help, she just says: ‘I’ve seen it all before’ or ‘you’ve nothing much to hide’ and comes in anyway

[West Coast Sheriff]

"This is beyond innapropriate, you are crossing the boundaries." If she does not change, you may need to be more firm with her.

[Stanley02]

"This is beyond innapropriate, you are crossing the boundaries." If she does not change, you may need to be more firm with her.

As I said, I’m quite shy and she’s the opposite

[West Coast Sheriff]

If this is normal in your household, there is always acceptance. She is the way she is. You could learn her timing and schedule yourself so that you decrease how often this happens.

[Tom_theflash]

Hahah the same for me, i'm a mama's boy.
It can be weird sometimes but i love her too much to say something against (although mine is not on your mom's level)

[Ethan19]

To me it's not weird what she does because that's normal in so many cultures. She's looking after you the way she knows how. And I mean, her comments aren't wrong for the privacy part. Just maybe say you feel a little uncomfortable being naked in front of her.

Also, look at it from her perspective, she doesn't see you for so long, you're still her baby boy in her eyes. She doesn't see what's wrong with it, so the only way to change it, is mention what you think is wrong with it.

[jamie_n5]

To your mom you are her baby. I know it must be frustrating and even embarrassing. You really need to stand your ground if you want this to stop. If your bathroom and bedroom have locks on the doors use them and keep insisting that she gives you privacy.

[Turbofan explosion]

Try locking the door when you use the bathroom

[Stanley02]

Try locking the door when you use the bathroom

We don’t have a lock

[CoryW]

We don’t have a lock

Just ask her nice not to come in. That what I did and it worked for a week ... Not complaining at least my dad is a male.

[Jake445]

Well, the only person I'm fine with being in the room when I'm showering etc. is my twin, so I'd say that your Mom doing that is a bit unusual. I'd say that with her not seeing you that often maybe she just wants to care for you a lot more than is necessary or wanted?
Our bathroom doesn't have a lock either but my parents always respected my privacy. If you want her to stop or at least do it less often it seems like you have to tell her that eventually though.

[kro814]

Truly a rude thing to say to someone that is asking for advice. Your size has nothing to do with your right to privacy.

[BluePi]

I know what you feel like my mom was like that a few years ago, just talk to her and say that you're already a teenager and liked to be treated as one, ands have privacy

[Stanley02]

Well, the only person I'm fine with being in the room when I'm showering etc. is my twin, so I'd say that your Mom doing that is a bit unusual. I'd say that with her not seeing you that often maybe she just wants to care for you a lot more than is necessary or wanted?
Our bathroom doesn't have a lock either but my parents always respected my privacy. If you want her to stop or at least do it less often it seems like you have to tell her that eventually though.

I’ve asked her in the past but she just says ‘I’ve seen it all already’ or ‘you have nothing to hide anyway’ or something similar

[Anonymousteenager01]

Have a wank and if she walks in she’ll be sure not to again. I suppose it might work.

[CoryW]

Have a wank and if she walks in she’ll be sure not to again. I suppose it might work.

Lol I don't believe I would. He might not let you go to the bathroom alone again

[ChaseDakoda]

To me it's not weird what she does because that's normal in so many cultures. She's looking after you the way she knows how. And I mean, her comments aren't wrong for the privacy part. Just maybe say you feel a little uncomfortable being naked in front of her.

Also, look at it from her perspective, she doesn't see you for so long, you're still her baby boy in her eyes. She doesn't see what's wrong with it, so the only way to change it, is mention what you think is wrong with it.

I totally agree with this guy. If your the first born, nothing will change. The only thing that bothers me I'd you wiping after a #2.

If you say anything I am sure your life will get worse,

Just leave it run its time out, you eventually will have a boy or girlfriend, that's when it might stop.

Maybe she has seen everything, so what, it's not like she gets aroused,

On that note leave it run its toll, your fine.

[Max the Disenchanter]

Sounds fucked uo

[CuteGuy889]

Thats how moms are...even my mom used to come when I have to poop in a mall or a outside place (eg cousins' place etc), get me to take my pants fully off and hold them for me...
As I get skid marks of my undies sometimes in few instances, she checked if I clean myself properly after a big job...
I think your kiddie looks also play a part.....I too used to be stick skinny and kiddie looking when these things used to happen...


But after 15 yrs I gained weight..(gone from 85lbs to 160+ now, in 2y!...Now I'm 17) and now look a bit like a teen...so the most embarrrasing intrusions are no more...

But she still insits that I buy all light coloured undies (to tell them if they are dirty) and get me to fit them on for her to see and feel the fit..

[Stanley02]

Thats how moms are...even my mom used to come when I have to poop in a mall or a outside place (eg cousins' place etc), get me to take my pants fully off and hold them for me...
As I get skid marks of my undies sometimes in few instances, she checked if I clean myself properly after a big job...
I think your kiddie looks also play a part.....I too used to be stick skinny and kiddie looking when these things used to happen...


But after 15 yrs I gained weight..(gone from 85lbs to 160+ now, in 2y!...Now I'm 17) and now look a bit like a teen...so the most embarrrasing intrusions are no more...

But she still insits that I buy all light coloured undies (to tell them if they are dirty) and get me to fit them on for her to see and feel the fit..

None of my friends mums do it and I get some weird looks in public bathrooms when I come out of a stall with my mum

[jerrion]

Hi guys, I’m Stanley, I’m 15 and go to boarding school

Whenever I go home from school in the holidays, my mum treats me like a 5 year old. Whenever I go number 2, she walks in randomly and gets stuff and even checks that I’m wiping properly! She also walks in when I’m changing, showering and insists on washing my hair when I’m in the bath. Although I still look about 9 (facially and physically) I am 15 and would like to be treated as a teenager... is anyone else treated like this and what do you recommend I do... I’m a very shy person so don’t tell me to just confront her as I don’t think I could.

Thanks guys!
Stanley

i'd flip my head if my mom did that but i can understand that she is missing you . However you are in an age that you need more privacy and you need to start doing things on your own so you have to make her stop , convince her that you are grown up enough , try explaining it to her in a way that she will understand

[Stanley02]

i'd flip my head if my mom did that but i can understand that she is missing you . However you are in an age that you need more privacy and you need to start doing things on your own so you have to make her stop , convince her that you are grown up enough , try explaining it to her in a way that she will understand

As I’ve said before, she just says something like ‘I’ve seen it all before’ or ‘you’ve nothing much to hide’

[jerrion]

As I’ve said before, she just says something like ‘I’ve seen it all before’ or ‘you’ve nothing much to hide’

Leave the house.. Jk

[Tylerboy13]

He don't fill bad cuz like when me an mum out i have to go to girls bathroom i can't go by my self

[TWDjacob]

I am not treated like that but I can definitely see why it's frustrating. It doesn't need to be like a big confrontation with her, next time she walks in say something like you are not a kid anymore, you're growing up and you need your privacy. It may be hard for her to understand at first but she will eventually get it because she just wants to care for you and in her eyes your still her little kid

[Stanley02]

He don't fill bad cuz like when me an mum out i have to go to girls bathroom i can't go by my self

Same as me

[NewLeafsFan]

That is really unusual. I don't know what else to say. I would suggest talking to her about it. When she asks to inspect your ass, say NO!

[Dalcourt]

OP banned :locked: