What did your parents do when they found you were Self Harming?

[Xephinar]

I haven't told them yet, but I haven't ever cut or burned myself, it isn't that bad as cutting/burning.

[Tarannosaurus]

Mine laughed, but we have some family issues. Honestly I think that all self harm is serious, not just cutting/ burning, because you are doing it with the intent to harm yourself.

[Karkat]

Mine laughed, but we have some family issues. Honestly I think that all self harm is serious, not just cutting/ burning, because you are doing it with the intent to harm yourself.

Agreed. I used to bite/hit myself when I was younger, but there was so much rage, even if I didn't hurt myself as much.

Mine screamed at me, and told me I was worthless and godless. Family issues over here as well.

[Deiform]

my parents dont really care. They dont mention anything. They did at first, but not anymore.

[Harley Quinn]

They started off with the whole concerned parent shit, like they'd do regular body checks on me to see if I was still cutting myself. They'd take away all my sharp items, anything that they thought could be used as something to hurt myself with, was taken away. All that good stuff, now they don't care and haven't for a few years. They go to the point of making jokes about it to a degree.

[Seemyheart]

My parents gave me this super long lecture...saying what I did was "stupid". And I am "too good of a girl to be doing this"... yeah, right! They did random checks to see if I was still doing it. Now, they rarely ask. No more checks. My mom asks if I have recently, and I always say no and she believes me.

[Castle of Glass]

firstly, any intentionally inflicted harm, for me classifies as selfharm, so stay safe.

but my parents do not know.

[project_icarus]

I never actually intended on telling my mother, father or sister but they found out, unfortunately under pretty shitty circumstances, when my cutting and burning first became very out of control.

My sister wasn't really phased at all, but my mum was very aggressive.

[ksdnfkfr]

My cousin found out and told my parents about it. They looked me over good.
Then took me to my pediatrician and my psychologist. Everything was basically lined up ahead of time to handle something like that. Was just the latest event in a series of problem child events. Saying that from my point of view not theirs. Anyways received CBT and have been good with it for a long time now except for one little relapse a few nights ago.

[DarkHorse4eva]

My mom started yelling at me and thought I was dying. My dad froze... He stopped doing anything and just stared at nothing for half an hour

[Desuetude]

I never told them but my parents found out themselves. Mum came into my room crying and tried to pull up my trousers to see which made me feel fucking uncomfortable. A couple days later when I went to my dads he came into my room asked if they were deep and for his knife back which he realised had gone missing and then left. They never brought it up again, thank fuck.

[Dalcourt]

Nobody ever really cared.

[thatgothgirluknow]

well my grandma didnt care at all she just said ur the one gona have scars and my mom made me promise to call her if i ever felt like cutting again

[Whovian_Scar]

Well im too scared to tell my parents... I think theyd beat me

[Katiya]

I got beat for it. And thoroughly told I was a worthless piece of shit and a monster and that I should kill my self and go to hell.

Just made me cut more and very deep. My family has some serious issues. We would get violent a lot. I had my arm fractured fighting with my dad. Seams this is a tad better now, but still nothing like it should be.

Went over like a lead balloon. They found out because I cut too deep and got blood all over everything and couldn't hide it in time. I didn't tell, I would never have.

Well im too scared to tell my parents... I think theyd beat me

That's what happened to me. If you have doubt's I wouldn't tell anyone. Its not worth getting the shit beat out if you or tortured by horrible words, kicked out of ur house.

I wouldn't tell if I were u.

[maddogmj77]

My dad found out because I was talking to my GF about it, and he went through my phone. He threatened to take away my phone if I didn't tell him why I did it. I just sat there, in the car, very nervous and quiet. I never told him, he said as long as I never do it again, he'll leave me alone. He's gonna check me for cuts, but I don't know when, how often, and for how long. He also told my mom. I'm gonna stop cutting until he stops checking me, I don't know if I will continue after that. Just have to wait and see how I feel.

[Hallie]

My mom saw it when i accidentally ruffled my sleeve and she kept saying "Oh my god, oh my god!" and she ran into her room and I'm pretty sure she started crying but I just kind of sat there for a few minutes feeling numb. I came in and said "It's not as bad as it looks" and she was like "Well it looks really bad" and then she started saying that no one can find out about this because it would be embarrassing and people would think she was a bad mother.
Recently my parents found out again that I was still doing it, and apparently my mom had told my dad about it, but he didn't remember. My mom was like "So when did this start happening again?" and my dad was like "Again? this happened before?" and my mom was like "yes I told you like a million times."
Then my dad started asking things like "This doesn't mean you're gonna go commit suicide on me, does it?" in a joking kind of way. it was horrible.

[FullyAlive]

My dad doesn't know, well he was never told but my arm/legs have fairly obvious scars on and he's seen them a lot so he must have guessed but we aren't close so he's never bought it up.

My mum cried, shouted, told me to stop then never bought it up again until she found out I hadn't stopped then she left me to it until I went to her about it and asked if she'd help me get help. Which she did. A lot of other stuff happened and it was all kinda messy but I was a lot better off with her knowing it helped me get the help I needed.

[xXl0sth0peXx]

My parents flipped shit and raged. I locked myself in my room and heard slamming and yelling, it was not pretty. Then my mom didn't sleep for a couple days and blamed me and then talked to my therapist who wasn't concerned since she knew already and it was let go and never brought up again. I flat out refused to show them ever, and same to this day.

I'm pretty sure they think it's been years since anything.

[ieric]

My mom just cried and said he never thought she'd have a sun who was depressed :/

[myfoodisnotshared]

I've never told my parents, and I don't ever want them to find out. But my sister walked into my room one morning, and since I'd forgotten to wear a top, saw the scars on my arms.

I tried lying but she saw right through me - and it turned out she'd cut in the past too. Not as much as me, but enough to understand. And she said I could always go to her, and though now it's really crappy because I desperately need to talk but she's always busy, it was a really powerful moment. I'd never spoken about those things before, and it really helped.

So it doesn't have to be all crying and screaming. That's not to say you should self harm, no way in hell, but you can be surprised by how supportive your family can be when you tell them you're having a hard time. Yes, they may be awful - that same sister who really cares about gay rights said she was embarrassed that I was bi, but it wasn't because she meant it, it was just a stupid turn of phrase. But the crying and screaming doesn't last forever, and I think most parents would try to help, though I get why it would be something so impossibly hard to face.

Best solution? Tell them you're having a hard time, and don't, don't self-harm. It's really just an awful mess.

[rianvice]

My parents don't suspect a thing... Recently my school sent out these letters to certain parents (including mine) that they suspected their children were depressed/anxious blah blah blah. My mom started asking me questions such as "do you feel sad sometimes" yada yada yada. But she doesn't suspect me of cutting...

[Chrisscotland]

My parent found out last night because I was in hospital with really bad cuts, my mum was upset because she thought I was trying to kill myself and my dad didn't say much at first now is asking me lots of questions about it, they have searched my room for sharp things and said they will check my arms all the time to see if I cut again. its going to be hell now I just know it. :(

[lawliett]

My parents found out when I was very depressed and and was admitted to a psychiatric hospital then I found out I had schizophrenia, and this made the self harming worse.
They have given me a lot of support, I know im lucky, they were shocked and upset when they found out.

[mermaidfairy]

They yelled at me and said that I was doing it for attention. They took away my electronics. They think I've stopped so I'm screwed this summer.