My ‘best friend’ keeps ditching me

[Ilove318]

She promised every Thursday we can hang out together. She keeps leaving me and not saying anything. Me being the desperate and friendless person I am, I go after her and then we hang out. This week I didn’t and she made an excuse for recess. She never turned up at lunch. Then when I was going home, she texted me telling me what a fun lunch she had. I replied in a bored and detached way, so yep. I thought we were good friends and now she just makes fun of me all the time. She picks on me for wearing headphones and things like that. I talked to my grandma and she said ‘don’t worry about it’ but I can’t not worry! It matters to me! Help!!!!!

[NewLeafsFan]

For whatever reason, your friendship with this girl seems to be nearing its conclusion. Spend time expanding your horizons. Talk to other people that you know. Most ppl are very open to expanding their groups of friends. Keep that in mind.

[Bleppo]

You should never feel pressured to single handedly maintain a relationship, its requires effort from both sides

[Ilove318]

Thanks guys, I guess I'll just start drifting away from her like she did and if she wants to maintain the friendship, she can talk to me. I would be willing to give her another chance.

[jamie_n5]

If she acts the way she did to you then she never really was a close friend. She just lead you on and took advantage. You will find an other friend that really deserves you. Just keep trying.

[imanopenbook]

It sounds like she is trying to pull away maybe. I think you should too. There is no reason to keep putting yourself out there to be rejected by a 'friend'.

Don't be mean about it because maybe you will be good friends later again in life.

[ska8er]

Ur "best friend" is not ur best friend.
A good friend will not hurt another.
Its best to look for someone else.

[Ilove318]

I wanted to tell her about my depression and self harm but got scared, so she called me when I was on the bus and said 'do you wanna kill yourself or something?' In those exact words. That made me feel scared she would tell people on her bus so I said no and she got mad at me for not telling her anything. I guess it is my fault. She texted me today saying that she has been downgraded from my best friend to friend. I said no because my little brother me as there, but she has. My self destructive behaviour is distancing me from everyone, even my once close family. So I guess this is no different. Thanks fir the advice guys.

[MikaylaP]

This isnt healthy. She doesn't sound like a good 'best friend'. Not very supportive....

[Just JT]

This isn’t not how a “friend”treats a “friend”
Stop engaging with her
It’s a toxic relationship

[Ilove318]

I nearly did, but now we are in the same debating team. (:) sarcasm)
Well, we don't really talk, so I think it's going to be okay now. Thanks a lot!