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Double
March 20th, 2018, 01:15 AM
So, we're both 16. I'm male, she's female. We've been friends for about a year now and have become pretty close and get along really well. Have classes together, have hung out outside of class a couple times, etc. I can say this for certain and there's no confusion.

I'm gonna call her Eve, just to make it less confusing to read.

Eve has a friend named Kay who I get along with really well too. We're all good friends, and I've been told a lot about how I'd be cute w/ Kay blah blah blah. It's high school. Now, this was really simple 8 months ago when I wasn't interested in Eve.

Now, I'm trying to figure out if Eve is into me as more than a friend and I can't tell for the life of me. We've been texting/snapchatting everyday. She typically initiates, but then takes forever to respond. I dunno if she's playing games or if it's just that I'm on the back burners. A few months back, I gave her advice on a guy she was talking to from another school. I did this for the sake of being a friend, since I didn't feel it was fair to her to not help. I felt completely friend zoned, but have felt her change recently. (I don't think other guy is out of the picture) Like I said, she started texting me/snapchatting me daily and has suggested we do things in the future together. She's active on my social media posts, commenting on pretty much every other post I make.

And the other guy was brought up by one of her friends when the three of us were talking. I noticed she kind of shied away from the conversation and looked away from me. I'm thinking she might be weighing her options with me and the other guy, or she just knows that I have feelings for her and doesn't want to confront me about it.

Now, I think Kay may have a big crush on me. Like I said, we're good friends but we just don't talk as much as I talk to Eve and I don't know her as well. I am not against a relationship with Kay and I think she's really cool and pretty. But, I have like 4 scenarios in my head:

1. I get with Kay and probably never have a chance with Eve. Potentially lose friendship with Eve if I ever break up with Kay.

2. I pursue a relationship with Eve and get turned away, now it's weird between me and Eve, and me and Kay.

3. I end up in a relationship with Eve and I don't think Kay would be super upset.

4. I hold it in and just remain in two platonic relationships or find a new a girl and get over Eve.

I understand that with pretty much every relationship, you risk losing a friendship and I'm guessing most people can relate.

It does feel good to just put it all out there. Thanks if you're still reading.

I'm just a confused teenage boy who feels oblivious to everything. lmao

NewLeafsFan
March 20th, 2018, 02:58 AM
Ok. Stop speculating! Stop playing games and have an honest in-person conversation with Eve to figure out if she is into you. Guessing gets you know where. At that point, if she is into you, ask her out. If not, way the pros and cons of going out with Kay.

West Coast Sheriff
March 20th, 2018, 11:20 AM
Remember that if they are friends, they will share with one another their knowledge of you. Do NOT try to play them to see who likes you more or to see who is the best option.
I say this from experience. They will figure it out if you are dishonest with either of them.

Try to hang out and spend some time with Eve. If she turns you down, know to go for Kay. But if I were Kay, I would hate the idea of being a second choice.

Double
March 20th, 2018, 12:08 PM
Ok. Stop speculating! Stop playing games and have an honest in-person conversation with Eve to figure out if she is into you. Guessing gets you know where. At that point, if she is into you, ask her out. If not, way the pros and cons of going out with Kay.

What? Stop speculating? huh? jk, I have an issue where I do that a lot. Yeah, I probably need to find a casual way to bring it up.

Remember that if they are friends, they will share with one another their knowledge of you. Do NOT try to play them to see who likes you more or to see who is the best option.
I say this from experience. They will figure it out if you are dishonest with either of them.

Try to hang out and spend some time with Eve. If she turns you down, know to go for Kay. But if I were Kay, I would hate the idea of being a second choice.

Yeah, I'm definitely going to be keeping that in mind.

I guess I should clarify by saying that I would NOT start a relationship with Kay until after I was completely over Eve, for the reason you stated. I'd feel way too guilty if I did that and that's kind of asking for a disaster in the relationship.

Thanks for the responses