nerdysoccergirl
March 17th, 2018, 11:34 PM
Hey,
I need your help guys. i've been playing soccer ever since I was very little, 4 or 5, I am older and doing my last year of high school. My dad has always been the awesome parent who pushed me to do better, to be better. He's always wanted me to play some university soccer, wanted it more than I do. But I realized one year ago that I enjoyed playing the game without having to play in university to be happy. But my dad has always had the idea that I was made to play on a top university team, but I don't feel the same way. I like the game and want to play for the rest of my life, but not in that way. I don't feel that by playing on a university team will make me happier. I have done several I.D camp or showcases for universities, but I feel more stressed than anything when doing them and I don't feel that much happy you know? I fear that if I tell my dad the truth that he won't care about me in sports anymore. He won't come and encourage me, which makes me sad, because I like when he comes. So I told him today and he got pretty pished and told me that I should have told him earlier and that he would have stopped paying for all my soccer and said that university will be very expensive without receiving any help from him if I don't play soccer etc. I don't know what to do, I feel more happy when I play without a worry, for fun to win, but not to be the next messi. I want to continue to play to be active, to be competitive, to make new friends and to find a healthy way to express my stress out of school. But with my dad around and the way he tries to push me and always talk about playing at university etc. I find myself more stressed than anything else and not happy. I have good grades and will go to university for sure btw. Its just the soccer part with my dad that bothers me. What should I do? :confused:
I need your help guys. i've been playing soccer ever since I was very little, 4 or 5, I am older and doing my last year of high school. My dad has always been the awesome parent who pushed me to do better, to be better. He's always wanted me to play some university soccer, wanted it more than I do. But I realized one year ago that I enjoyed playing the game without having to play in university to be happy. But my dad has always had the idea that I was made to play on a top university team, but I don't feel the same way. I like the game and want to play for the rest of my life, but not in that way. I don't feel that by playing on a university team will make me happier. I have done several I.D camp or showcases for universities, but I feel more stressed than anything when doing them and I don't feel that much happy you know? I fear that if I tell my dad the truth that he won't care about me in sports anymore. He won't come and encourage me, which makes me sad, because I like when he comes. So I told him today and he got pretty pished and told me that I should have told him earlier and that he would have stopped paying for all my soccer and said that university will be very expensive without receiving any help from him if I don't play soccer etc. I don't know what to do, I feel more happy when I play without a worry, for fun to win, but not to be the next messi. I want to continue to play to be active, to be competitive, to make new friends and to find a healthy way to express my stress out of school. But with my dad around and the way he tries to push me and always talk about playing at university etc. I find myself more stressed than anything else and not happy. I have good grades and will go to university for sure btw. Its just the soccer part with my dad that bothers me. What should I do? :confused: