Something i dont really understand

[Bleppo]

Recently after thinking back on my time in high school i had a weird sort of realisation.

I dont know if this is a weird UK thing but it seemed like during puberty and high school in general, most guys i knew had a weird sort of resentment to the idea of being gay; sometimes theyd even go out of their way to insult that idea and reaffirm the fact they were straight.

Do you guys think theres something to explain why so many guys felt this way during puberty?

Im only asking because the more i scroll through the forums it seemes like the vast majority of people were incredibly open towards this sexuality, which is a polar opposite of my first hand experience.

Id love to hear what you think

[Tim the Enchanter]

Maybe cuz their afraid of being ousted socially and not liked anymore because that's what they think will happen. I don't know, just a thought man

[samuel15]

Never really thought about it, I'd say most of my friends have
A spash of homophobia and that's why they act that way.
Other then that I'm guessing most people want to be seen as
Manly and being "gay" is often seen as feminine and thus
They act like you mentioned.

[ska8er]

A lot of guys have to show others including
themselves that they r Straight or else their
world is going to come to an end. Those that
continue to emphasis this have a preoccupation
of what others may think of them that they r
less of a man. There r openly Gays that r true
to themselves and Bis that r closeted and then
others that still aren't sure But it seems a lot of
Straights always have to prove something. They
tend to bully those who tend to b different than
themselves.

[Zachary G]

Being gay is looked upon as being weak and less than, and being straight is looked up as being a man and being normal. We have a bigoted society to thank for this way of thinking because its wrong.

[CoryW]

Being gay is looked upon as being weak and less than, and being straight is looked up as being a man and being normal. We have a bigoted society to thank for this way of thinking because its wrong.
That's it.

[imanopenbook]

Being gay is looked upon as being weak and less than, and being straight is looked up as being a man and being normal. We have a bigoted society to thank for this way of thinking because its wrong.

That's it.

I think thats it. Its like society says that or that a lot of people anyway think that gay men are weaker than straight men. I think a lot of guys want to start proving they are men or manly so are more homophobic.

[Bleppo]

I guess everything you said is pretty accurate, ive just never assosiated being gay with anything negative, as far back as i can remember.

Just seemed like every other guy got some homophobic memo that i luckily missed out on. I wish soceity gets a whole lot more progressive which sure would make a lotta peoples lives better getting through high school.

[jamie_n5]

Well a lot of guys are so homophobic and have to appear macho because they think if they don't someone will tease or ridicule them. I have never really understood myself why a lot of guys do this. I am gay and I certainly don't fit the stereotype that a lot of guys think of being gay. I was a guard on my football team I am husky and strong and I have a deep strong voice. I have never been bothered or teased by other guys I know. I have seen what you have too guys having to assure to others that they are straight and no way gay. So I guess it's an insecure guy thing to do.

[fidgetykid]

Recently after thinking back on my time in high school i had a weird sort of realisation.

I dont know if this is a weird UK thing but it seemed like during puberty and high school in general, most guys i knew had a weird sort of resentment to the idea of being gay; sometimes theyd even go out of their way to insult that idea and reaffirm the fact they were straight.

Do you guys think theres something to explain why so many guys felt this way during puberty?

Im only asking because the more i scroll through the forums it seemes like the vast majority of people were incredibly open towards this sexuality, which is a polar opposite of my first hand experience.

Id love to hear what you think

i know exactly what you mean, in my school its the exact same thing if you admit your gay or even bi sexual everyone will laugh at you and look at you weirdly

[CoryW]

i know exactly what you mean, in my school its the exact same thing if you admit your gay or even bi sexual everyone will laugh at you and look at you weirdly
Same at my school

[fidgetykid]

Same at my school
good to know its not just in the uk then

[Spooky_Eli]

pardon my bluntness but there is a difference beentween being gay & being a fag, fag's are the stereotype and nobody wants to be seen as a fag and unfortanetly that is what meny fear thell be seen as

[Bleppo]

pardon my bluntness but there is a difference beentween being gay & being a fag, fag's are the stereotype and nobody wants to be seen as a fag and unfortanetly that is what meny fear thell be seen as

Well that sure is pretty blunt, I donf really understand what point youre making

[Spooky_Eli]

there is a pervasive stereotype going around that all gay people are like the crossdressing freak shows that apper at pride parades, and nobody wants to be seen as that(unless you do) and no parent wants to be associated with one, & nether does anyone else, no offense of course

[Sevro au Barca]

Yeah, it's like that a lot here too. I go to one of the most diverse, tolerant schools in my area of the country, and yet still come across people who'd rather sleep in a hotel bathtub than share a bed with another guy. I'm glad to say though, that while a lot of kids/teens try to do whatever it takes to try to prove that they're not gay, they seem to have a bit less visceral hate for those who are gay than the previous generation. Of course, that's a generation; I've come across more than a few blatant homophobes in my time.

[West Coast Sheriff]

I think thats it. Its like society says that or that a lot of people anyway think that gay men are weaker than straight men. I think a lot of guys want to start proving they are men or manly so are more homophobic.

I guess everything you said is pretty accurate, ive just never assosiated being gay with anything negative, as far back as i can remember.

Just seemed like every other guy got some homophobic memo that i luckily missed out on. I wish soceity gets a whole lot more progressive which sure would make a lotta peoples lives better getting through high school.

Pretty much this. To add a little, peer pressure and group mentality play a part. Insecurities in some guys cause them to be homophobic. When "high status" kids have homophopic remarks it is only natural for others to imitate them. People who don't want to be singled out get in on in because everyone else is(joining the bandwagon). Repeated and learned ideas from parents also.
No one wants to be seen as abnormal and people sacrifice principles to fit in.

[NewLeafsFan]

I remember that happening too. I think it is because we talk about sex with our friends a lot and we feel like we aren't coming from the same place if our sexuality is different. But ur right, even though I don't think there is anything wrong with being gay, somehow it seems offensive to be called gay. Maybe it implies a lack of masculinity that most guys pride themselves on having?

[Ragle]

I have a Muslim friend. He likes to go to our school because here he can feell free, he says.

At home he has to pretend to be a typicall allmuslim guy. Although his parents have nothing against gay folks. As long as none of their own kiids claimes to be gay.

[xXCaptainteemoXx]

Because being gay has a lot of negative social pressure that comes with it especially in high school. Most kids in high school think very rationally, so even if you don't care if others question your sexuality, they'll give you hell just for a slight possibility of being gay. So the easiest way of avoiding all of that stuff is too make sure no one thinks you're gay.

[user-999]

Well guys at that age are pretty immature and they want to assure you how manly they are. And Manly=straight. At least that's the stereotype.
It also is considered different and not the norm to be gay and nobody wants to be different at that age.