Age gap

[ssaars]

Just wondering how people feel about a 3.5 year age gap between people in a relationship.
I am in one since yesterday with the best guy ever. He's almost 19 and I'm 15
Is that something people are kinda "eh" about in general?

[samuel15]

I've been in relationship with a big age gap (3 years) and people are not 100% on board with it.
But if you are happy then I don't see a reason why you shouldn't be together with him.

[mick01]

I don't see any reason not to try it if you both really like each other. But it seems unlikely to last since there are different levels of interest at those ages.

[abcdeqwe]

I was in a relationship with a 1.5 year age gap. I was 15, he was 13. And that was actually to much for me, because we differed in maturity levels, but honestly it just depends on the person.

[ska8er]

I don't c anything wrong with the age
range as long as u love each other but
just don't get hurt.

[lliam]

He's almost 19 and I'm 15
Is that something people are kinda "eh" about in general?

15 but almost 16?

isn't such a big age gap ... in case of legal stuff, I guess .


Further on still good luck and all best with this best guy ever.

[ssaars]

15 but almost 16?

isn't such a big age gap ... in case of legal stuff, I guess .


Further on still good luck and all best with this best guy ever.

Nah turned 15 a few months ago, I'll turn 16 in December

Thanks tho!

[Zachary G]

I dont see anything wrong with a 3.5 year age gap. I have been in a relationship with someone who was about 6 yrs my senior. It had its ups and downs, but we made it work because we really cared for each other.

[CoryW]

Not sure if I'd want to be with a 19-20 year old. But that's just my opinion.

[Dmaxd123]

i think it's more about where you each are in life more than an actual date of birth.

as you get older the age gap expands as once you're out on your own you are both in the same stage of life

[WeebOOF]

My dad is 50 and my mum is 45, if that helps

[Croconaw]

I don’t see anything wrong with it. It can work.

[lliam]

Not sure if I'd want to be with a 19-20 year old. But that's just my opinion.


That's what I thought once. But you're just 14. With 16/17, your prospects may change very quickly with each passing year.

[Claire Asteroid]

My boyfriend is 22 and I'm 19

[SethfromMI]

I think the older you get, esp once you are both legally adults, the less it matters. I understand why someone would have a problem with an adult dating someone who was not even 16 yet (I am not saying you're wrong, I am just throwing that out there). I know there was a time when it would not have mattered and even in some countries still today. But if everyone in your situation is fine with it then it's ok.

[West Coast Sheriff]

Nothing wrong with the age gap. You are both teenagers.

[NewLeafsFan]

As a 19 year old, I would not date a 15 year old. Keep in mind that at this point in your life, 3.5 years is a lot of time. In 5 years when you are 20 and he's almost 23 no one would question it. Proceed with caution if you insist on doing so. Be understanding of your parents if they are worried about this situation, if I was your parent I would be concerned.

Also, if the relationship is sexual, you both need to look into laws of sexual consent where you live.

[Jinglebottom]

The gap in mine is almost 3 years (16 and 19) but it works fine. Yours is bit bigger though so it might be a bit more difficult to work out. Good luck.

[ssaars]

Thank you all :)

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Age gaps don't mean anything provided you don't let others bully you about it and you're a responsible person. If the relationship also puts you and your SO in a legal/illegal zone, you should be very careful.

I started dating my partner at 17 and he was 24, and there are still no issues, you just have to be mature and responsible.

[Martainfey96]

Maybe it's different in Europe, but in the states the 19 year old would be thrown in jail and listed as a sexual offender. It would probably be best to wait until you are at the legal age of consent to not cause issues because even dating him could be legally wrong.

[Ama-Uwana]

i don't see anything wrong with it. my friend (19 yr old) is dating a 15 year old.

[Ella...]

I think it just depends on the maturity of the people involved, if you two and your parents are fine with it then thats great. Like other people said, the only sketchy thing is the legal part.

[PrincessCassie]

I dont think its an issue. As long as youre both ok with it

[Beach_Blonde]

The only time I get cringy about an age gap is when its like an 18-19 year old with a 13 year old. I try and maintain a 4-5 year gap. My state is 16-24 is legal (or thats what ive been told) so they give us 8 years I try and stick to 4.

[Harrier]

Just wondering how people feel about a 3.5 year age gap between people in a relationship.
I am in one since yesterday with the best guy ever. He's almost 19 and I'm 15
Is that something people are kinda "eh" about in general?

Thank you all :)

That's ok. I'm a senior who is a year older than all of my class mates (gonna be 19 in a month), and a few freshman are a year younger than they are supposed to be (some won't be 14 till late summer). And I could potentially see myself dating someone that young. But that would be pretty extreme. Really 2 years is about the most I can see myself dating older or younger. But as long as it's legal and you have stuff in common I say go for it.

Are you two still dating? Do you go to the same school or not?

[Just JT]

Think it’s really a legal thing than anything else
He’s putting himself out there to be arrested and make a huge impact on his future...legally....
Aside from that if your both making each other happy then roll with it
Just be careful for his sake

[Alumni]

I'd say 3-4.5 years is ideally the place for me where I'd feel comfortable dating someone.

If someone was 17-18 and I was 15-16, that'd be the ideal spot. Unless it's like a minor dating an adult (say 25 on 16) then I'd take issue with it, but even that, it's none of my business.

[ssaars]

That's ok. I'm a senior who is a year older than all of my class mates (gonna be 19 in a month), and a few freshman are a year younger than they are supposed to be (some won't be 14 till late summer). And I could potentially see myself dating someone that young. But that would be pretty extreme. Really 2 years is about the most I can see myself dating older or younger. But as long as it's legal and you have stuff in common I say go for it.

Are you two still dating? Do you go to the same school or not?

Yeah we are, we're in the same band, that's how we met.

Think it’s really a legal thing than anything else
He’s putting himself out there to be arrested and make a huge impact on his future...legally....
Aside from that if your both making each other happy then roll with it
Just be careful for his sake

Yeah I dunno, here there are other laws since the legal age is 16, which is pretty low. Not there yet, but oh well. We'll watch out. Don't really think people here would mind too much

[Sofiya02]

I don’t think it’s a problem as long as you like each other

[Chrisbm]

My parents are 3 years apart so I think it’s ok.

[scottishlooby]

I think as long as you are both happy and in a good place then it's not a big deal. I think it totally depends on both people though as I know 18 year olds who you would swear were 14 by the way they act. Also 15 and 18 is totally different from 15 and 12 for example so it's all relative

[Atlantis]

Personally, I think a 3.5 year age gap, especially during teen years, is a little too big. When you're in your 20s/30s + that kind of age gap is relatively small, but maturity levels can vary wildly at this age so I would rather stick with someone closer to my age. But that's just me.

[Jordan99]

Age differences become less of an issue as we get older. My dad is 10 years older than my mom. Of course he couldn't have dated her when he was 20 and she was 10. I don't see a problem with a 15 year old and 19 year old having a relationship however, depending on the laws where you live, a 19 year old could be guilty of statutory rape if the girl is under a certain age. In California I think the age of consent is 18...unbelievable! In most states, I think the age of consent is 16 but, there are also "Romeo and Juliet" statutes that can prevent prosecution if the age difference is 2 years or less.

[heyyymatt]

Nothing wrong with it if you are both comfortable and happy

[ShineintheDark]

It's very much a matter of maturity. If you're under the age of consent, I don't suggest having a sexual relationship as that would technically make your bf a sex offender. Otherwise, as long as you both agree to have an appropriate level of intimacy for your legal age, I don't see what problems can occur. Of course, an age gap of 3.5 years can be different depending on the age of those in it. I'd have concern if a 13 year old was dating a 10 year old but if a 45 year old and 42 year old were dating, it'd be perfectly normal. The teen years are just a weird time in terms of maturity so things can get complicated with age gaps.

[Kiki03]

I get that bc guys my age arent as mature. I find myself looking at older guys a lot.

[BlindSniperrr]

as for me then the difference in 3 years is nothing. for about 5-10 years, at least this is the difference

[ceto2]

There is 3 years diffent but we only friends but I want ask him out we r 3 roads away from each other

[VirtUalAwsomeD4N_]

I have been in a relationship where there was an age gap and it was just the same as being in a relationship with someone of the same age