Who takes the check?

[Stronk Serb]

Okay, so this is predominantly targeted at heterosexual relations. Who pays the bill? The guy, or the girl?

I pay like 95% of the time. The 5% is when I am penniless, or we share the cost. I don't know why I do it, I was kinda raised that way, to treat girls nice.

[Jinglebottom]

In my opinion you should pay on the first few dates, but when you're in a committed relationship I don't think you have to go out of your way to pay the bill every time. The girl shouldn't care at that point either.

[Ethan19]

I was raised so I'd always pay the bill, so in my opinion male always pays. But, I'm not saying you shouldn't split if they insist on paying

[mick01]

It's been my experience that I would offer to pay every time but my gf didn't want me paying 100% of the time so she paid often as well.

[Jake445]

Not that I really have relationship experience on that topic, but when my twin sister and I go to eat somewhere etc. we always split the bill.

[ska8er]

I learned from experience to pay for my girl
but if she insists we come to the agreement
that we go half and half. If the date is at a
sit down restaurant or pizza shop and we r
being served-she pays the tip but I always
offer to pay the whole amount. If I did not
have any money I wouldn't even think of
taking a girl out.

[Stronk Serb]

In my opinion you should pay on the first few dates, but when you're in a committed relationship I don't think you have to go out of your way to pay the bill every time. The girl shouldn't care at that point either.

I was raised so I'd always pay the bill, so in my opinion male always pays. But, I'm not saying you shouldn't split if they insist on paying

It's been my experience that I would offer to pay every time but my gf didn't want me paying 100% of the time so she paid often as well.

Not that I really have relationship experience on that topic, but when my twin sister and I go to eat somewhere etc. we always split the bill.

I learned from experience to pay for my girl
but if she insists we come to the agreement
that we go half and half. If the date is at a
sit down restaurant or pizza shop and we r
being served-she pays the tip but I always
offer to pay the whole amount. If I did not
have any money I wouldn't even think of
taking a girl out.

So we in general agree, it would be interesting to get a girl's opinion on this.

[Croconaw]

I’m a lesbian so this doesn’t really apply to me. I’d actually prefer to pay because I want to be the masculine one in the relationship.

[Ella...]

I've never been on a date before, but I would expect the guy to pay just because that's the view I've been raised on. But if he wasn't making any move to pay, or I knew he was low on money I would offer to pay it or split the bill.

[abcdeqwe]

I'm single now, but we would split the check because we are both the man in the relationship lol

[samuel15]

In my opinion you should pay on the first few dates, but when you're in a committed relationship I don't think you have to go out of your way to pay the bill every time. The girl shouldn't care at that point either.

I wholeheartedly agree with you! and from experiance: after a while I pay only half the time

[CoryW]

If you invite someone you should get the check.

[Sailor Mars]

If you invite someone you should get the check.

This. If you ask someone out, you should pay. If it becomes a normal thing, I’d say 50/50. Me n my ex did 50/50 the few times we went out, even tho he insisted on paying. And the times I’ve gone out with friends (not dates) we just pay for our own stuff

[yeehaw]

For actual dates, we take the check alternately. Since we try to go on actual dates monthly, for instance, he paid this month and I’ll pay next month.

When it comes down to fast food and drinks and little supermarket food, I normally tend to pay because he literally drives me everywhere, so I pay for his food rather than paying for his fuel. It’s only really fair, since I have more money saved up in the bank than he does and sometimes he can only afford to run his car and nothing else. If he gets a good paycheck or he knows that I didn’t get a very good paycheck we sometimes half it, like I’ll get the food and he’ll get the drinks.

[ImagineRepublicCity]

Unless you are mature people with full time jobs, I think the bill should always be split half and half. If you're unable to (due to restaurants enforcing a no split bill policy) I would either go "I pay 1, you pay 1" meal thing or transfer half the bill to the others account.

It could possibly be due to my upbringing, but I really can't handle the thought of someone pretty much being forced to pay for my meal. If someone (e.g. a family at a restaurant) was paying for several others, I would be okay with it, but if it's just dates, no way.

If you've been dating for awhile, I think this would still apply but not as strongly.

[Melodic]

I'm pretty modern when it comes to dating. I do feel the person who asks the other individual on the date should be the one to pay but both people should offer to pay regardless because it's polite.

[Tyler97]

The guy should probably pay, if the girl asked the guy out, then maybe she should pay, in today's world of everything is equal makes this a tough one.

[jamie_n5]

I think that the guy should pay at least at the beginning of a relationship then maybe you could share or switch off paying. In a gay dating thing I think it would be proper for the person asking for the date to pay at the beginning too.

[mattsmith48]

What jamie_n5 said about gay relationship also applies to straight ones where at the beginning the person who asked for the date should be the one paying, the reason our society tells us the guy should pay is because our society tells us the guy should be the one making the first move and ask out the girl.

With my gf we just take turns paying.

[Stronk Serb]

What jamie_n5 said about gay relationship also applies to straight ones where at the beginning the person who asked for the date should be the one paying, the reason our society tells us the guy should pay is because our society tells us the guy should be the one making the first move and ask out the girl.

With my gf we just take turns paying.

Here it is expected of the guy to pay. Also rationally it makes sense for me to pay because I have a job, she doesn't.

[NewLeafsFan]

Treating a girl well should not require you to pay every time. Any girl worth your time will understand that. Sit her down and have a conversation about how you feel about always paying. She may feel that it would be impolite to argue over the bill or she might consider it your duty. Either way, you need to know what you're going up against.