My bf is an idiot

[Jay_Swagg_LOL]

He just came back from the Detention Center, and he just got suspended. Last week was semester exams, and he got suspended on the last day. Not tomention that he was smoking in the bathroom (-_- ')

we just got together after confessing to each other, but he's so fucking stupid :( I really love him and don't want to leave him, so what do I do?

[PinkFloyd]

I think you should have a serious conversation with him about his behavior because it's definitely had an impact on your relationship.

[ninja789]

yeah I have gone down this sort of road with a girl and it really hurt
if you don't want him doing that kind of stuff so bad you don't want to date him then make him choose between you and being and idiot

[Karkat]

I think you should have a serious conversation with him about his behavior because it's definitely had an impact on your relationship.

I agree with this. If it seems like he's having a PROBLEM, and you love and care about him, try to help him through it. But either way, it seems like you two really need to talk. (I'm probably a little biased to this because I'm kind of trouble myself :< It makes me feel guilty that I do these things to my boyfriend, but I just have to tell myself that I'm going through a lot right now, and I just need to work on making myself a better person.)

[ScottishCanary]

I would say you need to have a serious chat with your boyfriend about his behaviour and the way it affects you. I can understand you wanting to make it work if you love him but you can't risk getting dragged in to that life. Trust me I have seen people get dragged into the idiotic life by partners. It may be that you have to let him go to keep yourself safe and happy long term.

[ksdnfkfr]

I'd say if he isn't treating you wrong to personally, then stand by him.
But let him know that you are getting close to pushed to a braking point.

[Jay_Swagg_LOL]

I would say you need to have a serious chat with your boyfriend about his behaviour and the way it affects you. I can understand you wanting to make it work if you love him but you can't risk getting dragged in to that life. Trust me I have seen people get dragged into the idiotic life by partners. It may be that you have to let him go to keep yourself safe and happy long term.

I've always been one to put my loved ones before myself. I have enough self-control not to do any of the things he does, and he knows not to even ask me.

I'd say if he isn't treating you wrong to personally, then stand by him.
But let him know that you are getting close to pushed to a braking point.

He's actually really loving towards me. He's not afraid to be public with it neither -_-

I'm not getting mad at him or anything, it's just that I don't wanna see something really bad happen to him.

[ksdnfkfr]

He's actually really loving towards me. He's not afraid to be public with it neither -_-

I'm not getting mad at him or anything, it's just that I don't wanna see something really bad happen to him.

Right you are getting understandably stressed out over concern for him.
Like if he does not care about it for himself, he should care about the toll it is taking on you.

[Karkat]

I'm not getting mad at him or anything, it's just that I don't wanna see something really bad happen to him.

This reminds me of my boyfriend, my ex fiance, most of my friends :(

From the side of someone who is kind of in the position of your boyfriend, is he trying to stop? Or does he still blatantly do it?

If he's not willing to try and change for you, I'd simply straight up tell him that if you love someone, you try your best not to hurt them like that.

Unfortunately I'm pretty sure 90% of the people I'm close to have turned into one giant, collective codependent, in a way, and that really bothers me...But I can't bring myself to just cut them off for their own good. It's selfish, but I need them. :( Kind of makes me want to jump off of a cliff, to be honest, but what good what that solve anyone?

[Dwemer]

Its a very tough situatin. U love them, U care for them and want the best for them. But in the end its there lives, if they dont wanne change u can accept it or leave them be :(

Its not worth getting yourself down or in trouble if they dont wanne listen or need help.
I know its easier said then done I too have bene in the situation and I never let them go untill they let me go.