coming out to people

[brookline1254]

hi there sorry took this down

[Alex_3869]

If you feel comfortable just don't hide your sexuality. If you have a big enough group of people who support you and love you for who you are, then it doesn't matter what other people think. Just make sure you have enough people to lean on when other people are trying to tear you down.

[backjruton]

Last month was the day I told my best friend that I was gay an I been waiting to tell him for 2 years we are very close but the problem is I hide my true identity when I'm around other people and I have told 6 more people in the past month (close friends) what should I do

I personally think you shouldn't hide your sexuality because I think that can cause even more problems for yourself mentally if you do. It's just another bottled up emotion; normally people are told not to bottle up emotions as it can cause them to struggle, and I think with sexuality this is the same.

Today I actually told THE guy I have an attraction to that I'm attracted to him because I just wanted to get it off my chest. Everyone in my college group knows my sexuality already because I told them all within the first month of starting, and I was doing fine until around 2 weeks ago when my friend asked me which guy in the class I want to kiss and do other stuff with, I just ticked then and said "Don't ask me that because I don't want to bug anyone" instead of actually telling him. But yesterday he grabbed my cheek, in more of the friendly way, and saying "Haha, I've always wanted to do that" and I didn't say anything then either... but today he saw the work I was doing in the printing room that said "Demonic Princess" then asked "...are you gay?" in a jokey way. I then told him I think it should be obvious, and once again he asked who I want to go out with and do stuff with again... I said the same thing and when he said to me "But I won't tell anyone..." I then just felt I had to tell him and luckily he doesn't seem bothered, he actually laughed and luckily didn't start ignoring me after; most likely because he's been expecting for a while... but I don't know :D I asked him to grab my cheek again, because I'm still trying to see what sets me off, and it gave me an immediate erection which I guess clearly shows the way I feel and that I'm not lying to people when I say that I'm gay and that I'm attracted to him...(?)

I think people like me more because I've told them but I'm not too sure on that. If you think you should tell people, just tell people, or it will just cause more problems for you if you end up getting into situations you'd rather not get in to... :yeah:

[ATOMICskittles]

Well truly you have to be comfortable with your own sexuality first. Being gay too, I just tell people. At age 13 I am openly gay and I never dread about coming out to people, I usually just talk about it at random and it happens. At first, always come out to people who you want to know.