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Compy386
March 8th, 2014, 10:19 PM
Hey guys,

I wanted to ask all of you for advice on this situation I'm dealing with, and help would be greatlyyyy appreciated. So I'm dating this boy (I'm gay, probably obvious) who's 14 (almost 15) and an 8th grader. I'm 16, and a sophomore in high school. So we've been dating for like 4 months at this point, and I met him online, but he only lives an hour away. Seen him a couple times under the guise of roller skating and such, but his grandma (who he lives with) hatesss gay people, and unfortunately (I'm convinced it's my fault) he's out to her which means a lot less trust between them, which in turn means we can't really see each other under normal circumstances. What I need help with is ways to see him, ways that would require minimal involvement from his grandmother and the maximum time spent with him as possible and as regularly as possible. I know I'm asking a lot, but again, I would really appreciate any help. He lives in the country around Griffin, Georgia, and I live in Atlanta (not sure if any of you are from Georgia). Any suggestion as to what he can say to his grandmother or as to what we could possibly do together would be super awesome. Any questions about our situation you may need answered, please ask. Thank you everyone!!!!!

Liii
March 9th, 2014, 08:52 AM
Can't he just pretend to meet another friend?
Or he can talk to her and tell her he's going to find a way to meet you anyway so she just has to accept that.

ksdnfkfr
March 9th, 2014, 09:11 AM
Tell her you both found Jesus and went straight?
Is there some way he can travel by bus?
Or you could get a ride to the area where he lives and he could meet up with you?

JamesSuperBoy
March 9th, 2014, 09:32 AM
I can only check google maps so maybe is it 40 - 50 miles apart - maybe you could meet up half way so you each spend a little time traveling --

Compy386
March 9th, 2014, 11:49 PM
To everyone who responded--thank you! To answer questions, his grandma doesn't trust him anymore (I assume because of the gayness?) so any traveling by him wouldn't really work UNLESS there was some kind of guise. And I can see him decently often (1-2 times per month) I was just wondering if the community had any ideas for more regular, maybe less suspicious activities we could do. And I seriously wish he could just tell her and it be ok but I think it would end badly... For him. She can get intense (southern baptist from the 50's and 60's). Thank you everyone for your ideas, I really REALLY appreciate it!

Mini
March 10th, 2014, 12:08 AM
Showing her that you both love each other and that nothing, even her, would break it could change her mind.

Or you can do what Kashmir said and that you both found Jesus and became straight :P