Aventzger
February 27th, 2018, 09:47 AM
Hey everyone,
I last posted about this friend I had who wanted to cheat on his boyfriend earlier in the month. (Link to that thread here: http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=2043169 )
Even though many of my friends and I were upset with the words he said and some have told me to ignore and stay away from him, I feel that there's more than meets the eye. Hence, I continued to chat with him and soon he sort of opened up to me about his school life.
He describes himself as a"meek" person and from what I have noticed in my chats with him is that he has a short temper. When he loses it, he shouts at people, ignores his friends, pushes and shoves people including his teachers and have extremely violent thoughts such as shooting them or crushing their heads against a wall.
I questioned him on why he does such actions towards his peers and teachers and if he feels any remorse/regret. He told me saying that he doesn't know why and thinks its just him being normal in venting his frustration on others. As for ignoring his peers, he said he'd feel bad for a second or so before brushing it aside.
He's currently in an all boys school which he is not happy being in. He doesn't like the environment and feels its not conducive for his learning. He spoke to his parents regarding his desire to transfer and his parents told him off saying that "he chose to be distracted." This left him feeling rather livid and he will resort to "Unorthodox methods" to get the transfer form signed and he is prepared to face the consequences no matter what. He really wants out of that school.
I warned him about the perils of forgery as that's what I suspect what he'd do. Every single time he tells me about another anger outburst he had in school, it really makes my heart ache for some unfathomable reason. I almost in a way feel his pain when he talks about how he punched his classmate after his classmate kicked him in the leg for no reason. And as much as he assures me that he has the mental resilience to control himself, I am worried that he will snap beyond measure. Thankfully, due to my country having personal firearms outlawed, I can have the peace of mind that he will not be shooting up his school. But that doesn't rule out a knife attack.
It sent shivers down my spine when he told me he throws darts at pictures of his teachers and peers that he dislikes and keeps a Death Note-esque book with names of people he dislikes and the brutal way that they will die.
I offered my assistance and suggested to him that he bring a stress ball to school as a coping device whenever he is angry.
Now, at some point while reading this, you may wonder why am so emotionally invested (to the point where my studies get affected) in this friend. Even though we never spoke face to face, we do know how each other look like and having a face to a person really humanises everything.
He aspires to be a policeman and seeing him chat when he is happier makes me feel like he's being shackled by a lot of negative thoughts and emotions (such as his parents downplaying his dream to be a police officer) and if I were to remove whatever that is keeping him in such a state, he would be a happier person and able to reach his goals.
So ending off, anyone got any ideas on how should I help him? (He said had he gone to another school, he would been a lot happier.) Or am I just being an over attached busybody of a friend?
I last posted about this friend I had who wanted to cheat on his boyfriend earlier in the month. (Link to that thread here: http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=2043169 )
Even though many of my friends and I were upset with the words he said and some have told me to ignore and stay away from him, I feel that there's more than meets the eye. Hence, I continued to chat with him and soon he sort of opened up to me about his school life.
He describes himself as a"meek" person and from what I have noticed in my chats with him is that he has a short temper. When he loses it, he shouts at people, ignores his friends, pushes and shoves people including his teachers and have extremely violent thoughts such as shooting them or crushing their heads against a wall.
I questioned him on why he does such actions towards his peers and teachers and if he feels any remorse/regret. He told me saying that he doesn't know why and thinks its just him being normal in venting his frustration on others. As for ignoring his peers, he said he'd feel bad for a second or so before brushing it aside.
He's currently in an all boys school which he is not happy being in. He doesn't like the environment and feels its not conducive for his learning. He spoke to his parents regarding his desire to transfer and his parents told him off saying that "he chose to be distracted." This left him feeling rather livid and he will resort to "Unorthodox methods" to get the transfer form signed and he is prepared to face the consequences no matter what. He really wants out of that school.
I warned him about the perils of forgery as that's what I suspect what he'd do. Every single time he tells me about another anger outburst he had in school, it really makes my heart ache for some unfathomable reason. I almost in a way feel his pain when he talks about how he punched his classmate after his classmate kicked him in the leg for no reason. And as much as he assures me that he has the mental resilience to control himself, I am worried that he will snap beyond measure. Thankfully, due to my country having personal firearms outlawed, I can have the peace of mind that he will not be shooting up his school. But that doesn't rule out a knife attack.
It sent shivers down my spine when he told me he throws darts at pictures of his teachers and peers that he dislikes and keeps a Death Note-esque book with names of people he dislikes and the brutal way that they will die.
I offered my assistance and suggested to him that he bring a stress ball to school as a coping device whenever he is angry.
Now, at some point while reading this, you may wonder why am so emotionally invested (to the point where my studies get affected) in this friend. Even though we never spoke face to face, we do know how each other look like and having a face to a person really humanises everything.
He aspires to be a policeman and seeing him chat when he is happier makes me feel like he's being shackled by a lot of negative thoughts and emotions (such as his parents downplaying his dream to be a police officer) and if I were to remove whatever that is keeping him in such a state, he would be a happier person and able to reach his goals.
So ending off, anyone got any ideas on how should I help him? (He said had he gone to another school, he would been a lot happier.) Or am I just being an over attached busybody of a friend?