Confused

[Laxguy15]

Idk if this really goes here but oh well

For the past couple months I haven't really been myself and its bothering me and some of my friends are really worried. I've had a crush but not like others, this one is different, it's on a guy. I'm straight but I'm really conflicted and I was wondering if its just hormones or is it something else. I really just don't wanna feel like this anymore, any response would help, thanks.

[noah.whynot]

Well I guess this could be any number of things. First, maybe it's more of a "bromance" kind of thing; you're straight, but he's really cool so you find yourself thinking about him and wanting to hang out with him and whatever. Maybe it's hormones and it's a real crush, you like him, maybe you're a little attracted to him. Crushes can feel overwhelming, but the good news is that in most cases crushes don't last. Or maybe there's part of you that's attracted to guys as well as girls. Or you're discovering that you're more into guys. Really hard to say based on limited information. When you say you don't want to feel this way, do you mean that aching feeling because the person you're crushing on doesn't know and you don't know if they feel the same way? Or is the the same-sex part of it that's bothering you? The thing is, there's no real way to control how you feel about someone and who'll be attracted to. Probably best if you can just chill about it and let is pass. Or do something about it and find out if it's something real.

[jamie_n5]

Well I guess this could be any number of things. First, maybe it's more of a "bromance" kind of thing; you're straight, but he's really cool so you find yourself thinking about him and wanting to hang out with him and whatever. Maybe it's hormones and it's a real crush, you like him, maybe you're a little attracted to him. Crushes can feel overwhelming, but the good news is that in most cases crushes don't last. Or maybe there's part of you that's attracted to guys as well as girls. Or you're discovering that you're more into guys. Really hard to say based on limited information. When you say you don't want to feel this way, do you mean that aching feeling because the person you're crushing on doesn't know and you don't know if they feel the same way? Or is the the same-sex part of it that's bothering you? The thing is, there's no real way to control how you feel about someone and who'll be attracted to. Probably best if you can just chill about it and let is pass. Or do something about it and find out if it's something real.

I agree here with noah.whynot. He pretty much hit everything right on the money. You just have to do what you feel is right for you. Your at an age where you are really curious and would like to experiment some.

[azurzg]

I've had a crush but not like others, this one is different, it's on a guy.

Exactly the same happened to me, exactly at your age!

[Ckro]

I think you should not worry that this time is a guy, it might be just a phase or if you find out to actually like boys as well. Well you’ll like boys as well, not that something bad is going to happen

[NewLeafsFan]

I can't possibly go inside your brain and figure out exactly what your feelings and sexuality includes.

The only advice that I can give you is the same as every crush that you don't plan on following through with. Don't let it effect your life negatively. Do the things that you would normally do. Go out with friends, study for school, don't shut yourself down. Also, don't let this become an obsession. I know that it's hard but shutting yourself out from the world can only add to this.

[INACTIVEchaosphere]

Idk if this really goes here but oh well

For the past couple months I haven't really been myself and its bothering me and some of my friends are really worried. I've had a crush but not like others, this one is different, it's on a guy. I'm straight but I'm really conflicted and I was wondering if its just hormones or is it something else. I really just don't wanna feel like this anymore, any response would help, thanks.

This kinda thing can happen a lot, especially to younger guys, they mix idealization with romance. Basically wanting to be someone or be like someone gets translated by the brain as wanting to be with someone. It can be something that is transient or it can be the start of you liking guys too, either way is allowed, valid, and okay.