I don't know what to think...

[Thedukeoftrumpet]

So, there's this guy in my class that I've known for a couple years, and on valentines day we were talking (instead of working) and he asks me what I'm doing for lunch that day, and after my response (hanging out with friends), he invites me to lunch. I say yes and after class we head out. So after lunch we stop at a store (to buy snacks for later) and he buys me some gummy valentines day hearts. They were tasty. And then as we were heading back he comes out (pansexual) to me. I'm not sure what to think. Was it a date? It was very casual and like a normal time with a friend, but I don't know... I haven't been able to talk to him because he's been sick, but am I overreacting? I've never dated before so I just don't know...

[lliam]

On a real date, everyone involved knows that the meeting is a date. In that sense, it's up to you to decide on your own whether it was a date or not.

Of course, you could also ask your friend directly how he defines it.


Based on your description, I would say it wasn't a date ... and those gummy hearts may have been simply a spontaneous valentines gift out of ... a gut feeling or such.

[Jake445]

You could ask him if he thought of it as a date, ask sensibly though.
Or if you liked the thought of it being a date invite him out again and see when it goes!

[jamie_n5]

I don't see that as a date. I see it as more of getting to know each other better. Did he make any type of move or act or talk to you where he was romantically interested in you? Also are you gay or bi and have any interest in him romantically? I would just be a friend and see if you can read him better or see if he makes a move or if you are interested in him you could make the first move. Time will tell.

[StacyD]

Yeah, not a date. If you're interested in this guy, tell him. Find out if he is interested in pursuing a relationship. Obviously he's confiding in you, so it means he has at least some interest in at least being open and close with you (unless he's just going around blabbing this to everyone he sees on the street of course). But the key with anything, communicate. No sense being left to wonder and guess and if it turns out he's not, at least you'll know.

[Ethan19]

I don't think it was a date in the typical sense, for sure. However, that's not to say this wasn't his idea of going out with you somewhere and then treating you. Everyone has different perceptions of what a date is or should be, so that cant really be judged. I think what he did was cute and, if it had happened to me, I'd take it as a hint (at least) that maybe this person likes me and that maybe the thing we just did meant a little more than lunch. I'd also consider the manner they gave the sweets, if it was a jokey way, just tossed to you etc. A lot of people don't like to be obvious with their intent straight away out of fear, could simply be that. But there's also like a million other options it could be.
I say if you like the guy back, but him something like that and give it to him and see how he acts. Plus, if he's a friend, it's not weird to go visit an I'll friend with a gift.

[NewLeafsFan]

If you don't know if it was a date or not we certainly aren't going to know. Communication is very important even from the very beginning. If I was to guess I would say that it was a date. I wouldn't buy a random person anything, but I might buy a person I liked heart shaped candies on Valentine's Day.